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JohnFKennedy
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posted February 17, 2011 07:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for JohnFKennedy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So, this is the first time I'm dealing with a Cancer moon romantic interest, and I have to say, it's definitely not manifesting the way I had assumed it would, stereotypically speaking. There is obvious sensitivity there, but it is so hidden, and the fact there's a Capricorn stellium thrown into the mix probably doesn't help either. I'm a little confused.

Does anyone want to give me any insight into this moon - particularly in men? Or turn this into a Cancer men discussion in general if you wish!

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posted February 17, 2011 07:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am a Cancer moon woman.
I LOVE this moon. It feels nice.
It is very sensitive but in a good way .
It is very intuitive.
It thrives on making a nest with loved ones.
Once someone becomes part of the nest,which is usually small and select,you would fight tooth and nail for them.

You like home and being at home. You like dates that center around the home such as watching a movie or eating a meal.

You get hurt and go in to a shell. Someone has to be kind to you to get you out lol

Your mate has to be sensitive,somewhat,or you will shut down and eventually not care.
Once a Cancer moon hardens to someone,they may never open up,again,ever.

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posted February 17, 2011 07:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for vertiver     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by JohnFKennedy:
So, this is the first time I'm dealing with a Cancer moon romantic interest, and I have to say, it's definitely not manifesting the way I had assumed it would, stereotypically speaking. There is obvious sensitivity there, but it is so hidden, and the fact there's a Capricorn stellium thrown into the mix probably doesn't help either. I'm a little confused.

Does anyone want to give me any insight into this moon - particularly in men? Or turn this into a Cancer men discussion in general if you wish!


Oh gawd, I've noticed that Cancer Moon men are not sensitive whatsoever, in fact they can really be jerks. The problem is like you said, they hide their emotions, and then feed off yours in a sense... With Capricorn in the mix, your dealing with one caridnal hard a$$...

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posted February 17, 2011 07:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pisces moon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My sister was with a Cancer moon guy, Capricorn sun. I dont' know his other placements.

He is the type of person who globs onto one person and becomes very obsessed with them, he ignores his other friends, and is just very, very stupid.

The stories I could tell but won't. I'll just say it was like a parent/child relationship, my sister being the very strict unbending parent and he being the child who only wants to please but can't help himself from doing things that will get him into trouble with mommy if she finds out. (My sister is a Scorpio)

I don't know if your guy is the same way but the one I'm talking about has big issues.

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posted February 17, 2011 07:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for JohnFKennedy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Oh gawd, I've noticed that Cancer Moon men are not sensitive whatsoever, in fact they can really be jerks. The problem is like you said, they hide their emotions, and then feed off yours in a sense... With Capricorn in the mix, your dealing with one caridnal hard a$$...

YES, totally! I'm familiar with how lovely the Cancer moon is in women, which Ami summed up beautifully, but this guy can actually be a huge ******* to other people. Luckily I have thick skin and love dishing it out so he doesn't try and mess with me like that in the slightest, but I feel very embarrassed when I hear other people talk about what a douche he was to them in the past and what not. He's intelligent, and frankly really handsome, and we're actually good friends, but I'm not sure how to woo the better side of this Cancer moon out of him..

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posted February 17, 2011 07:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for JohnFKennedy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by pisces moon:
My sister was with a Cancer moon guy, Capricorn sun. I dont' know his other placements.

He is the type of person who globs onto one person and becomes very obsessed with them, he ignores his other friends, and is just very, very stupid.

The stories I could tell but won't. I'll just say it was like a parent/child relationship, my sister being the very strict unbending parent and he being the child who only wants to please but can't help himself from doing things that will get him into trouble with mommy if she finds out. (My sister is a Scorpio)

I don't know if your guy is the same way but the one I'm talking about has big issues.


Wow okay, this guy is a Capricorn sun/Cancer moon and I can definitely see some major similarities here. He was in a very "famous" relationship was someone I used to know a while back, they were seen as THE couple to the point where we almost associated them as married. It wasn't until after they broke up where it was so obvious he was never in love with her and just sort of stuck around out of this "family" obligation and she was this mother/girlfriend hybrid. I mean.. when I say all of this, it happened 4 years ago, and hes always been pretty cool to me. But I am interested to see if this moon provides more depth than what meets the eye in men, you know? I'm really intuitive, but his emotions definitely elude me a lot.

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posted February 17, 2011 08:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Benedict Moon*     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is one of my least favorite moon placements (unless paired with an earth sun). I find alot of the low traits associated with Cancer so prevalent in this group in my experience. Then again, most people are weirded out by the people whose moons are the same signs as their suns from what I've observed.

