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Topic: Capricorns and jealousy
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hannarama
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posted October 31, 2011 12:30 PM
  
I've got Sun in Aries and Venus in Aries, and recently met a nice Capricorn guy with moon and venus in Scorpio. Sometimes I go to the club he works at, but other guys come up to me and ask me to dance. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't (ugh, overusing 'sometimes'...). I was wondering if this would bother the Capricorn guy because of the Scorpio influences (or would it bother Capricorns in general) since we aren't together. He's actually with someone else but I know he's attracted to meSo my question is how would jealousy and possessiveness work for Capricorn/Scorpio guy? In my mind it wouldn't matter to them because that kind of combination would make for someone intensely loyal, thus someone else's follies wouldn't matter. Thoughts? IP: Logged |
perzhaon
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posted October 31, 2011 12:48 PM
Maybe as far as possessiveness he would tell you or construct you who to dance with and who not to dance with as a way of being mature Nd looking over you I'm guessing. Or he could simply try and keep your company. But either way it's hard to tell if he's already in relationship I'm assuming.IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted October 31, 2011 01:07 PM
Yeah,but u first must earn their trust. And it may be old-fashioned,but dancing around doesn't help  IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted October 31, 2011 01:20 PM
I agree with Venus.
A Cappie is usually loyal when IN the relationship but they're notoriously hard to get to that point.
With a Venus in Scorpio this man is not as cool as his Cappie Sun says. He can be jealous and this might prevent him from committing to you.
Know what u want. If you want HIM, why dancing around with others? Nothing wrong with dancing otherwise! 
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Originally posted by VenusDiSirius:
Yeah,but u first must earn their trust. And it may be old-fashioned,but dancing around doesn't help
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted October 31, 2011 02:41 PM
I happen to be a man with Capricorn in Sun and also Capricorn in Mars. My Venus is Aquarius, my Ascendant is Pisces and my North Node is in Cancer.I speak only for myself. As a Capricorn, if I were interested in you, I would wait for nothing. Sure I would be possessive and jealous, but then I would be the first to approach you for a dance each and every time. The other guys won't have the slightest chance. And therefore, the emotion of being jealous would be an entirely moot point. As far as commitment, its a myth that its tough to get a Capricorn to be committal, and that Capricorns are not loyal until they are in a committed relationship. IP: Logged |
hannarama
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posted October 31, 2011 04:58 PM
Well, I'm attracted to him but I already said he's with someone else... I've never been someone who steals other people's boyfriends so why should I wait? I just wanted to know if he'd be jealous/possessive even though he's not with me. I guess guys are territorial so regardless of sign if he sees what he already thinks is "his" being invaded, it would evoke some kind of reaction.He also has Mars in Pisces. (What's the mean in correlation to his Scorpio and Cap planets?) My pers. planets are Aries sun, Taurus Moon, Aries Venus, Gem rising, and Mars in Gem. I think I'm too impatient to be compatible long-term with him. IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted October 31, 2011 06:08 PM
I understand. If he dates someone else, it's tricky. I still think though that if he likes you, he will make a move. Just let him know you like him and encourage him to approach you. I was just thinking that he might not know it if you dance with others. Good luck!IP: Logged |
hannarama
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posted October 31, 2011 06:14 PM
Well he *kind of* did? The first time I ever went to the club we (my friend and I) went with his girlfriend's brother. After a couple drinks the brother kept asking my friend and I to dance, so I finally did to shut him up. Towards the end when my friend and I were leaving, the Capricorn (who was on duty at the club that night) asked me if I was having fun, and he kept jokingly pushing me out onto the floor to go dance with another guy - that kinda bugged me, I said I didn't want to... why persist? Anyway. and I said "YOU go dance with him." to my surprise he responded "I can't dance, but you look good dancing!"
