posted January 14, 2011 01:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I got the picture of Gem.I think he is sweet.He tries to be a good person .
I think he is.

I ,just,think it will not be a deep,love affair.
For me, that is ALL *I* am interested in so my posts are colored by that.
If I cannot have a deep love affair,I would rather have nothing.

Each person is at a different space and time in his/her life.

I want to qualify that about me ,though,so you know from where *I* am coming

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I hear ya.. I just want to know.. Its been killing me for 10 years... lol

posted January 14, 2011 02:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:

I sometimes call him, but rarely.. I have made an effort with him, the few times we have seen each other was because of me asking.. This was the 2nd time he asked to see me.. But 3 months apart... lol

@Ag... Im relax.. There is just a lot of history between us... This is an ex from 12 years ago, that I reconnected with again during the last venus rx... So we are kind of starting off, from where we left off at.. We both went in with a bang, then backed off... but go back... He's very hard to forget about also, since we have this history.. and we were together it was fabulous!! Just an awesome connection.. But im not sure if it will be the same... [/B]

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Mostly all my BF's were Gemini and I lived with one for nearly ten years. We were very different and we learn eachothers way. He tought me A LOT!

But one thing about Gemini that will never work for me is exactly the joke thing when I'm trying to talk serious!
All I tell, cry or scream enter in his ears at 100 Km per hour and leaves at 200! lol
He stays quiet till the end and turns and says: have you finnish?!
rrrrrr...Argue with me please! It's all I can say...
All the problems in the relationship remained coz there's no deep communication on his side.
So, or I would keep winning forever and become bitter and miserable or I just ignore the all thing and pretend all is fine like he does! It went by that order and ended with me leaving...
I needed bit more attention and TLC which he couldn't satisfy!
And that's it, we may love someone very much but if your not satisfied you'll end up breaking.

I felt I was doing all the effort and trying to sort things out by talking, it seems to me that you are on the same boat! I got tired girl!

Never I had a case when going back to an ex-BF that was successful, though It's someting that pulls us in. we must give it a try and give the benefit of doubt...

Unsatisfation is what makes us try again, we don't obcess over the old happy relationships do we? Only the heart breaks...

In my life there's no more space for the old, only the new! That was a hard lesson for me.

posted January 14, 2011 02:42 PM            

Gemini will prolly be a fun relationship but will not last beyond the fun stage.It may last longer than the fun stage but will prolly not be satisfying--long term.

To me,I would not bother with something like that but that is just me.

If *I* were you,I would try to figure out WHAT to do to get a real thing going with Pisces.
Write to me---all the details.Maybe ,I can feel something.
I am reaching out more with psychic things so maybe I can help.
Also, send me the synastry,again.
I am sorry.I don't have it.

WHAT is with Pisces that he won't go forward?

Hmmmmm
Perhaps, you can break through whatever it is.

posted January 14, 2011 04:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I am gonna try to feel WHAT is the deal with Pisces.
WHY won't he go forward.
I KNOW he cares a lot.

Gemini will prolly be a fun relationship but will not last beyond the fun stage.It may last longer than the fun stage but will prolly not be satisfying--long term.

To me,I would not bother with something like that but that is just me.

If *I* were you,I would try to figure out WHAT to do to get a real thing going with Pisces.
Write to me---all the details.Maybe ,I can feel something.
I am reaching out more with psychic things so maybe I can help.
Also, send me the synastry,again.
I am sorry.I don't have it.

WHAT is with Pisces that he won't go forward?

Hmmmmm
Perhaps, you can break through whatever it is.

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Ami... Hon I know you mean well.. but I cant do this anymore with him.. I have completely and totally given up... I feel betrayed in a way...... He's the only thing that can change my mind, and that would consists of him coming to me and saying something.. Which he WONT.. I know he never will... I dont want to see or have any contact with him, whats so ever.. I know hes going to text me next week.. No telling what I will say.... But Im not going to do this, this way any more...

