posted November 29, 2011 11:11 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Oh I never had that, one relationship last year stressed me out so bad (I think it was karmic though, it was the most intense thing I've ever gone through relationship-wise) that it was like a culture shock. While it's not my nature to be that impulsive in actions, the impulsiveness does come out in thought and speech! For instance, I'm very Arian 'cause I find something I'm attracted to in everybody (well, nearly everybody.) at work I was constantly boy-crazy, always checking them out, always being like "OH he's hot! He's hot!" and flitting from one crush to the next... but there was never a real relationship (Venus square Neptune - idealist and no action, PLUS Moon in Taurus opp. Pluto in the 5th, PLUS Saturn in Capricorn in the 7th. Did I mention Venus square Saturn? *rich-people laugh where they throw their head back and guffaw*) I feel like there was a point in me mentioning all that, and now I can't think of it.

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See, you are right, this is when the aspects kick in...

I am one of those people who seems open to everyone. Strangers tell me their life stories and think I am their new best friend and men think that I am available. I have to nip that in the bud quickly.

Almost all of my personal planets are in the 7th house, with Venus conjunct the DC and, to quote a link in another thread, that makes me seem like "game". I had never thought about that before but, yeah, I was an easy mark. (Also in the 7th: Sun and Mercury conjunct the DC, Mercury conjunct Jupiter and Vertex, Saturn and NN)...

In those early relationships I would get swept up so quickly that I usually didn't consider whether or not I liked them or not. I read somewhere that this is a trait of someone with Moon square Venus (Moon at 24Lib27, Venus at 0Leo20), and, yeah. I must have known though because even though we were lovey-dovey and talking about the "next steps" I avoided it. They were likely using that as a lure anyway (I have Mars opp Neptune also, yikes). It was just exciting and sweet and, most of all, flattering to get pursued. I didn't think, I just put on my love goggles and jumped right in. That is why as soon as they were themselves and did or said something that I didn't like it was over. No looking back either, I could go from hopelessly in love to nothing in a nanosecond. Oh and my Sun, Mercury and Jupiter square Uranus, but Venus forms a wide trine to Uranus. That also contributes to the "love at first sight" thing that would happen frequently...

I actually thought that I preferred intense, dark haired, muscular men because that was the type who would usually chase me (prob because of my own height and darkness) but after some soul searching I realized...hey, I like cocky, skinny blondes!

I mean, it wasn't all evil and darkness though. I had a few longer and normal relationships with great guys who I really liked (Leos and Caps - this is why I have a fondness for them still) but those crash and burns happened more often. I suppose that's just how it is for most people though.

Again, I think that age helps, as does self-awareness. With the guys I dated recently I kind of over-thought things. "Do I like him? What can we offer each other? Am I getting too involved? Am I losing myself?" It takes a little bit of the romance out but I have to do it! Constantly working on relationships (Moon in Libra), that is my life...

posted November 29, 2011 11:15 PM            

Venus in Scorpio - I love the "still waters run deep" type, which plays into a lot of the Mars Cap turn-ons above. A guy with lots of self-control who knows when and how to let go - yesssss.

But I also think my Moon in Leo is really important too, because I need somebody who has a concept of fun.

posted November 29, 2011 11:21 PM            

I like a guy who is emotionally available and affectionate and will give all his heart. A guy that loves hanging out at home but will also travel the world with me.

posted November 29, 2011 11:29 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
what tells you you can pour everything into someone though if you've only met them a few times? how do you act?

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i don't easily fall in love with someone i've only met a few times. Physical attraction to me is nothing compared to emtional understanding and personality. If i'm physically attracted to someone but don't understand each other emotionally or is rude, I can get rid of that feeling/attraction quite easily.. i takes time to gain my trust as i don't trust somene easily. If they're worth it and has proven to me that they are comitted, and willing to become one with me, i'll pamper them, spoil them, give them everything they want (as long as i am capable to do so) I'll try to make them as happy as possible, make them the center of my life. I seek for intense, strong bond in a relationship, not the shallow, lovey-dovey one..

posted November 29, 2011 11:56 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
I dont get how this works, i thought venus would determine this?
What about Mars in Cancer

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posted November 29, 2011 11:58 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
I dont get how this works, i thought venus would determine this?
What about Mars in Cancer

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posted November 30, 2011 01:42 AM            

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Originally posted by Xiiro:
I'm often attracted to "Diamonds in the Rough". I like guys who are so much more than what they project. That way I feel privileged to know the deeper side of them.