I was kind of taken aback by that.He has Mercury in Sagittarius so I chalked it up to that and not a 'move' later although he did have his arm around me. IP: Logged |
maira
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posted October 31, 2011 06:18 PM
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Originally posted by hannarama:
Well, I'm attracted to him but I already said he's with someone else... I've never been someone who steals other people's boyfriends so why should I wait? I just wanted to know if he'd be jealous/possessive even though he's not with me. I guess guys are territorial so regardless of sign if he sees what he already thinks is "his" being invaded, it would evoke some kind of reaction.He also has Mars in Pisces. (What's the mean in correlation to his Scorpio and Cap planets?) My pers. planets are Aries sun, Taurus Moon, Aries Venus, Gem rising, and Mars in Gem. I think I'm too impatient to be compatible long-term with him.
You're right, you are not compatible. This is not to say that free will does not override any synastry! I just wanted to comment since I share three of your placements - I wasted a few years of my life pining after a Cancer who was the king of mixed signals. To this day I don't know whether he really fell in love with me also and was being scared or if it's usual for them to subtly send messages without any intention to follow through. Good luck!
(...at one point you have to learn patience with Venus in Aries anyway  ) IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted October 31, 2011 06:19 PM
Hmmm, sounds like he likes you.  IP: Logged |
hannarama
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posted October 31, 2011 06:24 PM
I know, I'm just not used to being in this position. I don't know what to do. He's not a sleazy guy, I think we're just not around each other enough to create a rapport or anything. I think he is afraid of me, actually but not in a passive way that a Cancer would be. He WOULD probably play games with those Scorpio/Pisces influence though, wouldn't he... How do I show him I like him too without being disrespectful? OH, I also got The Notorious Scorpio Stare. IP: Logged |
Lotis White
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posted October 31, 2011 09:24 PM
Being a Capricorn myself, I’ll tell my perspective. When considering who I’d choose for a relationship, being attracted to someone is not enough… I also look at his character and his morels, how well our priorities match ect. Also, as a Cap I am very loyal and would never cheat. I don’t care what the excuse is. Of course it’s possible that I might have a crush on a cute acquaintance, but if I am already committed to someone else no way am I going to actually get involved… My thoughts are that he may like you but if he is with someone else he probably has no intention of pursuing it. Perhaps it bothers him to see you dance with other guys… perhaps it does not… in either case if he is serious about his girlfriend it’s doesn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things. If he is a good man nothing will come of the attraction to you unless he breaks up with her at some future time. If he tries to have an affair with you before separating from her… for your own sake please don’t do it! I’ll most likely end in heartbreak… you wouldn’t be his main women… you’d just be something on the side, and in the end it’ll hurt your feelings and your self-esteem… Plus, do you really want a guy who treats women in his life like that. If a guy is willing to cheat, or has a history of cheating, that is a big red flag to me, just sayin… And about jealousy… if I were at a party and the guy I had a secret crush on was always touching and dancing with other girls, I’d probably avoid him because I’d feel like all he wants to do in play around. I’d want someone who is interested in only me, and not one who is too free and easy with his affection. I wouldn’t want to be just another play thing to him… although this has a lot to do with a women’s perspective… Most guy’s don’t like to see a girl they are attracted to with another guy, it just goes against their instincts somehow… but in your case he has a girlfriend and you are a single women… I guess as long as all you do is dance he won’t really blame you for it. And if you do end up finding your own sweetheart he has no choice but to be okay with that because he already has one of his own… even if he doesn’t like it he will most likely accept it because he has no real personal claim on you. And if he is serious about his girlfriend part of him may want you to move on so that the temptation is gone…
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hannarama
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posted October 31, 2011 11:48 PM
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Originally posted by Lotis White:
Being a Capricorn myself, I’ll tell my perspective. When considering who I’d choose for a relationship, being attracted to someone is not enough… I also look at his character and his morels, how well our priorities match ect. Also, as a Cap I am very loyal and would never cheat. I don’t care what the excuse is. Of course it’s possible that I might have a crush on a cute acquaintance, but if I am already committed to someone else no way am I going to actually get involved… My thoughts are that he may like you but if he is with someone else he probably has no intention of pursuing it. Perhaps it bothers him to see you dance with other guys… perhaps it does not… in either case if he is serious about his girlfriend it’s doesn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things. If he is a good man nothing will come of the attraction to you unless he breaks up with her at some future time. If he tries to have an affair with you before separating from her… for your own sake please don’t do it! I’ll most likely end in heartbreak… you wouldn’t be his main women… you’d just be something on the side, and in the end it’ll hurt your feelings and your self-esteem… Plus, do you really want a guy who treats women in his life like that. If a guy is willing to cheat, or has a history of cheating, that is a big red flag to me, just sayin… And about jealousy… if I were at a party and the guy I had a secret crush on was always touching and dancing with other girls, I’d probably avoid him because I’d feel like all he wants to do in play around. I’d want someone who is interested in only me, and not one who is too free and easy with his affection. I wouldn’t want to be just another play thing to him… although this has a lot to do with a women’s perspective… Most guy’s don’t like to see a girl they are attracted to with another guy, it just goes against their instincts somehow… but in your case he has a girlfriend and you are a single women… I guess as long as all you do is dance he won’t really blame you for it. And if you do end up finding your own sweetheart he has no choice but to be okay with that because he already has one of his own… even if he doesn’t like it he will most likely accept it because he has no real personal claim on you. And if he is serious about his girlfriend part of him may want you to move on so that the temptation is gone…
He is a good guy, I know he'd never cheat... I can just tell. That, and him and the gf did just move into an apt. together. Once I found that out what minimal attraction and interest I had I knew I had to squash. It's just disappointing 'cause it's so rare I find someone that likes me back or at least makes it obvious. I mean I would show him I'm interested in only him if I got the opportunity and knew he was open to that kind of expression but that's as far as I'd go for one, and two it just leads me right back to square one anyway because he's with his 6'2" wildabeast of a girlfriend....ugh. But hey look at the bright side, at least I have morals not to be a ho about the whole deal.
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lindisfarne
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posted November 01, 2011 12:17 AM
no offense but you willingly know his placements being in Scorpio.. you know how jealous they get.. and possessive it's their nature to.. it's like breathing for them...
idk if you guys are dating but if you two are somewhat exclusive, you're only shooting yourself in the foot by playing games with him.. like going to the club HE works at!?! Are you doing this to get a rise out of him? You're an Aries sun and it's natural for your type to love drama and a challenge.. not saying this cause I don't like Aries women so far, but it sounds like you are playing games.... he's not dumb he will catch on. Especially cause you dance with guys... why can't you go to another club? I honestly think you're doing this intentionally to set him off.Aside from his Scorpio placements you are forgetting his cap sun... those guys are very guarded and cautious.. saturn rules them and if they sense you are playing games they will cut as fast as you can blink. he will move onto someone he can actually invest unto that won't play mind games.. correct me if I am wrong but it sounds like you know what's going on here you know what's to come so why continue to provoke the hungry lion with your meat suit, you know? IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 01, 2011 12:20 AM
Oh right... Aries sun and Venus and he has a girl
yup typical Aries to love to push and push and want that challenge...
have some integrity and leave this guy alone.you say you're not the type to steal a woman's man. I'd reconsider that statement. long and hard, because your entire content says otherwise.. you know what you are doing. you know good and well girl! cut it out and find someone else that isn't with another person. stop playing games.. don't homewreck someone's relationship for the sake of a challenge... IP: Logged |
hannarama
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posted November 01, 2011 12:21 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
no offense but you willingly know his placements being in Scorpio.. you know how jealous they get.. and possessive it's their nature to.. it's like breathing for them...
idk if you guys are dating but if you two are somewhat exclusive, you're only shooting yourself in the foot by playing games with him.. like going to the club HE works at!?! Are you doing this to get a rise out of him? You're an Aries sun and it's natural for your type to love drama and a challenge.. not saying this cause I don't like Aries women so far, but it sounds like you are playing games.... he's not dumb he will catch on. Especially cause you dance with guys... why can't you go to another club? I honestly think you're doing this intentionally to set him off.Aside from his Scorpio placements you are forgetting his cap sun... those guys are very guarded and cautious.. saturn rules them and if they sense you are playing games they will cut as fast as you can blink. he will move onto someone he can actually invest unto that won't play mind games.. correct me if I am wrong but it sounds like you know what's going on here you know what's to come so why continue to provoke the hungry lion with your meat suit, you know?
