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Topic: Oh dear, Mars in Capricorn - Into cruelty and sex someone help!!!
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lindisfarne
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posted November 08, 2011 02:25 AM
  
Okay I really get shy talking about my sex life so I'll keep it short lol.I don't know if it's just my boyfriend or if anyone can explain this to me I hope someone else has had this experience... But as my guy and I become more and more sexually intimate I have noticed a few alarming things. I'm not sure if he is noticing it or not maybe he enjoys the sex a little too much and gets carried away, or he just completely lets go and fulfills all his fantasies and sexual desires with me I don't really freaking know but he started choking me! It was like a violent type of thing... to be honest is turned me on so fast. I'm actually really into that Stuff but I'm way too coy to just come up and admit it. He also seems love grabbing and smacking and slapping, which I don't mind it's like he is kind of reading my mind here LOL I really love that kind of stuff I hope no one here thinks that's weird but i realy am. He seems to really love choking me though. My mars opposes his Cap Mars, mine being in Cancer. I will literally do anything he wants/asks when it comes to sex, I'm very submissive. So are Cap placements just into some type of cruelty with sex? Or is it just mine? One of my friends dated a guy with Mars in cap and she told me some weird stories about how he just loved being very dominant in the bedroom and loved control... so any insight here haha! Also is anyone else into this stuff? IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted November 08, 2011 02:40 AM
I dated one Cap Mars, he was similar to what you wrote above. We were not sexually compatible. I have Mars in Libra.IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted November 08, 2011 02:41 AM
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I will literally do anything he wants/asks when it comes to sex, I'm very submissive.
I'm exactly like this with the right guy! I have Mars in Cap (but conj Neptune). It's different in men & women. My ex with Cap Mars was sexually aggressive which I love! I'm kind of 'on and off' dating another Cap Mars guy now, but he seems very controlled and I'm just not sure if I see this in him. I hope it's 'hidden'. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 08, 2011 02:42 AM
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Originally posted by Lonake:
I dated one Cap Mars, he was similar to what you wrote above. We were not sexually compatible. I have Mars in Libra.
What are you into, that made you two incompatible sexually? Yes I have read up on this placement and apparently what I experienced is not uncommon for men with this placement. It's weird I thought they were into traditional roles IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted November 08, 2011 02:44 AM
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what I experienced is not uncommon for men with this placement
I hope you're right!!
The guy I mentioned (who I am seeing) has a Virgo Sun trine Mars... Virgo is more 'laid back'... I honestly don't know what to think. Is your bf more subdued/shy in other situations? IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 08, 2011 02:45 AM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
I'm exactly like this with the right guy! I have Mars in Cap (but conj Neptune).It's different in men & women. My ex with Cap Mars was sexually aggressive which I love! I'm kind of 'on and off' dating another Cap Mars guy now, but he seems very controlled and I'm just not sure if I see this in him. I hope it's 'hidden'.
I do think this is hidden in Men with Cap mars.
Just based on other stories ive read and my own personal experience.They let on a certain.... front as if they are very controlled into that traditional type of thing, very sensual, yes but BAM I think it happens once they are very comfortable is what it seems? It definately turns me on because I *love* that aggressive manliness in a guy there's no f*ing way I will date a submissive guy. Major turn off. I love very dominant men. Yum.. lol! So with the right guy only you'll be submissive? Has that only happened with one guy? IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 08, 2011 02:50 AM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
I hope you're right!!
The guy I mentioned (who I am seeing) has a Virgo Sun trine Mars... Virgo is more 'laid back'... I honestly don't know what to think.Is your bf more subdued/shy in other situations?