You can help me, by helping me move past him... Encourage me to move on... I dont want to sit on hope or a maybe anymore.... This is extremely hard.. Especially with the moon/pluto... I know he cares in his own way.. but its not enough... I cant do this to myself any more....

I have to walk away, for my own sanity here... No more contact, no more texts, looks, pet names.. nothing... Not even friends...

As for Gem, yeah what ever happens happens.. I have no expecations either way...

posted January 14, 2011 04:17 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Ok
I am SORRY Lioness
I did not mean to add to your pain.
I will not say another word in that painful direction.
I am so sorry ,again ((((Lioness)))

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posted January 15, 2011 09:52 PM            

I did reply but I just said ....cool..

posted January 16, 2011 11:38 AM            

Dont worry about me.. I knew he would text me, so I was expecting it.. I replied with just one word..
Which I know he was prob like whats up with her???
I think tomorrow hes going to try and come and talk to me, thats going to be hard... But anyways, I will just play it by ear...

posted January 16, 2011 12:43 PM            

I would have gone cold and ****** off if you'd reacted to me like that too. It's not that we can't answer the question, but we just hate when people try to invade our minds and/or superimpose emotions/thoughts onto us. We don't like to share and open up to ANYONE. We like that space. It makes us feel free. If we lose that freedom, we feel like we lose ourselves and we can't give that much to anyone, no matter how much we love them.

I mean, think about it in reverse. What if you were reaching out, probably interested in someone, and just want to spend time and then you were suddenly accused of 10 things and asked questions. Just try to put yourself in his shoes too. I dunno....

I'm not sure what he did to you. If it's something REALLY bad, why even call him again? If it's something that isn't too bad, but just hurt you or ****** you off... okay. But either way, you should make up your mind or you WILL be hurt again. If we feel someone isn't sure or get the IDEA that someone is playing with us/using us, we will play right back and usually win to the pain of others. :\ So just think about it and make a FIRM decision.

For me, personally, I've never been able to be in a relationship with a Leo or even stand being around them minus one or two Leo female friends. I just don't see it because Leo's just make me want to hide back into myself and resist when they try to drag things out of me.

posted January 16, 2011 01:42 PM            

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You think it's ego, because you would probably react that way coming from your "ego" as well being a Leo. But it's not that.

I would have gone cold and ****** off if you'd reacted to me like that too. It's not that we can't answer the question, but we just hate when people try to invade our minds and/or superimpose emotions/thoughts onto us. We don't like to share and open up to ANYONE. We like that space. It makes us feel free. If we lose that freedom, we feel like we lose ourselves and we can't give that much to anyone, no matter how much we love them.

I mean, think about it in reverse. What if you were reaching out, probably interested in someone, and just want to spend time and then you were suddenly accused of 10 things and asked questions. Just try to put yourself in his shoes too. I dunno....

I'm not sure what he did to you. If it's something REALLY bad, why even call him again? If it's something that isn't too bad, but just hurt you or ****** you off... okay. But either way, you should make up your mind or you WILL be hurt again. If we feel someone isn't sure or get the IDEA that someone is playing with us/using us, we will play right back and usually win to the pain of others. :\ So just think about it and make a FIRM decision.

For me, personally, I've never been able to be in a relationship with a Leo or even stand being around them minus one or two Leo female friends. I just don't see it because Leo's just make me want to hide back into myself and resist when they try to drag things out of me.

A Libra might be better for you. They are much more into partnership and giving than either Aqua and Gemini who need their space.

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Im confused are you talking about Gem or Pisces? I think you have the stories a little mixed up...

Im highly Uranus so I give lots of space.. And need it also.. I havent accused anyone of anything, actually its been the reversed way.. I have been accused of everything under the sun...