Venus in Scorpio
Mars in Leo

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posted November 30, 2011 02:25 AM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
you have the same placements as the guy i am into o.o ...and what did you mean when you said the guy has to be so much more than he projects, you mean like, you want to see his true color show, the real him, when his only with you?

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He doesn't have to only show it when he is with me. I just like to feel like I'm part of his "inside group" someone he always feels able to be his self with, no matter how abstract that is. If he can make the same faces at me that he makes at his self when he is alone in his bathroom, then I find that beautiful. It's fine if he shares his personal beauty with others as long as he doesn't exclude me.

posted November 30, 2011 02:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Xiiro:
He doesn't have to only show it when he is with me. I just like to feel like I'm part of his "inside group" someone he always feels able to be his self with, no matter how abstract that is. If he can make the same faces at me that he makes at his self when he is alone in his bathroom, then I find that beautiful. It's fine if he shares his personal beauty with others as long as he doesn't exclude me.

Feeling excluded is not a great feeling at all for me.

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posted November 30, 2011 03:18 AM            

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Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy:
My Mars does play out in a pretty textbook manner. I like sensitive, nurturing guys.

Mars in Cancer.

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its aways nice to know that a guy cries (edit: but not all the time haha) and doesn't act strong and all when he really couldn't take it anymore, he just have to be himself..it only means that he has a heart

posted November 30, 2011 03:29 AM            

Venus in Libra
Mars in Virgo

I want quick wit, well spoken and worldly...Someone deeply intelligent. Some kind of charm (but not in a trite sort of way) I want someone who's affectionate (without being clingy or sickeningly so) thoughtful... Ambitious? Hardworking. Quiet confidence! No pompous attitudes or guys that make excuses. A go getter for sure! Also someone who has opinions and a back bone.
Above all else, somebody who possesses integrity, someone who can be himself and honest always. Well presented too. Doesn't need to have an underwear model's body or looks, but someone who takes pride in their appearance. Makes an effort at all times and keeps clean. I hate whiny guys that can't take responsibility for their actions. I like guys who are calm and aren't always so melodramatic. Someone reliable and emotionally stable lol! Somebody who is overemotional does get on my nerves(you know the types of guys that cry ALL the time...eek).

posted November 30, 2011 04:02 AM            

I like men who can put me in my place - not in a subservient way but guys who are as aggressive as me, if not more..i hate guys who i can walk all over. ya know?

i like a confident guy, assertive, and masculine. i hate metro-sexual and girly boys..yuck! that doesn't mean i like big and burly...every guy i've been with is thin (thinner than me, but im not thin). a guy who is intelligent and likes to dig deep and analyze things, someone with MYSTERY that i cant seem to figure out..

posted November 30, 2011 04:24 AM            

I like older guys, who are aggressive and extremely intelligent. They definitely have to be able to teach me something new.

posted November 30, 2011 07:48 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I read this sentence: "His Mars was in Pisces. He liked a woman he could 'save' in some way. " and I suddenly thought "Gee, I have Mars in Gemini... and I like guys I can talk to." and wondered if anyone else had Mars in Gemini and what you like (in whoever you're attracted to). Guys - your Venus signs and what you like as well VS. what you attract?

I have Mars in Gemini, Venus in Aries. I like philosophical, open-minded partners who can adapt to different people, different situations. I love someone who shares their opinions and analyzes (but doesn't nag, of course.) OH and someone who's FUNNY.

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posted November 30, 2011 08:07 AM            

I am attracted to artistic types, as I am musical myself.
Unfortunately, I have often ended up being with men who needed looking after, although this is not what I seek at all.

I wouldn't say I am the nurturing type until deep into a relationship, but I am the probing type (for the benefit of uncovering wounds that may be healed in said person).