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Topic: Mars in Aqua in relationships
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polysigh
Knowflake Posts: 128
From: Chicago, USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted December 11, 2011 01:40 PM
  
How do you act in romantic relationships? Detached? Needing friendship first? Difficult to get close to others? How do you attract the object of your affection? Any information would be appreciated, thanks...IP: Logged |
woah cakes
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posted December 11, 2011 01:48 PM
hmmm.. i can give you all the info you want but i'm not 100% sure.i'm female, my mars conjuncts my mercury exactly and they cj my sun by 4 degs. i find i am EXTREMELY attracted to intelligence, but it has to be a very witty and very weird open minded sort of intelligence. THAT is an automatic turn on, even if you are not my 'type' physically. conversely if you are NOT open minded or are slow witted, i will NOT be interested in you, period. umm in relationships i am more detached in some ways, yes. i hate expectations which do not reflect reasonable requests based in reality (as opposed to rote 'relationship' fodder, etc). friendship first IS preferred, but is not mandatory or always the case. but ongoing friendship is important and if it loses that quality, the relationship is doomed. IP: Logged |
Wild Places
Knowflake Posts: 57
From: Bend, OR, USA
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted December 11, 2011 02:40 PM
completely agree with woah cakes. i've got the same exact planetary placements (mars/merc/sun conjunction within 5 degree orb) in the 11th house of Aquarius in my natal chart. venus in capricorn though means i tend to have this romantic optimism and loyalty, plus sometimes jealousy - which i loathe about myself - once i truly connect with a guy. intimacy is definitely difficult for me -- becoming "one" seems nice, but too great a loss of self...i think that is mars in aqua. IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted December 11, 2011 02:56 PM
Mars in Aqua conj Jupiter and Mercury, opposed to Uranus, squared to Taurus moon and Scorp Asc...Venus in 0 deg Aries, tho Sun in Pisces so I act more like a Venus in Pisces = Living a fantasy relationship in my head. All the romanticism of the Princess Pisces, with the detached, VERY mental energy of Mars in Aqua. And intelligence??? yep that one gets me all of the time.. IP: Logged |
anongrl10
Knowflake Posts: 2197
From: won't_disclose
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted December 11, 2011 02:56 PM
Mars in Aqua here.
I don't have issues with "loss of self".
I relate to people mentally. If there is no intellectual link at some level at least I just don't feel the bond.
Thankfully, my Venus in Scorpio (squaring my Aqua Mars) and my Taurus Moon (wide square to my Aqua Mars) ground me a little. My Venus is rather emotional and my Moon is very sensual. There is some balance in the mix.
Mars in Aqua means for me that I quickly disengage if I think you're a prick. If on the other hand you have gained my trust, I'm your friend for ever (Aqua is a fixed sign after all).
I also love men with a clear mission in life and who aren't afraid to stand out in the crowd (being different even if they may be unpopular, NB: no, I do not mean "bad boys", just people with are not afraid to stand out instead of following a crowd). Passion and wits are very attractive to me.
Sun in Sag
Aqua rising
Mars in Aqua
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woah cakes
Knowflake Posts: 632
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posted December 11, 2011 03:08 PM
interesting! i am a moon in taurus as well (29 deg sag rising). my moon is in wide square to my mars (9 degs so not sure it counts for much). i agree that it makes for balance, but it also contributes to some confusion for me, as i tend toward posessiveness and then vacillate to detachment. i try to remain as even keeled as possible within my relationships, though, while struggling with this internally. wild places, that is cool that we share those placements. mine are in the 2nd house. my last deg venus in sag is really similar to cap venus i think in that i am very devoted; i think it makes love a sort of 'religious' experience for me. i am very into the spiritual connection and i am very loyal (not typically what they say about venus in sag). i'm not really sure i'm afraid of loss of self so much as i feel the need to maintain my autonomy 100% which seemingly contradicts my urges toward a fully functional symbiotic partnership. i also need time and space to think through my feelings and perceptions and if i'm not given that freedom i feel like i'm suffocating. but maybe that is the sort of feeling you meant! IP: Logged |
polysigh
Knowflake Posts: 128
From: Chicago, USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted December 11, 2011 03:49 PM
