Posts: 686
From: Portland, OR USA
Registered: Nov 2010

posted June 05, 2011 03:38 PM            

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This was just plain terrible. I wish I'd never met him. The beginning was simply AMAZING. He was sweet and loving and oh so sensual. But then he was just like crazy. I said somethings about him that at the time didn't seem like a big deal - but now I can understand what made him upset, but still, it didn't need to have a response like the one he did. It was like a light switched and suddenly he was like a devil. All the sweetness and affection that he had showed me was completely gone. He would constantly criticize me, he kicked in my door, he threatened to kill me (which ultimately made me leave - we were roommates at the time). It never quite got to physical abuse though I'm sure it would have if I didnt stay. But emotionally and mentally I was terrorized by this guy.

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From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010

posted June 05, 2011 06:30 PM            

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--- Traumatizing, abusive, painful, constant arguing, worried about killing each other in your sleep ---

LOL, Yes - That does ring a bell!

My first love:

It was great for about a year... then all hell broke loose for the next 6 years. I wouldn't know where to start. I guess the biggest problem was his drug addiction and inability to be reasonable, due to this. It got worse and worse. It wasn't just dope anymore. He was very rarely 'sober'. It's interesting though that even while on alcohol and drugs, he was able to study well and to treat everyone around him nicely, whilst being abusive and nasty towards me.
He was in my life during one of the most painful times for me. But instead of being there for me, he perpetually verbally abused me during this time - which was apparently his way of helping me 'move on'... When I withdrew in a shell (Cancer AC?) and stopped talking.. not because I was punishing him, but because I was so hurt that I couldn't open my mouth and get words out.. he became angry and bad-mouthed me behind my back, calling me a '**** ' and all sorts of things. After all this we made up, because I extended my hand in friendship again and he said he was sorry. But it didn't last very long. It all started all over again. He had a couple of obsessions which always started arguments. One of them was that I cheat on him and I am sleeping with other men (when I never did. It was SO ridiculous. He had "spies", so-called friends keeping an eye on me to find out what I do when I'm not with him, because he was so paranoid. The second was that I'm always a "***** " to him that I don't appreciate him, that I try to punish him.. and all sorts of things - that I was not consciously doing. I also felt the same. I felt he was the one being a jerk and not appreciating *me*. So it was a two way street in terms of this, but his reactions were much more violent. It ended because I left and moved to a different city. But even to this day, when I do visit and I bump into him there is so much animosity between us you could cut it with a knife. There is affection also, but overall it is just bad. We can't even talk to each other.

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From: Mars
Registered: Aug 2010

posted June 05, 2011 07:51 PM            

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From: where the fun is
Registered: Mar 2011

posted June 05, 2011 07:54 PM            

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@PLutoSquared

These grand trine between mercury,sun"s", jupiter, chiron or whatsoever didnt lesser the "worst" part of relatioship even a little?

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From: Mars
Registered: Aug 2010

posted June 05, 2011 08:00 PM            

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Originally posted by MertSerimer:
@PLutoSquared

These grand trine between mercury,sun"s", jupiter, chiron or whatsoever didnt lesser the "worst" part of relatioship even a little?

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Um, there were "good" times... very brief, though as this guy was pretty messed up... Not a nice fellow.

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