WHOA... Hold up there sweetheart! No we're not dating, we're not even friends just acquaintances. Go read the posts 'cause I don't like repeating myself. I don't have any other opportunity to see him 'cause I just met him or yeah I'd go to a different club. God. You might as well have released the hound dogs on me.
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hannarama
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posted November 01, 2011 12:22 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Oh right... Aries sun and Venus and he has a girl
yup typical Aries to love to push and push and want that challenge...
have some integrity and leave this guy alone.you say you're not the type to steal a woman's man. I'd reconsider that statement. long and hard, because your entire content says otherwise.. you know what you are doing. you know good and well girl! cut it out and find someone else that isn't with another person. stop playing games.. don't homewreck someone's relationship for the sake of a challenge...
What's your sign?
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hannarama
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posted November 01, 2011 12:24 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Oh right... Aries sun and Venus and he has a girl
yup typical Aries to love to push and push and want that challenge...
have some integrity and leave this guy alone.you say you're not the type to steal a woman's man. I'd reconsider that statement. long and hard, because your entire content says otherwise.. you know what you are doing. you know good and well girl! cut it out and find someone else that isn't with another person. stop playing games.. don't homewreck someone's relationship for the sake of a challenge...
I'm not stealing him. So I go to the club he works at, big deal. You think him as a bouncer there means we're going to spark an instant connection and fleet off into the sunset? I don't stand by him the entire night when I go. If you also read the post I also dance with other guys, drink with my friends. I have a good time. I get what you're saying you're just coming off really bitchy about it and it's unnecessary.
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lindisfarne
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posted November 01, 2011 12:27 AM
Oh ya and caps do get jealous...
they are control freaks too... ugh just awful....
I was friends with a cap guy and he was a major control freak in which he would actively find ways to emotionally and mentally control you! Once they've let you in, be prepared for this. they can be possessive once again think of it in terms of "business". If they decide to invest in you, you are theirs. no one else's. They are controlling. Sure it's hot in the bedroom but outside... not so much..... idk the guy I knew was an overachiever, gifted but a huge drunk!!!! and he was depressed + drinking = bad! IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted November 01, 2011 12:28 AM
Well Pisces guy is a Cap Venus with a Scorpio moon..
We werent "together" but he came to me and told me he doesnt want me to talk to the security guard... He said I already caught you a few times... (oooooo.....okkkkkk) This is business, he said I saw the sparkle in your eyes when you speak to him... LOL....
yeah okHe continued to say no friend of mine, should be talking to someone I dont like... If you talk to him (even about business) then dont talk to me on the same day..
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hannarama
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posted November 01, 2011 12:30 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Oh ya and caps do get jealous...
they are control freaks too... ugh just awful....
I was friends with a cap guy and he was a major control freak in which he would actively find ways to emotionally and mentally control you! Once they've let you in, be prepared for this. they can be possessive once again think of it in terms of "business". If they decide to invest in you, you are theirs. no one else's. They are controlling. Sure it's hot in the bedroom but outside... not so much..... idk the guy I knew was an overachiever, gifted but a huge drunk!!!! and he was depressed + drinking = bad!
You know, my last boyfriend had Cap rising and he was a huge drunk too. I swear some of the Sagittarius traits leak over into Caps and Caps into Saggi. And oh. my. god. mental control? I thought I was going crazy but that's exactly what it felt like! I didn't understand it at all 'cause with Aries it's like "Well, I'm not/never did that to you why are you doing it to me?!" ETA: I asked this at all 'cause I wanted to know about how they are with an outsider when they're in a relationship vs. single. I didn't clarify that ever and I should have, so that's on me.