He's a quiet go-better he's very dominant maybe its just me but even when I first met him I could just smell the dominance in him maybe it was his cap rising giving them that sense of responsibility it was extremely hot,.. he's not in your face about things very laid back but definately aggressive. I do think there's conflict with him though he has Cancer moon mercury and Venus, Venus in his 7th house. He wants to be loved and loves to nurture but that mars in cap that desire to control and that cruelty aspect is hidden until they get comfortable with you that's when they unleash is what it seems like to me and based off other stories I have read. I got to know an astrologer and she also told me about this placement and the propensity for cruelty. But I think cruel is an extreme word I'll say.... unconventional ESP when it comes to sexual desires LOL IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 08, 2011 02:56 AM
I asked my friend and she also said her mars in cap guy she dated was also into tying her up, see again the whole "cruel" control thing seems to be big with these guys. Of course not in a violent way but you know what mars in cap they have really strong urges but control is big for them it seems they wait until the right moment to unleash. Thats why I think mars in cap is also exalted maybe because they work hard to keep their desires in control and at the right time, moment and place they unleash all that high intensity of sexual desires towards their partner. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted November 08, 2011 03:40 AM
I have mars trine neptune sextile pluto conjunct venus and I am the same in the sense that I will get into whatever the other person is into because seeing them enjoying themselves and enjoying me is a complete turn on...I like spanking, grabbing, squeezing, biting, pulling, spanking, screaming.....oh and hand cuff me, tie me down...I want to get a wip and put a stripping pole in my room so I can learn how to strip for fun to make who I like happy. IP: Logged |
BelligerentPygmy
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posted November 08, 2011 03:46 AM
I have Mars in Cancer,square Saturn, Jupiter and Pluto...supposedly I'm supposed to think stuff like that is the bees knees but it honestly turns my stomach. If a guy EVER tried to choke me or any of the other stuff you guys are mentioning...God help him. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 08, 2011 03:53 AM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
I have mars trine neptune sextile pluto conjunct venus and I am the same in the sense that I will get into whatever the other person is into because seeing them enjoying themselves and enjoying me is a complete turn on...I like spanking, grabbing, squeezing, biting, pulling, spanking, screaming.....oh and hand cuff me, tie me down...I want to get a wip and put a stripping pole in my room so I can learn how to strip for fun to make who I like happy.
You sound like SO much fun!!!!!!!! IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted November 08, 2011 04:18 AM
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anongrl10
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posted November 08, 2011 04:21 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Okay I really get shy talking about my sex life so I'll keep it short lol.I don't know if it's just my boyfriend or if anyone can explain this to me I hope someone else has had this experience... But as my guy and I become more and more sexually intimate I have noticed a few alarming things. I'm not sure if he is noticing it or not maybe he enjoys the sex a little too much and gets carried away, or he just completely lets go and fulfills all his fantasies and sexual desires with me I don't really freaking know but he started choking me! It was like a violent type of thing... to be honest is turned me on so fast. I'm actually really into that Stuff but I'm way too coy to just come up and admit it. He also seems love grabbing and smacking and slapping, which I don't mind it's like he is kind of reading my mind here LOL I really love that kind of stuff I hope no one here thinks that's weird but i realy am. He seems to really love choking me though. My mars opposes his Cap Mars, mine being in Cancer. I will literally do anything he wants/asks when it comes to sex, I'm very submissive. So are Cap placements just into some type of cruelty with sex? Or is it just mine? One of my friends dated a guy with Mars in cap and she told me some weird stories about how he just loved being very dominant in the bedroom and loved control... so any insight here haha! Also is anyone else into this stuff?
LOL, you don't sound THAT shy to me! IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted November 08, 2011 04:24 AM
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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
I have a Capricorn Mars and Neptune and am not like that...sex isn't even important to me at all. I'd say that (a) maybe it's just the guys who are like that or (b) they have other things in the chart in common. Or, too, maybe the houses? My Mars and Neptune are in the 2nd, if that helps.
Regardes, You are religious, you don't want to be in a relationship or want to have sex. Have you ever been attracted to the idea of becoming a monk or a nun? Amelia IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted November 08, 2011 04:48 AM
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lindisfarne
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posted November 08, 2011 07:14 AM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
Regardes,You are religious, you don't want to be in a relationship or want to have sex. Have you ever been attracted to the idea of becoming a monk or a nun? Amelia
LOL!
sexual repression maybe? IP: Logged |
britterfly
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posted November 08, 2011 09:07 AM
lin, it sounds to me like you have some pretty stellar sexual compatibility. As long as it stays fun and no one gets hurt or mean, go with it! Come up with a "safe" word, so he knows when to stop.Have fun!!  IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 08, 2011 09:17 AM
I am a man with Capricorn in Mars and Sun. I have a healthy libido and I exercise it daily with my wife, and I am pushing 50 years oldThe choking thing is not normal. please don't use astrology to condone bizzare behavior. That has to be stopped. IP: Logged |
BelligerentPygmy
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posted November 08, 2011 10:25 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
LOL!
sexual repression maybe?
