posted March 02, 2011 12:49 AM            

I dont make friends easily either, finding it hard to connect with people.. I've isolated myself also..

posted March 02, 2011 04:36 AM            

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Originally posted by CosmicKarma360:
Oh gosh!

Hope others have insight on this. I have Saturn in the 11th, and it hasn't been a summer's breeze, that's for sure. The most I've been able to come up with is accept that group are simply not me. I'm never going to be one of those people who will be involved in organizations and clubs. Instead, I try hard to find people that I 'click' with, and just steadily work on that.

Lately, I'm working very hard on not isolating myself. For the past six years, I've spent way too much time alone. Now I make it a point to at least do *something* twice a week. Like movies, hiking, that sort of thing.

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posted March 03, 2011 04:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Astra:
Quality, not quantity is important. It doesn't matter if you have 200 "friends" when you can't count on any of them to truly be there for you. Having just one friend who will stand by you no matter what is worth so much more than having hundreds of superficial friendships.

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posted March 04, 2011 02:35 AM            

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Originally posted by kama:
I think the 11th house tells us something about our feeling how lovable we feel we are. Therefore it also has something to do with selfacceptance and faith. Having an issue with not feeling lovable comes from childhood of course and might influence our sociability.
kama

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posted March 04, 2011 01:31 PM            

Sweeter Than Apple Pie ,
I have Venus Square Saturn(trouble giving/receiving love) and Saturn Trine Ascendant(super-isolationist aspect) so I can relate completely. I know it may feel like a curse, but there are actually TONS of people with unfavorable Saturn placements. Is it me or does Saturn in the chart never mean anything good? haha. I really like what staborgi said about just being on the look out for people like yourself, and people who are older than you. I'm still a teen but I can see that generations keep getting more and more... how do I say this... shallow? Superficial? It's hard enough to find people you click with when you're socially "normal", but when you're not the social type at all... oof. Indeed, it is tough.

posted March 04, 2011 03:24 PM            

I know it is difficult guys but I think it can be done.

My childhood friends weren't many or let me say I had one close friend. My parents for long believed that they weren't good at socializing.They haven't got many family friends.So I had to encourage them to do same and make them understand necessity of it.

Yes, I taught as a teacher and it was a thrilling experience of lifetime.I do extremely good in
interactive seminars, classroom environments,office meetings,etc.My humor is
good in this environments. I have been told I can very easily be a stand up comedian.I look forward to networking sessions which is informative.I do event management and have to talk to people. Thus wedding celebration. It was daunting but then it is easy now.

Guys ! I really think that Saturn in 11th isn't where you say I suck at socializing so I am not going to do it. I don't like socializing. This is placement where I accept " Yes ! I would socialize so that I can find people who are reliable."
"OK! I am going to do smart socializing."
" I would love myself and I wouldn't compare how many friends I have."
"Developing relationships and friendships is hard work and I wouldn't expect instant results or would judge people so quickly."

I read some self help books and in fact gave it to people who felt same.I love socializing at this moment.Sometimes it is energy sucking experience but still I have been associated to some association and I look forward to see them now every month so that I can do my bit of "karma".

As I understand Saturn in 11th is that it is your duty to help others.I am doing it and I get immense satisfaction.Especially people in 11th house Saturn I feel we really need to start taking others help. You have no idea what groups can do for whatever you want to do.

I still have a difficulty in sustaining many friends but I guess so does everyone else considering present age lifestyles and less time.I am giving myself time to see who are my reliable friends- the people I can count on and if I can do my bit.

I am reconnecting with even my old school bullies or people who had groups.Facing fears.

I also believe where Saturn is where your money is as well. Or let's say I was tempting myself by it. I purposely was thrown into or was choosing Sales job where you have to be a people's person.

I had also spent time to know myself. I feel all the internal work has been done so I can do some external work.To be yourself despite getting pressure from the group is difficult.
It is still a challenge. But I guess different opinions are there anyways.

posted March 05, 2011 01:52 AM            

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Originally posted by 4lifephrases:
Kama: Thanks for what you said.

I know it is difficult guys but I think it can be done.

My childhood friends weren't many or let me say I had one close friend. My parents for long believed that they weren't good at socializing.They haven't got many family friends.So I had to encourage them to do same and make them understand necessity of it.

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My parents were the opposite parties everyday going out everyday my mother talks to any one and everyone but I'm sure they only like her because of her money her fathers wealth and not for the person she is