posted September 30, 2011 12:12 PM            

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Originally posted by britterfly:
basically, when a guy likes you, you won't have to try. you certainly won't have to wonder and ask people what is going on. men, even shy men, always make their intentions known.

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...EXACTLY.

Though now that I'm seeing this stuff about cultural customs, I'm starting to rethink my stance. But not much, because if his intentions were good and he were truly into her, wouldn't he have approached her parents to get the okay to date her, a LONGGGG time ago? He wouldn't lollygag around, he'd get right to it so he could be with her as much as he possibly can.

posted September 30, 2011 05:05 PM            

Patience is a virtue and it certainly is when you're dealing with an Aquarius man. I can't wait to get to know him better.

posted September 30, 2011 05:34 PM            

i'm just reminding you that you asked for people's advice and opinions on the matter. what you have gotten so far is just total honesty. if you're so certain you know what is going on with him, don't ask for advice and then get upset when people tell you what they think.

posted September 30, 2011 09:32 PM            

He's not interested.

posted October 01, 2011 12:20 AM            

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Originally posted by hellotido:
I don't mean to be upset, maybe that's just my piscean side coming out. Anyways, I'm at the party where our mutual friend has set up so we can spend time together. I was sitting with my parents and he came over. He talked to my dad a litte bit then my dad formally introduced me to him. He was very friendly and warm. We talked for a long time. He told me he is not very active on Facebook and would rather communicate with me in person or on the phone instead of on a social networking site. It was so great to finally talk to him in person rather than through email. Just wanted to give an update. Thanks everyone for answering. Appreciate it

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I still don't get it. He added you on FB before...now when you bring it up again, suddenly he's not that into FB and only wants to talk to you in person?

I think he's just telling you that and he's intentionally not adding you because he's hiding you from someone else on there for whatever reasons.

The fact that he keeps approaching your dad but never actually asks him if he can see you, is another alarm bell to me too. I can't think of any reason why he'd be doing that unless it's that he just wants to give YOU the impression that his intentions are more serious and honorable than they actually are; kinda like a guy telling a girl he loves her when he doesn't, to try and get her into bed.

posted October 01, 2011 12:33 AM            

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Originally posted by hellotido:
I don't mean to be upset, maybe that's just my piscean side coming out. Anyways, I'm at the party where our mutual friend has set up so we can spend time together. I was sitting with my parents and he came over. He talked to my dad a litte bit then my dad formally introduced me to him. He was very friendly and warm. We talked for a long time. He told me he is not very active on Facebook and would rather communicate with me in person or on the phone instead of on a social networking site. It was so great to finally talk to him in person rather than through email. Just wanted to give an update. Thanks everyone for answering. Appreciate it

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YAY!! That's a good re-start.

posted October 01, 2011 12:39 AM            

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Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy:

I still don't get it. He added you on FB before...now when you bring it up again, suddenly he's not that into FB and only wants to talk to you in person?

I think he's just telling you that and he's intentionally not adding you because he's hiding you from someone else on there for whatever reasons.

The fact that he keeps approaching your dad but never actually asks him if he can see you, is another alarm bell to me too. I can't think of any reason why he'd be doing that unless it's that he just wants to give YOU the impression that his intentions are more serious and honorable than they actually are; kinda like a guy telling a girl he loves her when he doesn't, to try and get her into bed.

Seriously - this guy more than likely, is no good. Find someone who is that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I know you're gonna get pi$$y when you read this because you like this guy and this isn't what you want to hear, but there's billions of men on this planet, and a lot of them are way hotter, smarter, just all-around better than this guy and will actually take you seriously and treat you right, too.

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posted October 01, 2011 01:45 AM            

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Originally posted by hellotido:
I see what you're saying. But I don't think he's hiding anything. He made his profile completely public. Showing all his friends, wall posts, etc. Maybe he thinks I deleted him on purpose, which I didn't.

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Did you tell him that?

posted October 01, 2011 06:18 AM            

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Originally posted by hellotido:
I don't mean to be upset, maybe that's just my piscean side coming out. Anyways, I'm at the party where our mutual friend has set up so we can spend time together. I was sitting with my parents and he came over. He talked to my dad a litte bit then my dad formally introduced me to him. He was very friendly and warm. We talked for a long time. He told me he is not very active on Facebook and would rather communicate with me in person or on the phone instead of on a social networking site. It was so great to finally talk to him in person rather than through email. Just wanted to give an update. Thanks everyone for answering. Appreciate it

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posted October 01, 2011 12:23 PM            

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Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy:
I didn't even bother reading the rest of the thread before I replied, so I'm just NOW seeing this...

