posted October 06, 2011 07:03 PM            

I've always been picky but not in a laundry list way. I just had to have that feeling about them. I couldn't just be with someone because they liked me.

As I got older I started making the list because I was ending up with drug addicts, alcoholics and men who couldn't take care of themselves never mind give to a realtionship. (My pisces moon in the 12th was very active and on autopilot, when I was younger. Here's one who needs to be saved. So, go and save him. I was not able to save anyone but myself.)

So, with my list in hand and a new set of standards I ended up with no one for a long time. Then I met someone that I'm positively sure I was destined to meet. It was a five minute thing but he changed my life in ways I didn't think possible. Not long after I met my son's father. He was everything on my list. Not an alcoholic, not a drug addict, he had a job and he, he did things for me. It wasn't just me doing for him. It was nice while that phase lasted. Then things got horrible and eventually I took my son and left. I forgot to add not mentally ill to my list. I didn't know it at first but after a while it became pretty clear and he refused to get help. that was the big thing. He wouldn't admit he needed help, so he wouldn't get it.

I left him about 8 years ago and I haven't as much as gone out on a date since. I've made so many bad choices in that area of my life and some of them were very detrimental, so, I'm holding out for the person I had met before him, figuratively, but whose circumstances don't make being together for the long haul in neither one of our best interest. It hurt like a son of a ***** to let him go, but it was the right thing to do. And that's what you do when you love someone. You do the right thing for them even when you know it'll tear you apart.

I have no idea when he'll turn up. Right now it seems like never, but he will. Some day. Heavy sigh.

posted October 06, 2011 07:27 PM            

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Originally posted by pisces moon:
I'm in my early 40's, I've never been married and only had one relationship that lasted more than five minutes. It was two years and really, it should have been five minutes. But I had my son because of the realtionship so, I guess I can't complain.

I've always been picky but not in a laundry list way. I just had to have that feeling about them. I couldn't just be with someone because they liked me.

As I got older I started making the list because I was ending up with drug addicts, alcoholics and men who couldn't take care of themselves never mind give to a realtionship. (My pisces moon in the 12th was very active and on autopilot, when I was younger. Here's one who needs to be saved. So, go and save him. I was not able to save anyone but myself.)

So, with my list in hand and a new set of standards I ended up with no one for a long time. Then I met someone that I'm positively sure I was destined to meet. It was a five minute thing but he changed my life in ways I didn't think possible. Not long after I met my son's father. He was everything on my list. Not an alcoholic, not a drug addict, he had a job and he, he did things for me. It wasn't just me doing for him. It was nice while that phase lasted. Then things got horrible and eventually I took my son and left. I forgot to add not mentally ill to my list. I didn't know it at first but after a while it became pretty clear and he refused to get help. that was the big thing. He wouldn't admit he needed help, so he wouldn't get it.

I left him about 8 years ago and I haven't as much as gone out on a date since. I've made so many bad choices in that area of my life and some of them were very detrimental, so, I'm holding out for the person I had met before him, figuratively, but whose circumstances don't make being together for the long haul in neither one of our best interest. It hurt like a son of a ***** to let him go, but it was the right thing to do. And that's what you do when you love someone. You do the right thing for them even when you know it'll tear you apart.

I have no idea when he'll turn up. Right now it seems like never, but he will. Some day. Heavy sigh.

I have no aquarius in my chart at all. My seventh house is neptune in scorpio and my Saturn is aries r in the 12th. All my other planets are in the 5th and 6th houses.

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