Ironically, the one Cancer Moon guy I actually like is x4 stellium in Cancer including Sun, Venus, and Mars. He's just so classy.

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posted February 17, 2011 08:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am divorcing a cancer Moon man/ cappy sun/venus.

My first love had a cancer Moon/cappy venus.

The man I am divorcing has his cancer moon is the first house. I believe his moon is also unaspected.
He has lied, cheated, manipulated and basically run our household according to HIS ever changing moods.
I wish I could say something nicer, but I'm being honest.

I like Cancer placements elsewhere, but not in the Moon, for a man.
It's like a "my way or the highway thing."

I believe it's a hard placement for them, especially in a cap sun! Their sun and moon are fighting and so that has to cause alot of tension in an individual, which spills over to the others around them.

The thing that really irks me, is they come across as 'The Nice Guy' to everyone else.
They are the type that come home and don't speak a word all night, but if a friend needs something, they are all over it.

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posted February 17, 2011 08:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
One of my best friends had this moon, Aries w/ Cancer moon. One of the calmest/positive people I know. Sensitive, but tough. When we parted, we worked together, he was having relationship issues and it was tearing him apart. I suspected he had a Cancer Asc.

He also had mars in Gemini. As a Gemini, this mars position has always been kind to me, so I may be biased.

I knew a Leo w/ Cancer moon. Seemed very fragile. Like walking on eggshells. Ultimately I said the wrong thing and am now in exile.

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posted February 17, 2011 09:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ahhh!! My ex boyfriend was a Cancer Moon. Too much Cancer in his chart for me to handle. Triple Cancer I think. So moody, so emotional, such a baby b*tch at times, so mentally unstable, so manipulative! Mood swings! Mood swings! Mood Swings!!!
I would tell him sometimes "hey it's my time of month not yours." And his reply would be "I'll act how I want!"
And yes it really seems like he never gets over anything! I thought only Scorpio moons like me had that problem. (I can slowly get over stuff but I wont forget, if that makes any sense)
He always wants to be taken care of...by like everyone. Friends, family, me and the Government.

But on a more positive note, my dad is a Cancer moon. And has his sh*t together. And is a gentlemen who likes to work on cars, hang out with the guys, and drinks beer. My dad is more reserved/passive in his emotions...and it really takes A LOT to **** him off. But I think that is the only Cancer he has in main planets. I think maybe his Libra Sun and Mars make him not the typical Lunar Cancer. He never asks my mom for much. (my mom is the bread winner)

Hopefully I didn't offend anyone, these are the only people I can think of/know of with Cancer moons that I am/was close with.

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posted February 18, 2011 12:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i notice the woman being the bread winner in alot of cancer relationships that I know of.

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posted February 18, 2011 07:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for zanarkand112     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, it's important to remember that the moon sign represents feminine energy where the sun is masculine energy. No matter what sign the moon it is, it is almost always more uncomfortable for men than women to express or "own" the qualities of their moon sign.(especially when it's a water moon) Men are not raised the same. Men are told that emotions make them weak, and if they are in pain or feeling vulnerable to "suck it up" or "be a man" during their childhood. Therefor, men keep their moon sign hidden most of the time because it is where they are vulnerable, and they feel emasculated for expressing their "illogical" and deep emotions rooted in their subconscious.

Taking that into consideration, when the moon is in its ruling sign Cancer, this is very hard moon for most men to have. (especially those who are not in touch with their feminine side) At it's core this moon sign is incredibly sensitive, a yearning to give and receive nurture, nostalgic as they come, sentimental, intuitive, vivid imagination,(powerful insights from daydreaming) not prone to superficiality, and a desire to create a very comfortable/enriching home life to share with others.

The bad side of this moon is the mood swings,(can go from loony-like happiness to bitter sarcasm in seconds) being overly defensive when you say something that you didn't know they would take so personally, self-absorbed with feelings of immense amount of pity for themselves when life isn't going their way, guilt trips galore, MANIPULATIVE, continually dwelling on hurt feelings from the past with an expiration date that is long overdue, and coming off as "whiny" when they are upset while you try to "talk things out" as adults.

Frequently men with this moon have that eternal link to the mother that Cancer placements are known for. If the connection with her is good, he'll likely treat you like a queen. If it is bad, he will project his issues with her onto you during your relationship if he has no idea how to deal with them by himself or hasn't sought out any form of help.