As for Gem, this is a long story that goes back 12 years... He literally broke my heart back then. Its affected even to this day.. But I guess we both feel like we need to "try" to make things work with us, so we keep going back and fourth... No matter what I know this man will always be in my life..
We spent 2 years him coming to me asking me to be with him, and then me rejecting him, and then me going to him, wanting to be with him, then he rejecting me..
Now we try, but its not an urgency, neither of us say anything, yet we still try.. We see each other when we can.. But I think deep down inside, both of us know we just wont be able to make it work, yet we still try... Im not pulling away from Gem, we see have contact with each other, when we can.. Neither of us call/ contact the other alot.. We sometimes go 2 weeks with no contact either way... But we do have plans this week, and also over the weekend..

posted January 16, 2011 01:52 PM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:
Im confused are you talking about Gem or Pisces? I think you have the stories a little mixed up...

Im highly Uranus so I give lots of space.. And need it also.. I havent accused anyone of anything, actually its been the reversed way.. I have been accused of everything under the sun...

As for Gem, this is a long story that goes back 12 years... He literally broke my heart back then. Its affected even to this day.. But I guess we both feel like we need to "try" to make things work with us, so we keep going back and fourth... No matter what I know this man will always be in my life..
We spent 2 years him coming to me asking me to be with him, and then me rejecting him, and then me going to him, wanting to be with him, then he rejecting me..
Now we try, but its not an urgency, neither of us say anything, yet we still try.. We see each other when we can.. But I think deep down inside, both of us know we just wont be able to make it work, yet we still try... Im not pulling away from Gem, we see have contact with each other, when we can.. Neither of us call/ contact the other alot.. We sometimes go 2 weeks with no contact either way... But we do have plans this week, and also over the weekend..

As for Pisces... ooooo I am not mad at him, he comes and goes.. Im ok with it.. We actually talk more than me and Gem.. I just feel that what he wants and what I want are two different things, and its time to distance myself from him, because being around him, and not being with him, is extremely hard... I gave him the friendship that he so deeply desired and wanted... But I just cant do this anymore with him...
I cant stand the obsessive feelings I have for him.. Thats not How I want to be, especially if its one sided... The only way for me to get over him, is to keep my distance..
im not anger or ****** at either... I just have to take my feelings into consideration.. sometimes its just better to walk away... This is one of those cases..
Trust me, this is not something Im doing w/o trying.. This has been going on for 15 months... I cant do it anymore.. Im mentally drained...

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posted January 16, 2011 02:02 PM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:
Yeah with Gem I have awesome chemistry.. We really like spending time together.. We have alot of good aspects together, which keeps us going back and fourth.. I guess, not really ever letting it go... He told me he looked for me (in the 10 years that we didnt see each other).. I secretly also longed for him, I had his pictures with me for all these years.. I knew I would see him again one day.. Venus rx made sure we both went back, and revisited the feelings... We are just "stuck" in a time loop it seems.. Trying so hard..

But yes I agree both of these are lessons, and karmic.... sighhhhhh..

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The only way to escape is if you are really strict with yourself... It sucks I know!

posted January 16, 2011 02:16 PM            

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Originally posted by blugrey:
The only way to escape is if you are really strict with yourself... It sucks I know!

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Yeah with Pisces I have to escape...

posted January 16, 2011 08:18 PM            

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Originally posted by littlecloud:
What exactly is the story with Pisces? Why did come to the decision to distance yourself?

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Well I will try to explain with w/o going into to much detail..
We work together, I am a manager and he's not.. We talked one day and just really clicked.. So we exchanged information.. Later on we both said we wanted to go out together.. but we would have to keep it a secret (bc of work) and once we are done, we walk away, Act as if nothing happened..
So we did this, and it was GREAT... I was just knocked off me feet.. But at the same time feeling it was wrong bc of work so I texted him, are you done? He said yeah its for the best.. I said I agree.. see ya around!!!
Then OMG I felt really really really awful, I really felt the loss.. (MOON/PLUTO) I was all of a sudden hurting.. Which I couldnt understand..
He actually called me that night, and we talked as if nothing happen, and I felt better. (I think he did also) so then we pretty much stopped talking, but still starring at each other.. Then things would happen, that would "make" us talk to each other... I even deleted his number 3x but then something would happen...
After about 3 months of misery, we spoke and had a long talk, and he said he really really really wanted to be friends with me, if I can be his friend..