Thanks for the responses! I have this placement but never really paid much attention to it. I relate to a lot of what you all wrote. I do fear a loss of sense of self in relationships but want intensity at the same time due to the pluto in my chart. I think this is a constant struggle for me...wanting to be close but ultimately that closeness scares me (moon sq saturn doesn't help matters) I am attracted to guys who are different in some way and I most definitely need a mental connection or the relationship is kaput. I like an element of surprise, too. Nothing too boring. I think my mars in aqua is a good thing but I just wish I could overcome the detachment that I tend to feel.I would also love to hear the comments of those who have dated a mars in aqua... IP: Logged |
anongrl10
Knowflake Posts: 2197
From: won't_disclose
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted December 11, 2011 03:58 PM
Regarding detachment, personally I love it. It allows me to balance off my Venus in Scorpio. I'm intense when relating, I'm very much a Scorpio (Pluto in my 8th too) when in love and I have to know the other person inside out and get really close, give myself completely etc. BUT enter Mars in Aqua and thank God I also want to stay independent, to stay "me", not because I fear I might lose my self as much as because I want to be doing my own thing no matter what. My best relationships were with men who not only knew how to leave me the space to be my own person and pursue my own interests but they also knew how to share in my personal interests wholeheartedly and supported me in my own life with an open mind. IP: Logged |
woah cakes
Knowflake Posts: 632
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posted December 11, 2011 04:10 PM
yeah, and it really is our choice how we view these paradoxes in our charts  best to focus on the positive of each rather than on the conflict! IP: Logged |
anongrl10
Knowflake Posts: 2197
From: won't_disclose
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted December 11, 2011 04:17 PM
Woah cakes, I always want to reconcile the opposites (Jup in Libra  ).IP: Logged |
Stawr
Moderator Posts: 1212
From: N. America
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted December 11, 2011 04:57 PM
Mars in Aqua house 10
I also have the N. Node and MC in Aqua but in house 9
(and I'm pretty sure Capricorn, Scorpio, and Aqua are my dominant signs...in that order)
I'm kind of complicated. Honest intentions are very important to me. It really bugs me when men think they have to act like they want be in a relationship to get laid. I respect fellows more if they admit that they just want sex. Doesn't mean we will. But I would be able to respect their honesty. Being all like 'come on! come be my girlfriend! I'm horney!' to me is disgusting.
And I wont really respect the person much...because they are being fake. Guys like that are such a joke to me. Rushing me to commit is another no no. I don't work well under pressure. lol Rushing/pressuring me to commit or have sex will just make me run. And when I am actually in a relationship. I don't put all the way out right away. I need time to know that I am respected. And that he actually enjoys spending time with me, and is not just using my body. If he gets annoyed I'll be like I'm done eff you. But if the guy is like okay I respect that I will be like awesome...and that will make me want him. Nothing wrong with being attracted to someone, lusting them...and ooo just thinking about it. But there is just more than that to a relationship. It's important, but so are other things. I realize I want a friendship also in my relationships. I also have dated/committed/messed around with all types of guys. Scrawny, skinny, athletic, stocky, husky, chubby, fat. Black, White, Middle Eastern, Asian, Hispanic. The shortest dude I dated was two inches taller(I'm 5'1")...and I almost dated this guy omg he was so tall like a bit taller than 6 ft. The youngest being two years younger than me...and the oldest being 10 years older than me. I'm somewhere in between clingy and detached. In the past I thought how much a guy contacted me when we where not with each other meant how much he loved me. But I learned that could also mean he has to much time on his hands, is wanting too keep tabs on me, and very needy. Oh yea I do like to talk on the phone and stuff. But it's okay to go a few hours with out talking to each other. Otherwise how the h3ll will I ever have time be on lindaland, do my homework, watch tv shows that he doesn't like, clean my room. etc. I need that down time. Balance yo! I do have a clingy side. It does feel good to be needed, but it must not cross the line of me getting treated like his mom. Shelling out an allowance for him, him throwing fits if I tell him no. (been there done that never again.) He needs to make his own, have his own...just like me...and him wanting to be generous with me should be his choice...just like if I want to be giving it's my choice. None of that hey will you buy me this crap. WE ARE GROWN UPS. Okay here are my Mars aspects.
Mars Sextile Sun Aries house 11(and yes Saturn has been in my 7th house)
Mars Sqaure Moon Scorpio house 6 Those are the only ones I remember off the top of my head, there might be more idk. I know what I don't want and kind of know what I want...and wonder if being in a mostly happy relationship is possible for me.
But for now I just need to love myself the best I can, and continue to grow...and I just get laid with something that needs batteries. For me casual sex seems to be too much drama too. IP: Logged | |
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