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Topic: Do you believe in divorce?
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lindisfarne
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posted November 04, 2011 01:50 AM
  
of course if you are with an abusive person domestic abuse mental emotional abuse I think this calls for divorcebut if none of that is occurring.. do you guys believe in divorce? why or why not? why decide to Marry someone and make vows and promise to work it out when you actually won't?? What's your Venus sign? any aspects that partner up with your opinions of divorce? IP: Logged |
Moonfish
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posted November 04, 2011 01:53 AM
Yes I believe in divorce, whether we think people are doing it for the right or wrong reasons. At the end of the day we only have one life and we should spend it with who we want. I definitely think that couples should work on there marriage before throwing in the towel, but sometimes "love" just fades over time. It is not something that should be forced.
-- & people who get married in the first place for the wrong reasons, like lust, are in a whole different category. They disgrace the word Marriage. Venus in Libra 7H
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amowls**
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posted November 04, 2011 01:56 AM
Usually I say I don't believe in divorce, but I believe in open marriages and so forth because a marriage is more than just a sexual romantic relationship, it's a LIFE PARTNERSHIP. It's someone who is there for you to aid you, offer companionship and support, not just to be your "lover." Venus sign: Pisces, 10th house, square Saturn/Uranus, Chiron. Neptune in 7th in Cap. IP: Logged |
Cynnared
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posted November 04, 2011 02:04 AM
I don't believe in marriage so divorce doesn't come into the picture for me. So many people end up getting married and spending loads of money and the same when they divorce. I think it's a waste of cash, really.There are some really legit reason why somebody would seek a divorce and I an see why. I have a few friends who are divorced and boy did they ever party it up, saying that marriage was the worst thing that happened to them.... My Piscean Venus is doing the double square dance with Jupiter and Neptune in Saggy (6th) Sun opposite Uranus in Libra in the 5th.......Uranus in Libra has different ways of being and doing the relationship card.....I'm not traditional, that's for sure. Cynn IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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posted November 04, 2011 02:12 AM
I am skeptical when it comes to marriage 
It's so hard to get out of.
Age and experience teaches you that we all go through stages or periods of change that sometimes radically alters our view points, goals, etc.
So what you want now or today may be totally different from what you want or need in 5 or 10 years.I do believe in marriage if it has anything to do with security.
Well especially for older people or people who have serious health issues.
Heaven forbid something should happen and leave the surviving partner struggling or with nothing.
Especially if a survivors pension or retirement pension would make all the difference in their quality of life. I have the Moon and Venus in Taurus IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 04, 2011 02:26 AM
divorce is for infidelity/abuse/major issues that can't be resolved after years of trying (trust issues, lack of respect etc)I don't see myself giving up that easily. IP: Logged |
Venus
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posted November 04, 2011 02:34 AM
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Originally posted by amowls**:
Usually I say I don't believe in divorce, but I believe in open marriages and so forth because a marriage is more than just a sexual romantic relationship, it's a LIFE PARTNERSHIP. It's someone who is there for you to aid you, offer companionship and support, not just to be your "lover."
i dont get it, if you expect loyalty from a partner you are only treating them as a lover? i believe in marriage, and in divorce i dont believe in open marriages..
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amelia28
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posted November 04, 2011 02:51 AM
I believe in divorce bc until recently we did not marry for love and since we started marrying for love divorce rates when up. there is a reason for this and studying the history of marriage would bring light into this. Also I believe in divorce bc I don't own my husband and my husband doesn't own me. People should not be forced to stay together bc of a contract/commitment. If you truly love someone and they really want out the humane thing to do is to let them go, I feel that is true love. True love is not possessive, it is unconditional and lets the other evolve and grow and express his/her individuality.ascendent conjunct uranus and Draconic Juno in Aqua. I also believe in fighting for what you love and doing everything you can to make it work BTW (venus and mars in leo and moon in pisces). IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted November 04, 2011 02:56 AM
I don't even believe in marriage... lolMy Venus is in Taurus trine Mars/Neptune in Cappy and opposite Pluto in Scorpio. I probably will not get married. But if I was to get married - I would take my time to make a decision... My Cap influence does everything slowlllllly & surely... so once I made a commitment to a person, I doubt that I would get a divorce. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted November 04, 2011 03:15 AM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
I don't even believe in marriage... lolMy Venus is in Taurus trine Mars/Neptune in Cappy and opposite Pluto in Scorpio. I probably will not get married. But if I was to get married - I would take my time to make a decision... My Cap influence does everything slowlllllly & surely... so once I made a commitment to a person, I doubt that I would get a divorce.
