posted November 29, 2011 02:06 PM            

say, for example, you know you're secretly fallin in love with your friend but then it happens that life is on the way and you two have to be apart..sadly, none of you never really got the chance to tell the other person what you really feel for each other (nor the courage to do so--fear of rejection). As time had pass, will you still remember that person and still think about her/him? Or will just go on with your life and hopefully get over with that person, and cut them out of your life?

posted November 29, 2011 02:12 PM            

I wouldn't dwell on it to be honest...I'd probably cause myself even more pain..which I can't really handle too much of, I'm too emotional.

posted November 29, 2011 02:16 PM            

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Originally posted by malicefey:
Of course I would think back..but since it wasn't meant to be then I would try my best to move on. I would think back just out of curiosity "I wonder what happened to him.." but it does not in any way signify that I will still have the same feelings for him. If it has to end then the emotional ties will be severed...or atleast I would severe it..but thinking out of curiosity is fine.

I wouldn't dwell on it to be honest...I'd probably cause myself even more pain..which I can't really handle too much of, I'm too emotional when it comes to that stuff.

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I wanted to add that it is normal to feel this way...but it really sucks for us since we love intensely.

posted November 29, 2011 02:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
I will think about them every day.....until someone else comes along!

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Haha, ya or that :P

posted November 29, 2011 02:23 PM            

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Originally posted by 1-scorp:
If something like life got in the way, I'd move on.... or if it were really intense feelings, I'd have to tell them about my feelings.

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posted November 29, 2011 02:29 PM            

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
I will think about them every day.....until someone else comes along!

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posted November 29, 2011 02:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
I will think about them every day.....until someone else comes along!

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posted November 29, 2011 03:14 PM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
i'm slowly learning to move on but at the same time, there's still part of me saying, "wait! what if he's the one?" anyone here feel the same thing? oww god, i sound so corny!! xD

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Naw, I get it. It is a very frustrating experience. I was with a guy for several years, lost my virginity to him, and he was my closest friend. To this day, I am just as emotionally attached to him as I was when we broke up (almost 12 years ago). Ask my heart and it says, "I love love love him and will be devoted to his love forever". Ask my mind and it says, "Seriously B!tch... Seriously? There just come a time when you need to let go." If he were to randomly call me up and say, "OMG I miss you and love you so much, you are the one I want to be with" my mind would totally win over my heart. There are so many more cons than pros involved in being with him.

I think part of Venus in Scorpio's learning experience is that things live on after they die. That everything makes a permanent imprint, and no matter how we fight it, those things remain. It's only through transforming how we relate to those imprints, which results in true love. Venus in Scorpio teaches me that all past experiences leave a residue which can transform us, and the deeper I immerse myself in love, the richer the transformation.

posted November 29, 2011 03:21 PM            

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Naw, I get it. It is a very frustrating experience. I was with a guy for several years, lost my virginity to him, and he was my closest friend. To this day, I am just as emotionally attached to him as I was when we broke up (almost 12 years ago). Ask my heart and it says, "I love love love him and will be devoted to his love forever". Ask my mind and it says, "Seriously B!tch... Seriously? There just come a time when you need to let go." If he were to randomly call me up and say, "OMG I miss you and love you so much, you are the one I want to be with" my mind would totally win over my heart. There are so many more cons than pros involved in being with him.

I think part of Venus in Scorpio's learning experience is that things live on after they die. That everything makes a permanent imprint, and no matter how we fight it, those things remain. It's only through transforming how we relate to those imprints, which results in true love. Venus in Scorpio teaches me that all past experiences leave a residue which can transform us, and the deeper I immerse myself in love, the richer the transformation.

Please excuse me if I make no sense, I have been chugging DayQuil to get rid of a cold haha.

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posted November 29, 2011 04:02 PM              

I will pine over the lost love but will never again feel the same way towards that person.

