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Topic: What can cause Envy in someone?
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L0veLess Knowflake Posts: 200 From: Midgard Registered: Feb 2011
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posted July 30, 2011 06:16 PM
I'm very Envious of others. I want what they have and its not good enough if I already have what they have I want THEIRS. Like if a girl has a bf but they breakup and I eventually get him then I won't want him anymore because what I really wanted was to have their relationship not my own version of the relationship. Its like I'm chasing something that will always be out of reach. I'm not talking jealousy. That's when yu resent someone for having somehting good. Envy is actually coveting a thing. Wanting to become it to completely imbibe it into your being. I'm not condoning Envy and I'm not proud of it. I'm only curious. Besides craziness, what can be in a chart that points to this?(And that example was just an example. Thats not specifically what I want. It was just a good analogy. hahaha) ------------------ I became insane, with long intervals of horrible sanity.-Poe i fell asleep into a world of chaos and awoke to another IP: Logged |
Betty Boop Knowflake Posts: 1456 From: Betty Boop Land Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 30, 2011 08:38 PM
I would not have said Capricorn (though some would lol). I know this is your Sun, but can't remember your chart in detail. Maybe it's like the 'shadow' side of Capricorn.. IMO What's going on is that you have not found your *thing* yet, whatever that is/will be... and so you are not completely happy with where you are at and with your own achievements. If you were, then you wouldn't care as much.. You'd find it easy to ignore what others are doing. Try to focus on YOU. Work out what it is that you want and would like to have in your life.. what would make you happy (independent of the stuff you see around you and what others are doing). When you go after what others have.. it's kind of like neglecting your own desires. It's like you don't even get to a point where you ask yourself what you want -- because you *dive* right into the neighbours backyard, where the grass is always greener. IP: Logged |
frankie2912 Knowflake Posts: 66 From: yep,ks,usa Registered: Apr 2011
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posted July 30, 2011 09:29 PM
Got any Scorp in your chart? that's what I assume causes my own envy.what about your Venus? if she afflicted? IP: Logged |
tuxedoMask Knowflake Posts: 140 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted July 30, 2011 11:57 PM
interesting thread kudos for being so open and honest about iti'll check back later to see how it went IP: Logged |
Lonake Moderator Posts: 4763 From: U.S. Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 31, 2011 12:05 AM
^ No kidding, most people couldn't be honest about things like that. V.cool."chasing something that will always be out of reach." ---sounds like Neptune. My opinion on this is that you're searching for something more than just someone's lover or someone's pretty bracelet, for example. It sounds like a disguised spiritual yearning, an unsettled, anxiety-provoking state. Some people take this really far and turn into addicts of all sorts, shopping, sex, alcohol. It all seems like a search for the divine and for peace. IP: Logged |
sassaqua Knowflake Posts: 319 From: Australia Registered: May 2011
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posted July 31, 2011 12:05 AM
There was a thread on this only recently Love.If I find it, I'll post the link Here tis: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/209256.html IP: Logged |
Benedict Moon* Knowflake Posts: 2661 From: Avendesora Registered: May 2009
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posted July 31, 2011 12:23 AM
quote: I'm not talking jealousy. That's when yu resent someone for having somehting good. Envy is actually coveting a thing. Wanting to become it to completely imbibe it into your being. I'm not condoning Envy and I'm not proud of it. I'm only curious. Besides craziness, what can be in a chart that points to this?
That's why I mentioned in the other thread that I thought it was more of a 2nd house/Venus issue. 2nd house is about possessions and your self-worth...an affliction there might incline you to attach yourself to the thing you covet (maybe neptune for the lack of boundaries between you and the object) Or hell, if the 8th house is 'other peoples stuff' then that would be another place to look too. IP: Logged |
L0veLess Knowflake Posts: 200 From: Midgard Registered: Feb 2011
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posted July 31, 2011 12:55 AM
quote: Originally posted by Betty Boop: IMO What's going on is that you have not found your *thing* yet, whatever that is/will be... and so you are not completely happy with where you are at and with your own achievements. If you were, then you wouldn't care as much.. You'd find it easy to ignore what others are doing.
Ya I think that I focus way too much on what Other people are doing, thinking, etc… Drives me crazy @_@ I do need to find my own thing because I have no idea what I want to be “when I grow up”.
quote: Originally posted by Lonake: ^ No kidding, most people couldn't be honest about things like that. V.cool. It sounds like a disguised spiritual yearning, an unsettled, anxiety-provoking state. It all seems like a search for the divine and for peace.
HAHA! that V. cool thing reminded me of Bridget Jones's Diary! she would write that all the time hahaha And the whole spiritual thing reminds me of how I even want what the plants and animals have. I admire that beauty of like a pretty scene of light hitting leaves and how it illuminates the plant; I want to BE it! I want to be a part of all that. Also I just want to be happy. Thats what I want ultimately.
