posted December 13, 2011 06:13 AM            

In that situation I didn't understand your reaction - because I'm positive whatever the content of your post was (which you edited out before I had a chance to read) would've sparked different responses from different people.

I didn't understand why you would take one person's opinion to be gospel or let it make you feel as though your actions & decisions are stupid.

There will always be people who agree or disagree with your decisions.

Why don't you test my theory?
Post a "Poll" thread in LLC2.. and ask - How many people would consider traveling to this country? How many would feel neutral about it and - How many would be outraged at the thought?

posted December 13, 2011 06:27 AM            

Not all psychologists and therapists, are good. Some are real c.rap, honestly.

I kinda wonder if it isn't some king of Pluto issue, with the shrink wanting to run her life and tell her what to do. Then again at the same time it might be nothing like that and it might be a legitimate, psychologically-based reason why she thinks this trip isn't a good idea.

posted December 13, 2011 07:02 AM            

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She is a good therapist.

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I'm sure she's a fantastic therapist… but today I spoke to a patient of hers who was in psychological distress as a result of her behaviour.

posted December 13, 2011 07:04 AM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Also - Virgo squares Sagittarius. Sagittarius is the sign associated with adventure and travel. Perhaps it is just not her thing.. so she doesn't understand you.

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posted December 13, 2011 07:06 AM            

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other people who actually live in said place said that (a) the place has improved in the last 20 years

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posted December 13, 2011 02:40 PM            

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She does know a lot, does have a lot of wisdom and insight, and is well-trained

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All therapists/psychologists should be well-trained.
It doesn't excuse her condescending behaviour.

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I feel like I have to just trust her and do what she says

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This is honestly ^ a reason to distance yourself... because this is not normal. You need time out from this person - in my opinion.

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I wish that she'd admit that I know a few things too

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I want to ask you a question...... If you had met this woman under different circumstances and she was not your therapist - Do you think you would've still felt like you need to explain yourself to her.. or impress her.. or make sure she knows that you are capable etc..?

posted December 13, 2011 04:08 PM            

It honestly seems like you need to see a new therapist and Ill say why.
Overstepping boundaries. This therapist of yours, well.. typically therapists, are not meant to be our friends. They are are supposed to objective! You take her opinions as if it's the law and that worries me. You almost seem attached to her in a very unhealthy way ad she is clearly abusing her power to help you help yourself. You are not being helped at all. All I've been getting from you is that well you cannot be independent nor self sufficient in the emotional department. You need her validation, you need someone's validation. I know that at some point we all do! we like to be wanted however in this case it's not healthy...... At all!!!!!

There are no boundaries. You are letting someone that is meant to help you and not impede in your personal life if at all do just that. You're afraid of her, you want to Impress her, you want her validation. If ever, my therapist behaved that way, I would cut her off. I'm sorry. And my therapist tried to almost do a little impeding and I stopped her right there. She or he they have no right to do that. The whole point of therapy is not for "help" as if you're troubled Its to talk, talk talk talk, about things to help you see or notice patterns, to aid you, help you progrss and cope. You honestly seem like you aren't getting any of that.. from this person. She sounds like she's causing you to be far worse than you are supposed to be doing.