I actually really like this moon. In guys if they are in touch with their emotions and don't suppress them they are so sweet and gentle. With women, they often confide their secrets with me and we get along very well. I tend to think both sexes of the moon have soft "puppy dog" look in their eyes that make me just want to give them a hug. Just know that even if a guy acts like a douche-bag, he is hiding behind a facade. I promise you that a 90% chance he is probably incredibly sensitive of the inside, and cries much easier than he'd like to admit. He probably learned some crafty eye-wiping techniques when he was younger because the mist from the moisture in his eyes shows up in his eyes when he is emotionally moved in public. Maybe it is about a hurt child/animal he saw on the news that day, or he felt neglected somehow and didn't say you were sorry when you came home.(so he took that as you not caring even though you are just really tired and stressed and forgot) Whatever it is, yes, some of the Cancer moons can be this sensitive!

Most Cancer Moons cry easily, but they won't cry in front of you. They'll hold it inside and put on their "brave face" even though it feels like it is killing them. They do someday hope that they can find someone that they love who they can cry in front of one day. And who would only offer a loving embrace without any put-downs or any form of rejection. If you ever see a Cancer Moon cry in front of you and they don't try to hide it, on some level they trust you and are waiting for you like a whimpering dog just begging for love to show them some love and tell them it's going to be okay. (Hurt them when they are this vulnerable and they might "yelp" and run away with their tail tucked between their legs forever) When it all comes down to it all they really want is to feel safe. Give them that, and you give them the world.

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posted February 18, 2011 12:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for etherealenlightenment     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Eh, what can I say... I dated a guy with a cancer stellium (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus) for two years... I wouldn't recommend it. He was emotional but kept it so hidden, and didn't know how to express his emotions or how he actually felt about anything half the time... It felt kind of shallow to me, personally. (Mind you, his stellium was in the 12th so maybe that contributed to it)

A few words that come to mind. Whiny. Super clingy one minute, and ice cold the next. Unreliable (and this is coming from a Pisces Moon and Mars!)... Cheater...Dishonest... Poor manners and etiquette (don't know how important that is to you though)... Terrible with money (I supported him throughout our entire relationship even though he was 6 years older than me)... I know that Cancer Moons are said to have a really good sense of humor but... I found his to be quite crude and juvenile... Oh and, if his family doesn't 100% approve of you, you're toast.

Anyway, I didn't have a very positive experience... But that's just me.

You and I do have very similar charts so you might react to things similarly, but it also depends a lot on the synastry aspects between you two.

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posted February 18, 2011 03:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lehia2     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I absolutely love cancer moon, especially in men. They have that aloof vibe at first, but they're so sweet, attentive, and funny when you get to know them. I just find them very likable, and I don't think it's just me, unless the ones I know have many, many friends.

I think they can be a bit hard to pin down, but I guess they might be a bit afraid of getting hurt. Once committed, they're really committed unless you give them reason to distrust you.

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posted February 18, 2011 03:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Zanarkand
For explaining Cancer moon so well,I am gonna give you something I have given few on LL

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posted February 18, 2011 03:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted February 18, 2011 03:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
To Zanarkand
With appreciation for ALL his wonderful posts

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iZtbASCE7ZY


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posted February 19, 2011 02:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for VenusDiSirius     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Jerks,jerks,jerks...Manipulative,moody,insecure berks; old-fashion type,traditional...

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posted February 19, 2011 06:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for redshoes     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know a cancer moon man who is often saying to his woman "i need you to support me" even though she bends over backward for him

Feeling the cancer energy doesnt sit well with men...too whingey and whiney

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posted February 19, 2011 11:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I feel that what everyone has said about lunar Cancers to be true/spot on. The good things, and the bad things.

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Ami Anne
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posted February 19, 2011 12:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am a Cancer moon female but I would NOT want Cancer moon in a guy.
Two whiners would be too much

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posted February 19, 2011 01:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EverEvolvingSpirit     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I am a Cancer moon female but I would NOT want Cancer moon in a guy.
Two whiners would be too much


I concur.
Whining in a guy = huge turn off, almost makes me angry like smacking the sh*t out of them :/

At first I was scared of my Sag moon guy but it's a breath of fresh air and his Venus in Cancer evens him out

Cancer moon men more suitable for women. Like me
Sometimes I have to tell Cancer moon to STFU already LoL it can sometimes fool me and be kinda mean

My son is a Cancer sun Gemini moon AND rising, but Cancer Mars I know waay OT but I started babbling

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posted February 19, 2011 05:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mochai     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
*shrugs* I like emotional men.

If a guy can't cry that's a huge turn off.
If a guy can't express his feelings or show me some emotional depth, I'm out.

