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Topic: Was Scorpio just waiting in the wings?
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esheep123
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From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 07:52 PM
  
Me again! The girl who got abused by her husband, and is now in moms house.My husband came last night to plead forgiveness. He is dead set on us going to Jordan, and although I'm dead set on not going, he's still trying to get me there, under the guise that he's sorry. I don't want to break up my family, and I forgive so easily. I told him that i will not press charges (he got arrested for hitting me). I also want him to set us up with a home (since I'm now homeless ---thank goodness for mom). Then we could work on building things up from there. I would like us to remain friends (venus in Gemini) but I'm ready for a new relationship (Venus Gem again). So, Scorpio has been with me this whole time. He wanted to get me back together with my husband, and he still does. A week and a half later, we've talked every night. We've gotten close, and he's admitted that he loves me, wishes to be with me, and wants me in his life some way. He's married, I'm vulnerable. Sounds pretty bad. But we've had this mutual understanding that we love each other since we met a year ago (and I have NO pisces in my chart). He tells me he knows what I'm thinking, and it's pretty telepathic. So anywhoo was he just waiting to pounce? Does he just want to get into my pants, especially since he believes I'd be happiest with my husband, yet tells me that he loves me? And he says he's very happy with his wife, she's been there for him from the beginning and he doesn't want to hurt her. What is going on? What do I do? IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 07:57 PM
WOWSER 
Let me think on it Darling------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
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starfox
Knowflake Posts: 322
From: London England
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 07:57 PM
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Originally posted by esheep123:
What do I do?
Hi, I say to you sit back and take a DEEP breath first..
Do you want a man who hits you?
Do you want a man who has a wife already? It just sounds like more trouble to come from both of them . ?? IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted June 03, 2011 08:00 PM
His trying to get you back with your husband is one thing that I don't understand or like. Your husband hit you. Can't say anymore right now. I need something to eat. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted June 03, 2011 08:02 PM
Yes ,Starfox has simple wisdom Darling
You may be attracted to this guy and I know you are but attraction lasts just so long and then the real guy is there  ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
Jesus
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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teasel
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posted June 03, 2011 08:02 PM
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Originally posted by starfox:
Hi, I say to you sit back and take a DEEP breath first..Do you want a man who hits you?
Do you want a man who has a wife already? It just sounds like more trouble to come from both of them . ??
agreed. IP: Logged |
starfox
Knowflake Posts: 322
From: London England
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 08:10 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Yes ,Starfox has simple wisdom Darling
You may be attracted to this guy and I know you are but attraction lasts just so long and then the real guy is there
Ami, I just get that feeling..neither of them are so good for her. "attraction lasts just so long and then the real guy is there" I might borrow this if you don't mind? and reverse it into.. "attraction lasts just so long and then the real girl is there" then I can use it for a song I will write.  IP: Logged |
esheep123
Knowflake Posts: 150
From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 08:10 PM
So what do I do? I don't wanna hurt Scorp. He's already trusted me and opened up. I do love him. He's a great guy. But a it's horrible situation. I don't want a guy who hits me Eveything is getting foggy because of Scorpio's enchantment on me. I can't just stop talking to him, he's a Scorpio. What do I do. IP: Logged |
mochai
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From: Charon
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 08:27 PM
Do the right thing morally.. it'll pay off in the long run#1 don't enable the abuser and press charges #2 I'm thinking scorpio is a soulmate.. I know you don't believe in reincarnation, but if you don't get it right this time you'll have to repeat it. He's married. I wish it were easier. #3 just for repetition sake.. violence is never okay and you -deserve- to be treated better. Scorpio likely has some issues he's struggling with. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 08:28 PM
quote:
Originally posted by starfox:
Ami, I just get that feeling..neither of them are so good for her. "attraction lasts just so long and then the real guy is there" I might borrow this if you don't mind? and reverse it into.. "attraction lasts just so long and then the real girl is there" then I can use it for a song I will write.
Please Darlink Go right ahead ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
Jesus
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 08:32 PM
Esheep Darling
Lets be real.You WANT to fall.I get that.B-E-L-I-E-V- E you me.
I am not judging.
I am just saying be real with yourself,G/f.
If you are gonna LET yourself fall with Scorpio, know that you are DOING this.
Don't act like gravity made you do it ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
Jesus
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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JohnFKennedy
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From: US
Registered: Aug 2009
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posted June 03, 2011 08:41 PM
Here are my thoughts in bulletpoint form: ~ You're absolutely right in standing your ground with your husband. I don't think living with him again would ever work out now or in the near future, it's far too easy to slip back into past patterns eventually. ~ I think Scorpio has inherently good intentions. ~ However, they are misplaced. I don't care how guilty he feels in this situation, its messed up he's trying to get you back together with your husband given the face he has severely abused you. ~ It's interesting that he admitted his feelings for you while insisting he's happy with his wife. I think he has fantasy illusions that he is repressing the need to fulfill. I genuinely believe he cares about you and I'm so glad he's been there for you during an extremely rough part in your life, but I think he has some issues. ~ I'm glad you're okay. <3 IP: Logged |
Benedict Moon*
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From: Avendesora
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 03, 2011 08:50 PM
I'm sorry, but does the scorpio even know what went on between you and your husband? If yes, then he's a selfish twat. Amazing connection or not, he SHOULD be thinking of your safety first before his own personal wants. Whatever you do, DON'T GO BACK. If the scorpio wants to keep in touch with you, he'd find a way. IP: Logged |
esheep123
Knowflake Posts: 150
From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 08:52 PM
appreciate those bullets JFK.And all your advice LL peeps, but still not sure what to do... Loving the attention I get from Scorpio. Never really got that before from a guy... BM, he knows everything between us...but he still wants me to be safe and considers being married my saftey net. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 08:53 PM
Have you had sex with Scorpio yet,Darling?------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
Jesus
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
Proverbs IP: Logged |
teasel
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 03, 2011 08:53 PM
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Originally posted by Benedict Moon*:
I'm sorry, but does the scorpio even know what went on between you and your husband? If yes, then he's a selfish twat. Amazing connection or not, he SHOULD be thinking of your safety first before his own personal wants. Whatever you do, DON'T GO BACK. If the scorpio wants to keep in touch with you, he'd find a way.