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L0veLess Knowflake Posts: 200 From: Midgard Registered: Feb 2011
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posted July 31, 2011 01:05 AM
quote: Originally posted by sassaqua: There was a thread on this only recently Love.If I find it, I'll post the link Here tis: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/209256.html
thanks!!! Yu know what I think i remember that thread -_- I was reading it now tho!
quote: Originally posted by Benedict Moon*: 2nd house/Venus issue. 2nd house is about possessions and your self-worth...an affliction there might incline you to attach yourself to the thing you covet (maybe neptune for the lack of boundaries between you and the object)
In the other thread I read that bout the 2nd house! Okay So I was looking in that other thread and I found that there was a lot of things being said about scorpio mainly and some libra thrown in there. I have libra asc. and I have moon in scorpio conj. pluto in the 2nd house. About the venus aspects only difficult things might be Venus conj. Saturn and Venus quintile Pluto ( i just realised in another thread i got quincunx and quintile confused urgh!) So perhaps these things might be indicators? I also never realised that I was so envious till recently. I just didn't know what to call what I was feeling. And I really hate it because it makes me get the ugliest feeling ever and I get angry. I don't think it will go away until something happens that flips the envy switch off in me. And Im trying to stay away from things that might trigger those thoughts.Also this is not something anyone would think about me having trouble with. I fume silently on the inside. Anger/Envy is eating me up from within! Cos I'm still nice to people even if I envy them and sometimes I find that if I make nice with that person then I envy them less because I know whats really going on and the flaws start to show. My envy stems from wanting perfection mostly (i think). ------------------ I became insane, with long intervals of horrible sanity.-Poe
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tuxedoMask Knowflake Posts: 140 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted July 31, 2011 01:05 AM
anyone have op's chart?IP: Logged |
L0veLess Knowflake Posts: 200 From: Midgard Registered: Feb 2011
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posted July 31, 2011 01:12 AM
quote: Originally posted by tuxedoMask: anyone have op's chart?
lol 'op' i like that word ------------------ I became insane, with long intervals of horrible sanity.-Poe i fell asleep into a world of chaos and awoke to another IP: Logged |
Lonake Moderator Posts: 4763 From: U.S. Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 31, 2011 01:29 AM
quote: Originally posted by L0veLess: Also I just want to be happy. Thats what I want ultimately.
Never read the book but I like the character's energy You're right about needing a path, but I think the journey is the destination and you're already there, not the other way around. So you will stumble onto something I am sure because you have beautiful images in your mind already. When you string together all of the beautiful moments in your life then you will see the path that is calling and that will be bliss, probably some hard work involved too but it will be meaningful, not wasted time.IP: Logged |
L0veLess Knowflake Posts: 200 From: Midgard Registered: Feb 2011
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posted July 31, 2011 01:36 AM
quote: Originally posted by Lonake: Never read the book but I like the character's energy You're right about needing a path, but I think the journey is the destination and you're already there, not the other way around. So you will stumble onto something I am sure because you have beautiful images in your mind already. When you string together all of the beautiful moments in your life then you will see the path that is calling and that will be bliss, probably some hard work involved too but it will be meaningful, not wasted time.
Ah thanks! I like the sound of this. Maybe some positive energy is all I need. ------------------ I became insane, with long intervals of horrible sanity.-Poe
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Benedict Moon* Knowflake Posts: 2661 From: Avendesora Registered: May 2009
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posted July 31, 2011 07:27 AM
quote: I have moon in scorpio conj. pluto in the 2nd house. About the venus aspects only difficult things might be Venus conj. Saturn and Venus quintile Pluto ( i just realised in another thread i got quincunx and quintile confused urgh!) So perhaps these things might be indicators? I also never realised that I was so envious till recently. I just didn't know what to call what I was feeling. And I really hate it because it makes me get the ugliest feeling ever and I get angry. I don't think it will go away until something happens that flips the envy switch off in me. And Im trying to stay away from things that might trigger those thoughts.Also this is not something anyone would think about me having trouble with. I fume silently on the inside. Anger/Envy is eating me up from within! Cos I'm still nice to people even if I envy them and sometimes I find that if I make nice with that person then I envy them less because I know whats really going on and the flaws start to show. My envy stems from wanting perfection mostly (i think).
Oooo, yes. Having such intense water energy in the second does shed light on the earlier comments. I do also believe that this could be the shadow of the Venus/Saturn aspect as well. And the 'perfection' comment is interesting, because I was thinking that maybe the envy was stemming from you not feeling 'whole' or 'complete' in a way. Do you also have Virgo placements by any chance? Or perhaps that's a side-effect of the Venus/Saturn conjunction....forget what I said.
I was thinking for a solution, if you're open to it, you could try making a list of all the things/experiences you are grateful for in your life, and all the GOOD things about yourself. Or you could try remedying your Moon by mastering something you're interested in (Scorpio Moons tend to be good at that, and yours is turbo charged with the Pluto conjunction). Letting out your feelings into a private source, like a journal, can be a cathartic release as well. The key here is to try pouring your energy into things that can *truly* bolster YOUR self worth instead of attaching it to other people's things. Hope I'm not being too blunt here. IP: Logged |
L0veLess Knowflake Posts: 200 From: Midgard Registered: Feb 2011
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posted July 31, 2011 06:43 PM
quote: Originally posted by Benedict Moon*: I was thinking for a solution, if you're open to it, you could try making a list of all the things/experiences you are grateful for in your life, and all the GOOD things about yourself. Or you could try remedying your Moon by mastering something you're interested in (Scorpio Moons tend to be good at that, and yours is turbo charged with the Pluto conjunction). Letting out your feelings into a private source, like a journal, can be a cathartic release as well. The key here is to try pouring your energy into things that can *truly* bolster YOUR self worth instead of attaching it to other people's things. Hope I'm not being too blunt here.
Thanks! I just see things like no matter how good yu think yu are at something theres always somebody better (and worse). I did write in journals since i was in 3rd grade not like a lot or everyday even, But I haven't written yet for this year. I kinda feel dumb writing. Like once i see my thoughts in front of me, I sound stupid. And I dont feel free to write what I REALLY want to because I dont want anyone knowing! Or maybe I don't want to face myself. So I limit myself. -_- But I get what yu mean to concentrate that energy into something. I think I need a career lol. So im still deciding what to do. ------------------ I became insane, with long intervals of horrible sanity.-Poe
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