On a side note, our society sucks for emotional men. I'd be a jerk too.

Ok.. not really, but I suppose that is dependent on many factors.

Cancer moon is still my favorite moon in guys. I'd take that over a scorpio any day (just my preference).

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posted February 20, 2011 09:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Amphitrite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have had alot of people who have been close to me with a cancer moon. I think I attract it and I need it because of my 12th house cancer north node. I think it feeds me, even thought sometimes it hurts.

But none of these relationships have been easy. Most of them have been tumultuous infact, especially the ones with cancer moon men. I just can't seem to get it right with cancer moon men, and a little piece of me is broken away every time.

One of the most important relationships to me was with my brother, a capricorn sun/cancer moon/pisces Asc. We had a great relationship, we were in different states but we spoke nearly every day. He was like my friend more than my brother. He didn't speak to any of our other family members really, only me. Even thought it is difficult, I still maintained relationships with all my family members, but for him it was easier not to. Then one christmas he decided to come down for a family christmas, and it was like when he saw that i have relationships with my other family members,he must have felt left out, even though I tried to bring ppl together (my libran sun trying to create harmony) he kinda flipped out and hasn't spoken to me since. Like he was jealous. Its been over a year that we haven't spoken, and it broke my heart because it was all for nothing. I guess his fourth house cancer moon couldn't deal with it and it was easier to walk away. I think a troubled childhood can break a cancer moon man.

His capricorn sun made him incredibly organised and disciplined. He was always helpful advice and an answer and a plan of the best thing to do. He had a vindictive and vengeful side though, and if you ever got into an argument with him, he would usually yell and then walk away. It was difficult to work any disagreement out with him. He loved history and had the best memory. He could remember clothing he wore when he was like 3 years old. If I ever wanted to know anything that happened when we were younger I could always ask him and he would have a memory of it. I'm usually flat out remembering what I did yesterday. I think his pisces asc made him really creative. He had the most extensive vocabulary and grammar coordination that I have ever observed in an individual. His writing skills were unbelievable.

In our synastry, his uranus conjuncts my venus in my third house. I do wonder if this has anything to do with it.

The other cancer moon man was a man I was interested in, but I just couldn't work out his mixed signals, he had leo sun/cancer moon/ virgo asc. This combo works well for me as I have libran sun/virgo moon/leo asc. So many things about him felt like home. We met because we worked together. But i don't think when it came down to it he really knew what it was he wanted or where he was going.

We spent alot of time together hanging out watching movies and just talking. He always invited me over to his place just to hang out. We were just friends, but I really fell for him, its like just being around him energised my spirit. He was always saying we should go there and we should go here. Always making plans. He was a very private person, but ultimately he was quite unreliable, manipulative and self consumed. He would back out of plans at the very last moment. He was always organising to do this and that and then at the last minute he would come out with some lame excuse that was completely transparent. He also lied ALOT. I wish I had called him out on it more than I did. I did call him out on it once, and he didnt talk to me for a month. He gave me alot of disappointment, but I couldn't cut him off, even though sometimes I really wanted to.

I think he was very concerned with keeping up appearances. He also had a difficult childhood, and in many ways it felt like he has misogynistic tendencies. But he could be very sweet at the same time. He would travel to the otherside of the city to pick me up for work all the time. He would plan work so that we could do nearly everything together. He would buy me tickets to things and refuse to take money. He said I should move in with him so I didnt have to pay so much rent. In the end I didn't know what was real and what wasn't. He basically just did my head in for 3 years.

I also know a cancer sun/moon/venus/asc guy who really wanted a relationship with me. He hung onto the idea of us being together from like 12 years ago. But I have recently found out the lots of things he has said to me are basically just lies to make himself sound like he is the biggest catch out there. Very obsessed with money. I think to cancers in many ways money equals security. Many cancer sun men I have known always try and tell you how much money they have like its supposed to be a turn on, but for me its a bot of a turn off.

All the other cancer moon people I know a good female friends, and while we have had our ups and downs, its nothing compared to the men. The women are all very home and family orientated, and all have very very long memories.

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posted February 20, 2011 05:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Benedict Moon*     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My issue with Cancer moons of both sexes in my experience is all related to co-dependency and their whole life-ethic (they always act like everyone owes them something). I've never come across these two issues in any other cancer placement as badly as the moon.

I actually think they'd be much better if they were allowed to express their emotions, but hey...we're stuck in a cerebral/practical society. The stellium guy I knew was Italian, so he was waaay secure with himself there.

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