posted January 16, 2011 10:29 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Um, yeah. Thankssss.. for taking the positive quality I was talking about and only noticing the negative in it. You negative-er !!

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posted January 17, 2011 06:31 AM            

What I mean is, that they want to spark other people to change their lives in some way...to be better in some way, specifically````

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posted January 17, 2011 11:15 AM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Arent aries and caps kinda like that, too, though?

Gemini too ....MAYBE

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posted January 17, 2011 12:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I have Cancer Moon and Mars.
Someone told me that Cancers make nests whereas Aqua's love the world.
With a Cancer, you must be in his/her nest to be smothered .
I think that is true.
We are nest centric

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posted January 18, 2011 10:41 AM            

It's not just people that are close to her (parents, cousins, friends...), but some completely unimportant people she doesn't even know well...Sometimes (well, oftentimes) she bothers me by constantly talking about some chick/bloke I don't know (and as I mentioned, even she doesn't know well), what they wear, what they say, how they act, etc, and then she analyses all that, and draws some kind of (usually negative) conclusion. She can be judgmental too.

Maybe it's her 7th house Sun that makes her preoccupied with other people & her Gemini moon makes her so talkative & analyzing...or maybe it's her 8th house Mars-Mercury conjunction that drives her to get into people's business & search for a deeper motive behind their behavior.

posted January 18, 2011 07:35 PM            

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...My capricorn friend, though, has the habit of wanting to censor me. She doesnt like it wheb i talk about serious things, or emotional things, or even when i remind her of certain things that have happened in the past. She makes everything complicated with her lack of ability to accept things as they are. She has a lot of "rules." She also has these same opinions as me...she even talks about them a lot..but only about hipsters and hippies, never about ghetto people. Yet she goes and reprimands me for talking about who i dislike...when in fact i encourage her to vent her feelings about those damn hipsters she hates lol. She never looks at her own faults, yet always sorry for everything. She projects a lot. She doesnt like the fact that she's judgemental so she sees ME as judgemental instead. LOL. She wants to be this highly accepting person, who cant say no to anybody or turn anybody down, but she isn't because nobody is...that isnt normal. Except for maybe a pisces (but even they have limits).[/B]

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It's not similar to my case...at all...

I'm open minded, there are no taboos with me, no censoring, people can talk about anything, no matter how weird, insane or grotesque the topic is, I won't judge. The important thing is - I rarely discuss other people in their absence (especially in a negative context), that would be GOSSIP, and I don't do gossip. I especially don't discuss people I DON'T KNOW, cause...that's right, you guessed it - I DON'T KNOW WHO THEY REALLY ARE, I don't know nothing about them, therefore it's redundant & a waste of time to talk bulls**t for no reason about the person X (Y, Z, etc....). Also, I don't deal with lies & making things up (and that would be the exact thing), truth is my religion & my policy.

If you have something to talk about (serious or humorous), I'm open to listen & argue, but make sure it's about YOU or ME (or others present), people involved in the conversation. The rest of the world...well, I don't care...I just don't, even if the whole world is discussing me, they just don't get it - they get nothing from that, just wasting their precious time as I get more popular, it's my gain and their losses...

I am a typical LIVE AND LET PEOPLE LIVE (and avoid badmouthing them as much as you can) person! I don't really hate any particular person in the world, so I won't tolerate bad energy which is created by talking negatively about anyone, especially someone, I'm telling again, faceless, unknown & unimportant to me.

So, I don't make up a bunch of rules, however, there is one that should be made a rule - AVOID HATEFUL CONVERSATION & GOSSIP with me! There are other more useful & creative ways to vent the tension...yeah, the tension, we all have it, not unwind the HATEFUL emotions. HATE = S**T, so people full of hate...well, ya know

posted January 18, 2011 08:40 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
I guess that makes sense. No, it's not good to talk bad about everyone like that. I agree. But, it sounds like you dont really respect this friend of yours, is what I'm saying. Just like I dont really respect my "best friend" unfortunately...

She may have a lot of nice qualities, but it sounds like she just annoys you, because that doesnt sound normal.

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Of course I respect her. Do you think I'd even bother to hang out with her & point out that ugly habit of hers to her if I didn't respect her? As you could conclude from my previous posts (or maybe you didn't), I don't waste my time on many people.

Since I always speak my mind, I openly say what's bothering me, and if I care enough (and in her case, I do, because there are more things to love about her, than to be annoyed with), I'll repeat myself to the point where she stops doing that. She's making progress, though ...Less hate-talk from her...well, at least in my presence. She's a quality person & deserves to be even better, just needs to get that unimportant nonsense out of her head & dedicate her brain to more positive things.

posted January 19, 2011 02:32 AM            

I have a Leo/Scorpio friend who will take any opportunity to ***** about anything, and it drives me nuts. I've realized people who '***** ' a lot about 'things' actually take it as a point of pride about how analytical, observant, and rebellious to society they are (******** ). She wonders why people don't like spending time with her, and concludes that they're all jealous (but of course). As a result of my tuning out of this, she thinks I'm secretive and evasive, which is crap - when I engage in a topic that means something, I'm down with it all night long.

Negative people drive me up the f***ing wall.

Oh, and I'm a Cancer Sun, Asc and Mars. Though for some reason I VERY RARELY meet other Cancers (?). The ones I know are relatives and they are really good people, though maybe it's because I love them that I'm biased, but I haven't identified major astrological flaws on them (yet).

posted January 23, 2011 10:47 AM            

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Originally posted by lunagoatlion:
Cancers are the biggest gossips I've ever met! All of my cancer female friends go on incessantly about other people, even those they claim are their best friends. I don't think they are doing it to gossip as much as they are simply prone to intense judgment. It's disturbing. And, they don't give anyone a break on anything while being somewhat blind to their very real flaws. They are good people, but a bit too focused on what everyone else is doing. Can a cancerian change that about themselves? Btw, I'm looney too.

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posted January 23, 2011 11:12 AM            

Paying so much attention to others severely limits time I can spend on my own personal growth and from learning to be detached from things (which I believe is a life mission for me). The more Cancerians can detach, the better they are able to use their inherent gifts of empathy and nurturing in a focused way that truly helps and heals others instead of hindering and keeping them dependent on the oft times manipulative Cancer compassion. We have a great deal of potential to heal, but when we get involved to a level where we allow the deeds of others to turn us into gossips because we fear what misdeeds bring to our world, we exist at our lowest state.