I agreed to get rid of the "misery" and the I lost him feeling.... So then we became even better friends than lovers.. To the point that we would do ANYthing for the other person.. We became very close during this friendship, but at the same time, we talk as if we are in a relationship, we call each other pet names, and just do things for each other... Its actually very sweet.. I did ask him, why are we like this, since its not in either of our characters, we both just walk away.. We we didnt... He said because I feel strongly bonded to you...

But at the same time, I'm feeling all the pluto obsession.. I cant get past the romantic things we had going on, I want that again, I want to feel that again..
He wants to keep me in his life, but is afraid of it going further.. (yes he told me this) He's very clear that he wont let it go any further, but than turns around and calls me babe, or says Hi sexy.. so on and so on..

Its to confusing.. I tried the friend thing, I really did, but as long as we have contact with each other I wont be able to let it go, so I have no choice but to let it go, so I can get over it... I cant give him this friendship, and he cant give me the romance... We just have to let go, and let it be...

This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do... Im highly Uranus, so I can come and go easily... Ive never felt this before, its very confusing for me.. The fact that its hard to let go.. I cant get a grasp on why I cant let it go.. It just doesnt make sense to me... Its not me....
For the first time ever I have to figure out how to do this...
But honestly he is someone that I will always cherish... At least we have some awesome memories

posted January 17, 2011 01:52 PM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:
He doesnt really act like a jerk... He "pretends" he is... Like if hes testing me... Hard to explain... but hes a big o teddy bear... Doesnt have a mean bone...
He calls him self Winney the Pooh... lol

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when i wrote than, I have not read that you have dated for a long time in the past. that makes a difference... he may be afraid...but you mentioned about him hurting you and that you hurt him because what he did to you... Maybe a place to start is to ask yourself why is keeping you interested? is there is something there you need to learn? to develop? and what is that?

all the good luck and if things dont work (wich commonly happen with exes)at least, if you can get something good from it, it may worth to risk.

posted January 17, 2011 01:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:
I was off by a day I guess ....I said I knew Pisces would text me Sun or Mon he texted me today... He told me, about last night..

I did reply but I just said ....cool..

He didnt reply after that..

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posted January 17, 2011 08:32 PM            

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Originally posted by nordicsoul:
when i wrote than, I have not read that you have dated for a long time in the past. that makes a difference... he may be afraid...but you mentioned about him hurting you and that you hurt him because what he did to you... Maybe a place to start is to ask yourself why is keeping you interested? is there is something there you need to learn? to develop? and what is that?
all the good luck and if things dont work (wich commonly happen with exes)at least, if you can get something good from it, it may worth to risk.

Ciao!!!

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Good question? There is an attraction, but the chemistry that we have together, is the reason to keep going back..
Yes we both have our guard up, but honestly I have more of a reason to be suspicious of him, then he does of me. Even though I dont really express that to him...

One of my big issues for me, is ok he did what he did,back then and I do understand it to a point, and I have forgiven it.. I have.. BUTTT..... Can I get over it??? Can I really let it go, so I can let him in... Considering I have a lot of Leo, and betrayal is a complete and total ending for us Leos... I dont think I can really really really let it go...
Even though yes I have forgiven him (it took 12 years..lol) I dont think I can get it out of my head...

posted January 18, 2011 02:38 AM            

Depending on the situation most Gem males will work hard to meet you halfway
and I don't know how far he has gone or will go to patch things up right now.

I can be that way sometimes, even with a Capircorn rising making me firm sometimes.

Try testing him out to see how far he will go to patch things.

My only worry is he'll be vary sincere and genuine with you and then something
happends in his life or there is some form of "distraction" in his life that takes
him to another direction or path away from you.

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Capircorn Rising
Gemini Sun, 5th house
Aries Moon
Mercury in Gemini
Venus In Tarrus
Mars In Cancer