Power to you! ;p I admire very much strong independent women and men...is so attractive. IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted November 04, 2011 04:51 AM
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Mysticknowflake
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posted November 04, 2011 05:14 AM
Venus conjunct mercury in Pisces, in 9th conjoined MC. I do believe in divorce...
As humans we make mistakes and sometimes we grow apart and evolve, if our partner doesn't grow with us, then divorce is all too often inevitable. I am a true romantic though and I believe that we are only truly married to our twinflame. That relationship supper-seeds all other binding ties that we have. That being said, I too believe that we come here to hook up with Karma and work on soul evolution. We may choose to marry a very difficult partner because it was imperative to our own life experiences. I chose to have children with a karmic soul-mate my children were the most important reason for that relationship in my life, family issues that we both had to work out were also key reasons. Divorce happens all too often, but sometimes it is just the soul acknowledgment of two people who have other things to accomplish.
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amelia28
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posted November 04, 2011 05:22 AM
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Originally posted by Mysticknowflake:
Venus conjunct mercury in Pisces, in 9th conjoined MC. I do believe in divorce...
As humans we make mistakes and sometimes we grow apart and evolve, if our partner doesn't grow with us, then divorce is all too often inevitable. I am a true romantic though and I believe that we are only truly married to our twinflame. That relationship supper-seeds all other binding ties that we have. That being said, I too believe that we come here to hook up with Karma and work on soul evolution. We may choose to marry a very difficult partner because it was imperative to our own life experiences. I chose to have children with a karmic soul-mate my children were the most important reason for that relationship in my life, family issues that we both had to work out were also key reasons. Divorce happens all too often, but sometimes it is just the soul acknowledgment of two people who have other things to accomplish.
Thank you for sharing, your comment is beautiful, filled with depth, wisdom and love and it touched my heart. I love venus in pisces. IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
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posted November 04, 2011 10:28 AM
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Originally posted by Cynnared:
I don't believe in marriage so divorce doesn't come into the picture for me.
I'm repulsed by anything legal, so no to marriage or anything contractual. It's like getting a tattoo and 5 years later deciding you no longer wanted it. And getting it painfully removed. You'd think hard about why you even got it in the first place. That's my two cents, if I say anymore I'll get into a long drawn out debate about the ineffectiveness of legally binding contractual agreements. IP: Logged |
rajji
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posted November 04, 2011 11:06 AM
Marriage is a lifetime commitment for me and nobody can ever make for a perfect partner. So I would try to make the right choice before jumping into it...If I get married I will not divorce...It takes a lot of effort to stay together in any kind of relationship...unless anybody wants a joyride.
If my future husband would die under any circumstances then I will not remarry ever again.
I can be extremely loyal.
Marriage is a one time affair for me..just like many stages in life comes but only once-Infancy,childhood,adolescence,adulthood etc etc.IP: Logged |
Leonine8
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posted November 04, 2011 12:13 PM
I hope to remain married forever but generally it's a legal agreement people should be able to end like other types. Also we teach kids very little about choosing good spouses. People change and evolve. Marriage can work. Divorce does hurt kids, even the grown-up ones. Tough stuff. Venus in Libra.IP: Logged |
Leonine8
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posted November 04, 2011 12:13 PM
I hope to remain married forever but generally it's a legal agreement people should be able to end like other types. Also we teach kids very little about choosing good spouses. People change and evolve. Marriage can work. Divorce does hurt kids, even the grown-up ones. Tough stuff. Venus in Libra.IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted November 04, 2011 11:39 PM
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Originally posted by NativelyJoan:
I'm repulsed by anything legal, so no to marriage or anything contractual. It's like getting a tattoo and 5 years later deciding you no longer wanted it. And getting it painfully removed. You'd think hard about why you even got it in the first place. That's my two cents, if I say anymore I'll get into a long drawn out debate about the ineffectiveness of legally binding contractual agreements.