Why, just because they don't fit your idea of what a libido and sexual activity should be? What if I did that to you? Actually, let me do it so you know what it feels like : I'd argue that anyone who actually gets off on being physically and verbally ABUSED during the sexual act, probably has more 'issues' than someone who just isn't that into sex or abstains from it because of their personal faith. This world is warped anyway - it's so preoccupied with rutting that anyone who actually has anything else on their mind or isn't always on their back, is seen as frigid, repressed or abnormal in some way. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 08, 2011 12:55 PM
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Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy:
Why, just because they don't fit your idea of what a libido and sexual activity should be? What if I did that to you? Actually, let me do it so you know what it feels like : I'd argue that anyone who actually gets off on being physically and verbally ABUSED during the sexual act, probably has more 'issues' than someone who just isn't that into sex or abstains from it because of their personal faith.This world is warped anyway - it's so preoccupied with rutting that anyone who actually has anything else on their mind or isn't always on their back, is seen as frigid, repressed or abnormal in some way.
I wasn't attacking you if thats what you're getting uppity about.You can have your opinions. Its not abuse either. I obviously struck a nerve hahah! I never called you frigid or repressed. You seem awfully hypersenstive so maybe there is something beneath it. Maybe it is repression maybe you really do have an issue because you know, your reaction is telltale for it. Just sayin! Everyone likes different kinds of sexuality activity. Its okay to like different things too, but i wasn't attacking you with that comment...but you're reaction tells me that you are
a. not comfortable
b. hiding something
c. have an issue you should get it in check. Whatever it is. Sex is a wonderful thing. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted November 08, 2011 02:40 PM
I said basically everything I had to say about this here:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/203105.html I used to be vapor-lash!
lindis -
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they work hard to keep their desires in control and at the right time, moment and place they unleash all that high intensity of sexual desires towards their partner.
I like the sound of that. His Mars is on my Moon in Capricorn.. so things are moving 'slowly' (because that's just the way it goes with Cappy lol) but I feel like we have chemistry for sure IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 08, 2011 02:51 PM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
I said basically everything I had to say about this here:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/203105.html I used to be vapor-lash! You have a Cappy moon?
 lindis - I like the sound of that. His Mars is on my Moon in Capricorn.. so things are moving 'slowly' (because that's just the way it goes with Cappy lol) but I feel like we have chemistry for sure
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Malena
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posted November 08, 2011 09:58 PM
Wow!! I am a Mars Capricorn (female) and I love being choked, held down, muffled. I've never tried doing it to a guy but I wouldn't be averse. I'm not really into pain itself, it's the control/struggle aspect that really turns me on. Like the greater the struggle, the more satisfying the release. I don't like "submitting" to my partner right off the bat, I like it when he sort of holds me down and EARNS my submission.Obviously this is all IF I trust the person... I would be upset if a guy just did some weird violent thing out of nowhere, or did something I specifically told him not to, or wouldn't stop if I asked. I don't automatically consider it abusive to slap or choke during sex if it's what both partners want to do. What is abusive to me is doing something you know your partner is not OK with. But that can take a lot of forms, even "vanilla" sex. Strangely, the worst experience I've had with a guy refusing to respect boundaries was a Cancer Sun. I don't know the rest of his chart because I got the hell away from him and never looked back. Any time I said "No" he said "But please? Please? Please? PLEASE? Why can't I??" Which just made me not want to do ANYTHING he wanted to do because I didn't like being smothered/begged into it. I don't mean this in an anti-Cancer way because he was just one individual guy (and I am often quite attracted to Cancers, which is how I got into that situation). I bring it up only because the Cap-Cancer opposition aspect fascinates me. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted November 08, 2011 10:22 PM
Malena quote:
Obviously this is all IF I trust the person... I would be upset if a guy just did some weird violent thing out of nowhere, or did something I specifically told him not to, or wouldn't stop if I asked. I don't automatically consider it abusive to slap or choke during sex if it's what both partners want to do. What is abusive to me is doing something you know your partner is not OK with. But that can take a lot of forms, even "vanilla" sex.
Couldn't have said it better! quote:
But please? Please? Please? PLEASE?
I had this happen with a Cancer Moon guy... not sexually, but in other areas. It drove me insane for a while.
lindis -
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You have a Cappy moon?
Yes! I have both Moon & Mars in Cap - but not conjunct by degree IP: Logged |
frankie2912
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posted November 08, 2011 11:23 PM
I'm a Capricorn sun & neptune (conjunct each other) and I love the violence aspect of sex but I am the submissive type (Mars in Pisces)...if a Mars in Capricorn is like what you say, I WANT ONE..especially if he conjuncts my sun..meoowwwww IP: Logged |
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