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Topic: Other people are so emotionally shallow from my point of view :(
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lindaGreg
Knowflake Posts: 371
From: Bermuda Triangle
Registered: Feb 2010
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posted January 28, 2011 08:35 AM
  
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Originally posted by Lucia23:
I think signs of all four elements, masculine and feminine, can be deep. Or, can be shallow.There are different kinds of depth. In this thread it seems like clinginess, emotional attachment, and passive-aggressiveness are being confused with depth. To me depth often involves a deep, rich spiritual practice...intense intellectual rigor...making plans and decisions in life consciously and conscientously...asking deep, hard questions. I guess a lot of those things are about intellectual or spiritual depth more than emotional...but I see emotional depth as a practice of open-heartedness and compassion. If you're very young and you like someone enough enough to date them very briefly, but then decide you aren't really that interested in them--you aren't in love with them, thrilled by them, craving lots of time with them and getting to know them more deeply--and then after you let them know that you aren't interested, you start pursuing someone else you're interested in--why is that shallow? I don't understand why that would make the young man shallow or a jerk. Or a "douche." Being resentful about a romantic rejection is completely human and deeply understandable, but not a sign of depth. Wanting to keep someone with you forever is arguably just as shallow as wanting to get away from someone. Calling someone else "emotionally shallow" is the very definition of judgmental! Not that judgmental is always bad....
You have saved me from typing a lengthly response. lol I totally agree with your views on this topic. I am not sure whether it is my Virgo Sun, or Virgo Merc or Aries Asc that is being more in agreement with your views here. cheers!! IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
Knowflake Posts: 386
From: USA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted January 29, 2011 09:09 PM
swirl-kittIt's not an ego thing. I just don't think I would ever break up with someone, because I think all relationships take work, and I'm willing to put that work in. I have to be sure before I like someone, but once I like them I'm very committed and loyal. My feelings DON'T change about them. IP: Logged |
littlecloud
Moderator Posts: 437
From:
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted January 29, 2011 09:59 PM
Lucia23- a big  to youRAS- Maybe you should ask yourself what you can learn from the "emotionally shallow Leo" before you condemn the Leo for being emotionally shallow. Or the Gemini, or the Aquarius, or the Libra for that matter. I am also very sure that you will break up with someone at some point in your life. A relationship takes both people to make it work and I believe you are intelligent enough to know and realize when you are in a hopeless situation that isn't going anywhere. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Newflake Posts: 14
From: ON Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 29, 2011 10:51 PM
Being loyal without fault is sometimes faulty for you. Sometimes strings need to be cut. You can have fond feelings for someone and may have at one point considered them strong and secure friends, but everything has it's end, and it is actually a service to yourself to 'remove the deadweight' sometimes. Friendship can feel like a burden when it should be light and free.
Just a quick perception from my quick read. (I have not read the entire string)
You owe your ultimate loyalty to you. Just because you define friend as someone who puts up with b*tchiness and annoying characteristics forever and ever doesn't mean you should, necessarily. Breaks are good. Sometimes they are essential.IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Newflake Posts: 14
From: ON Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 29, 2011 10:53 PM
HEY!!! I am pixelpixie on my old computer!!!!! YAY!!!!! (Hopes I can remember the password on my laptop)IP: Logged |
Taurus81
Knowflake Posts: 42
From: in a copper apple on a tree in neverland...
Registered: Jan 2011
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posted January 29, 2011 11:38 PM
sounds like how i see the world.. i have a cancer ascendanta pisces friend once told me this.. try to have patience with those who are less spiritually evolved. instead of letting them be your lessons not to trust the world, become their lessons in depth, heart, and faith IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
Knowflake Posts: 386
From: USA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted January 30, 2011 08:12 PM
taurus81....i feel you.thanks for understanding IP: Logged |
Steam
Knowflake Posts: 38
From: US
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted January 30, 2011 09:00 PM
"So the first guy I told I had a crush on who actually seemed to like me back...we went out for about 2 weeks and then he let me kiss him and the morning after he broke up with me. And now about 3 weeks later he is talking to another girl. He was 18"And you were about the same age? Your interest in him was shallow. Just because you thought he was cute and he rejected you after you came on strongly is actually a testament to his emotional depth. If he was truly shallow, he would keep seeing you with the same criteria you have. His rejection could prove his depth and how he is not satisfied with affection from someone he is not interested in. It's easier to blame other people rather than look within.
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RunAroundScreaming
Knowflake Posts: 386
From: USA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted January 31, 2011 08:31 PM
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