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mintgirl123
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posted November 01, 2011 12:30 AM
Seriously? Cappy guys find it hard to commit? From my experience, they want to get serious way too fast! And start planning the future and stuff like that. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 01, 2011 12:31 AM
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Originally posted by hannarama:
WHOA... Hold up there sweetheart! No we're not dating, we're not even friends just acquaintances. Go read the posts 'cause I don't like repeating myself. I don't have any other opportunity to see him 'cause I just met him or yeah I'd go to a different club. God. You might as well have released the hound dogs on me.
LOL okay my bad I apologize
I messed up, I'm sorry I didn't read every post...
I'm sorry I didn't mean to come on so strong..... Seriously forgive me that was my bad. I can be a little strong, sorry about that!!! But ya IF you guys ever got together pleaaaaseeee do not do that, like dance with others guys etc. Scorpios are scaring possessive! it's so irrational but you have to see it to believe it... my best friend is a scorpio tell me why she isnt dating this Capricorn guy and just because he was saying goodbye to his lab partner she flipped out, calls me, starts freaking out "What is he doing?!? he's talking to that ***** !' oh my god I'm so mad he's mine not hers!" blah balh blah see? they are crazy LOL. and she ignored him when he went over to say hi, she gave him the death stare! they aren't even dating yet! they are possessive trust me. if anything does happen between you, unless you like seeing that side than dance with other guys (not that dancing is wrong just saying Scorpios are messed up when they really like you sometimes) IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 01, 2011 12:36 AM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Seriously? Cappy guys find it hard to commit? From my experience, they want to get serious way too fast! And start planning the future and stuff like that.
THIS IS TRUE....
I don't buy the "hard to commit" as soon as they sense that you're a good investment of some sort they will hound you like no tomorrow. they become insatiably driven until you accept them, and once that happens,! they will plan marriage or talk about it.. that's what my bf did, moment he seen me he chased after me. I ran away from him for a year and throughout that time he would STiLL contact me after I told him "nope" 2 times and than he kept trying, and now he's mentioning marriage and stuff.. it's really something but I agree with you! if these guys sense that you're a good fit they WANT you and no one else can have you they may not get you now but they will make a vow internally to get you somehow. Trust me. He has mars in cap house 1 (which intensifies this) and cap ascendant All the cap guys I know have been like this.. the word "no" means "next week, next month, next year" seriously! IP: Logged |
hannarama
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posted November 01, 2011 12:36 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
LOL okay my bad I apologize
I messed up, I'm sorry I didn't read every post...
I'm sorry I didn't mean to come on so strong.....Seriously forgive me that was my bad. I can be a little strong, sorry about that!!!
It's fine, I figured it wasn't intentional but DAMN. quote:
But ya IF you guys ever got together pleaaaaseeee do not do that, like dance with others guys etc. Scorpios are scaring possessive! it's so irrational but you have to see it to believe it...my best friend is a scorpio tell me why she isnt dating this Capricorn guy and just because he was saying goodbye to his lab partner she flipped out, calls me, starts freaking out "What is he doing?!? he's talking to that ***** !' oh my god I'm so mad he's mine not hers!" blah balh blah see? they are crazy LOL. and she ignored him when he went over to say hi, she gave him the death stare! they aren't even dating yet! they are possessive trust me. if anything does happen between you, unless you like seeing that side than dance with other guys (not that dancing is wrong just saying Scorpios are messed up when they really like you sometimes)
Yeah, my best friend is a Scorpio too and even though she WILL NOT commit to her Aquarius guy (as in say they're dating even... yes, it's messed up beyond the energy I have to even explain their sitch.) but he's not allowed to talk to certain girls, and oh my god I've seen her go nuts on him. Like in hindsight when you're NOT the target it seems a little romantic they care so much and are that possessive but no.. if someone went on me like she did on her man. OH HELLL NO. I just couldn't sit back and get screamed at like that. IP: Logged |
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