That is an awesome analogy !!!! IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted November 05, 2011 12:30 AM
I don't believe in divorce. Watch the movie fireproofVenus in Leo, and cancer sun IP: Logged |
Dee
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posted November 05, 2011 12:57 AM
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Originally posted by lalalinda:
I am skeptical when it comes to marriage
It's so hard to get out of.
Age and experience teaches you that we all go through stages or periods of change that sometimes radically alters our view points, goals, etc.
So what you want now or today may be totally different from what you want or need in 5 or 10 years.I do believe in marriage if it has anything to do with security.
Well especially for older people or people who have serious health issues.
Heaven forbid something should happen and leave the surviving partner struggling or with nothing.
Especially if a survivors pension or retirement pension would make all the difference in their quality of life. I have the Moon and Venus in Taurus
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mintgirl123
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posted November 05, 2011 01:02 AM
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Originally posted by Venus:
i dont get it, if you expect loyalty from a partner you are only treating them as a lover?i believe in marriage, and in divorce i dont believe in open marriages..
I know right? What's the point of making vows and marrying a person, if you're still hoping to sleep with other people? My libra stellium wants love that goes the distance and lasts. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted November 05, 2011 01:18 AM
OMG people that have an automatic negative response to open marriage don't understand dont understand the history of marriage. Until recently people did not marry for love but for survival so people had lovers on the side...people who have an automatic reaction towards open marriage have been conditioned to think this way and it never occurred to them to question it. Are your views on marriage your own or a result of brainwashing or conditioning ask yourself?At the very least you should be OPEN MINDED enough to understand that every single person in this world is different and that different things work for different people and that there is just not one standard of things for a reason. I AM NOT A ONE SIZE FIT ALL, NOBODY IS. you are you and I am I and THERE ISN'T ONE WAY THAT WORKS FOR EVERYONE. You don't get to decide what works for me, I do. I know who I am...you don't have to go out and have a open marriage yourself but you don't have to condemn in your head or put down in your head people that believe in it or practice it. IP: Logged |
Mysticknowflake
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posted November 05, 2011 04:05 AM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
Thank you for sharing, your comment is beautiful, filled with depth, wisdom and love and it touched my heart. I love venus in pisces.
You are very welcome!~ :-) IP: Logged |
Astra
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posted November 05, 2011 04:26 AM
I have an Aries Venus and I don't believe in divorce except in cases of abuse or cheating. If you make a serious commitment to someone, then I think you should stand by them through both the good and bad times. That's why I'm not one to jump into marriage. It's a life-altering decision and should not be treated as a joke. I think that if you have any doubts about committing yourself to one person, then it's best not to get married at all. One false belief that many people have prior to getting married is that it is their spouse's responsibility to make them happy. However, this is the wrong way to go about it. It is YOUR job to make yourself happy. Your spouse should just be icing on the cake; they should just enhance your happiness. To make another person take full responsibility for your happiness is not fair or realistic. Marriage is not a fairytale that ends in happily-ever-after. It's a roller coaster filled with plenty of highs and lows. It requires a lot of hard work, compromise, excellent communication skills, etc. It's not all romance and rainbows. Marriage is both heaven and hell at the same time. Accept marriage for what it is and not what you wish it would be. IP: Logged |
BelligerentPygmy
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posted November 05, 2011 05:31 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
of course if you are with an abusive person domestic abuse mental emotional abuse I think this calls for divorcebut if none of that is occurring.. do you guys believe in divorce? why or why not? why decide to Marry someone and make vows and promise to work it out when you actually won't?? What's your Venus sign? any aspects that partner up with your opinions of divorce?
I think that if two people are truly unhappy and staying married makes them miserable, they should divorce. Life is too short. I don't see how anything in my chart would account for that opinion though... IP: Logged |
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