BM said what I was going to add. IP: Logged |
esheep123
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From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 08:55 PM
completelyh on the phone. no physical nothing...well hugs and cheeks kisses.IP: Logged |
JohnFKennedy
Knowflake Posts: 300
From: US
Registered: Aug 2009
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posted June 03, 2011 08:56 PM
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Originally posted by esheep123:
appreciate those bullets JFK.And all your advice LL peeps, but still not sure what to do... Loving the attention I get from Scorpio. Never really got that before from a guy... BM, he knows everything between us...but he still wants me to be safe and considers being married my saftey net.
I hope by safety net he means financially, otherwise that's very deluded of him that he would consider sending you back to a violent home just so he could be near you. That is just... ridiculous on every level on his part. Definitely a red flag, my friend. Doesn't the fact you've escaped a nightmare move him at all? IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted June 03, 2011 08:56 PM
quote:
Originally posted by esheep123:
completelyh on the phone. no physical nothing...well hugs and cheeks kisses.
Good . Don't let him touch you cuz once a man does, you bond.
You are TOO vulnerable to bond now, imo ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
Jesus
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
Proverbs IP: Logged |
Lioness
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Registered: Mar 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 09:04 PM
You have to do the right thing... First you should concentrate on YOU and your kids, and getting your life together..
You have a road ahead of you, but you can accomplish it.. Say good ridden s to the husband and focus on what you need to do to get your life in order... REAL Happiness awaits you! You deserve someone that CAN/will be with you and love you and respect you...
Never accept anything less.. You have to KNOW what you deserve.. Feel it LIVE IT! Be it!
(maybe thats my leo talking)
Anyways...
Everyone deserves it! IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 03, 2011 09:13 PM
Passion is SUPER powerful when you in as much pain as you are esheep.
However,passion does not mean more than passion.
People mistake it for things like trust, fidelity, loyalty, connection of mind and heart etc.
Passion lasts 1-3 months usually and then if you were not wise you have a LOT of pieces to pick up
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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
Jesus
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
Proverbs
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Astra
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posted June 04, 2011 07:34 AM
esheep,It's simple: do not start any sort of romantic/sexual relationship with the Scorpio. If he's admitting that he loves you, then he clearly isn't completely happy with his wife. They have problems that they need to work out and it's best not to interfere. Regardless of your feelings and his feelings, he is still married. If and when he becomes single, then by all means pursue him if you are both interested. For now, it's best to remain friends. Think of how his wife would feel if she found out! Whether you should press charges against your husband depends on the type of "relationship" you want with him. If you press charges against him, then do not expect any help from him other than what the courts order him to provide. If you don't press charges, things may be somewhat civil between you two provided that you continue to stand your ground and treat him more as an acquaintance rather than a lover or even a friend. It is absolutely important that you NEVER get back together with your husband again because he will abuse you and your children--guaranteed. I think it's very odd for the Scorpio to encourage you to get back with your husband, but it MIGHT be because he's a very traditional guy and believes it's better for the kids to have both of their parents in their lives. I don't think his reason involves keeping her close since your husband wants to move you and the kids all the way to Jordan. IP: Logged |
Nightingale
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Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 04, 2011 08:47 AM
Hello esheep quote:
He is dead set on us going to Jordan, and although I'm dead set on not going, he's still trying to get me there, under the guise that he's sorry. I don't want to break up my family, and I forgive so easily. I told him that i will not press charges (he got arrested for hitting me).
And in Jordan you would have no protection against his violence. I'd advise you to stay at your mum's, keep your distance from your husband, and ignore Scorpio's advice to return to him. If it were me, I'd back away from the Scorpio too - because he's telling you to return to an abusive situation. quote:
He tells me he knows what I'm thinking
I don't like the sound of that either, unless you know it's true, it sounds like a line. Anyway, good luck esheep. Look after yourself. IP: Logged |
rajji
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posted June 04, 2011 09:34 AM
Tell your husband that if he truly loves you...He has to stay back with you here and not ever consider of going to jordan.
And also ask him to help get u a job or start up some busiess.
That way you dont risk yourself falling into financial crisis.
Oh and Scorpio is just showing some pity and nothing else for the moment.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted June 04, 2011 09:35 AM
Yes,good points about Jordan
If you go to Jordan it is over for you, Esheep ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
Jesus
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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