If I didn't have closure with someone, as in not letting them know my feelings, and I get into a relationship with someone else and run into the one who got away, I wouldn't care and wouldn't feel a thing. I'm loyal to who I'm with at the moment, all the way to my core. Until they do me wrong.

posted November 29, 2011 05:07 PM            

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As time had pass, will you still remember that person and still think about her/him?

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Yes, most definitely. Venus in Scorpio loves too deeply to forget an unrequited love. I would be thinking of the person as the 'one who got away' not necessarily pining about him. It also depends how mature I am; if I'm just teenager, pining is what I would probably do. Eventually I will grow out of it.

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Or will just go on with your life and hopefully get over with that person, and cut them out of your life?

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I will not cut them out of my life because to me he will be special. A friend let alone a lover is a special bond especially for a Venus in Scorpio. I love deeply, I trust "hardly" but when I do, it takes a lot to remove the trust. If I've fallen in love with someone, he's special to me. Can't cut him off. But life eventually gets in the way if the love is not reciprocated.

posted November 29, 2011 10:05 PM            

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Originally posted by bellesoul:
... i think you need to become a bit more certain of what you actually want first in ur head, make a decision and then take action.

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he gave me all the signs that he could be liking me back and done some little sweet things for me too but i just needed him to say it out loud cause i don't wanna jump into conclusion that he likes me back, and making myself lke a fool and so i kept everything that i felt for him a secret.. I've actually made up my mind which is to focus more on my studies especially i'm entering a new stage in my life, it's just that i thought and felt that life was cruel in my part hehehe, i mean, both of us are doing the same course and would've gone in the same university if only he didn't have to move to other state! and i've never felt so open with anyone but him, so it's kinda hard to get used to not having him around me..i didn't tell him i like him because 1) i was affraid of rejection 2) if ever he said he likes me too, long distance relationship would be too hard for me, i need constant reassurance that he wouldn't cheat unless i fully trust him 3) if my parents find out that i have a boyfriend, i'm dead! lol...so yeah, i'd rather not tell him even if its so intense, i can bear the pain

posted November 29, 2011 11:49 PM            

Like, when it's more than just physical attraction, I might become acquainted with maybe one or two of their friends (hey, it's win-win! I learn more about them and I get more friends!)

posted November 29, 2011 11:52 PM            

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Please excuse me if I make no sense, I have been chugging DayQuil to get rid of a cold haha.

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posted November 30, 2011 04:14 AM            

I would be heartbroken and devastated if a friend I was falling for was taken away from me because of life circumstances. With time, my acceptance of the "loss" will come and I move on rather quickly...however, i would think about them, try to contact them or at least facebook stalk them to see how they're doing..even if i never messaged them.

This situation has happened to me before, when I was 18. i was so , sooooo heartbroken and i actually wrote the guy a letter telling him a little of how i felt but mostly just encouraging him to go on with life and enjoy it.

posted November 30, 2011 04:22 AM            

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Originally posted by frankie2912:
Venus in Scorpio in 1st house, trine Mars and Jupiter, conjunct ASC.

I would be heartbroken and devastated if a friend I was falling for was taken away from me because of life circumstances. With time, my acceptance of the "loss" will come and I move on rather quickly...however, i would think about them, try to contact them or at least facebook stalk them to see how they're doing..even if i never messaged them.

This situation has happened to me before, when I was 18. i was so , sooooo heartbroken and i actually wrote the guy a letter telling him a little of how i felt but mostly just encouraging him to go on with life and enjoy it.

then i'm over it REALLY fast. must be my Moon in Sagittarius that helps keep the intensity of feeling from completely taking over.

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posted November 30, 2011 10:02 AM            

If I felt that way about a close friend and I have before I have either told her or in those cases where it just never happened such as she dated someone else or we were seperated for whatever reason. I won't ever forget them but my feelings will change. For instance I won't feel the same way two years down the line. Whilst I may have had deeper feelings before. With passing time it turns more into a deeper friendship kind of love if we met again. It is not impossible for sparks to happen again if the circumstances were right but my first feelings and thoughts wouldn't be the same as when she/I left. If you are really meant to be together, it will happen.