But you saying this just makes me even more sure that something shady is going on with this guy. Only guys who are jerks, play women hot-and-cold like that, one minute giving you the eyes and talking your ear off, and the next totally ignoring you - even if it is just an online social site. A guy who has good intentions and is really into you will make you a priority, period, and will be thrilled to hear from you, whether it's face to face or on the web.

Or...he's shutting you out of his FB because there's something or someONE he doesn't want you to know about or he doesn't want THEM to know about YOU.

Honestly I think this is a jerk that's just playing with your head and trying to get laid. Find someone else.

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I honestly have to side with BelligerentPygmy on this one.

Now, to be fair, some people really just suck at communication. However, you can tell (or at least I can tell) these people from those who are playing people. I know one person, for instance, who is super-busy and a real scatterbrain (oddly enough, NOT an Aquarian and no prominent Aqua in the chart), but this person's actions speak for themselves. A good friend of mine is the same way (without the scatterbrain part). So, you can get a sense of when someone cares but just gets busy or sucks at answering messages.

BelligerentPygmy is spot-on. I have a feeling that he is very right when he says that this person is hiding some*one* or some*thing* from you. I do know that Asian culture is more reserved and formal than Western cultures. However, I also agree with BelligerentPygmy's statement about guys who play hot and cold and also about how a GOOD man who is truly into you will treat you. If someone cares for you, it won't be an effort to communicate with you (unless that person is literally unable to do that, but, even in that case, the person will get back to you or touch base with you at SOME point, even if they just can't do it right away--you'll know in some way that the person cares). Someone who really likes you will WANT to speak to you, spend time with you, get to know you--even if they can't talk to you as often as they'd like, or if they can't spend as much time with you as they'd like, they will give you some sort of sign or intuitive feeling that you matter to them.

I genuinely don't wish to hurt you, but I felt like I should be honest.

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*I use the whole sign system*

Libra Sun, Mercury
Scorpio Venus
Capricorn Mars
Cancer Moon

posted October 01, 2011 12:35 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
I honestly have to side with BelligerentPygmy on this one.

Now, to be fair, some people really just suck at communication. However, you can tell (or at least I can tell) these people from those who are playing people. I know one person, for instance, who is super-busy and a real scatterbrain (oddly enough, NOT an Aquarian and no prominent Aqua in the chart), but this person's actions speak for themselves. A good friend of mine is the same way (without the scatterbrain part). So, you can get a sense of when someone cares but just gets busy or sucks at answering messages.

BelligerentPygmy is spot-on. I have a feeling that he is very right when he says that this person is hiding some*one* or some*thing* from you. I do know that Asian culture is more reserved and formal than Western cultures. However, I also agree with BelligerentPygmy's statement about guys who play hot and cold and also about how a GOOD man who is truly into you will treat you. If someone cares for you, it won't be an effort to communicate with you (unless that person is literally unable to do that, but, even in that case, the person will get back to you or touch base with you at SOME point, even if they just can't do it right away--you'll know in some way that the person cares). Someone who really likes you will WANT to speak to you, spend time with you, get to know you--even if they can't talk to you as often as they'd like, or if they can't spend as much time with you as they'd like, they will give you some sort of sign or intuitive feeling that you matter to them.

I genuinely don't wish to hurt you, but I felt like I should be honest.

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Thank you for your insight. But, I feel that he has. Otherwise, I wouldn't have stuck around for this long. If he is hiding something or someone, he wouldn't have made his Facebook completely public showing all his wall posts and friends. He is single, his best friend, our mutual friend told me. But since he's a physician, work takes up a lot of his time. Which I understand, growing up with a father in the same field.

Please understand that I'm not finding someone else. I'm taking abcd's advice and being patient.

I've posted a link to a description on how to understand Aquarius guys. Maybe this will lead to a better discussion.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjRP479dhf5sQ7gWfSi4IVIAAAAA;_ylv=3?qid=20060820144608AAjfqPo