posted December 12, 2011 12:09 PM            

So I seen him in class today, said hello was friendly etc and all of a sudden he gets quiet and ignores me. My friend also noticed this. Usually hes the one coming up to me saying hello and whatnot, I said hello and he mumbles "ya hi" LOL. I asked "Is there a problem Michael?" he says "I'm fine." I don't think he was, so I left it alone. My friend starts talking to him and he seems receptive, but whenever I say something he gets quiet and act like he's upset with me. I asked "Did I do something? Would you like to talk about it?" He straight up ignores me, my friend asked what his issue was and he mumbles "nothing." And then she mentions my boyfriend and then he gets up and moves to the other side of the room. I asked her if I did something wrong? She said "Well he seemed happier before you got here. He was actualy about to tell me a story and then you came then he just seemed upset." I really don't like people being upset with me so I clearly think maybe I did something wrong. I go up and ask him why he's upset and he ignores me and just taps his foot. Not getting anywhere, I just leave and go about my day.

posted December 13, 2011 03:49 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Cancer sun, Cancer moon (that's the most he told me)
We met in astrology class....!!! He approached me, but because I'm in a relationship I haven't made much of an effort to put myself out there. But anyway, he's friends with my good friend so whenever I'm with her he tags along. He's funny, smart, deep from what I've caught on. Last week we all went to a party, I was in a Bad mood so I made as little contact with people and preferred to stay by myself, he kept trying to talk to me and I didn't want to be rude so I gave him very short responses, I assume he took it as me being offensive and backed off. Add to the fact that he's been telling my friend what a sweet person he thinks I am, kind of weirded me out.

So I seen him in class today, said hello was friendly etc and all of a sudden he gets quiet and ignores me. My friend also noticed this. Usually hes the one coming up to me saying hello and whatnot, I said hello and he mumbles "ya hi" LOL. I asked "Is there a problem Michael?" he says "I'm fine." I don't think he was, so I left it alone. My friend starts talking to him and he seems receptive, but whenever I say something he gets quiet and act like he's upset with me. I asked "Did I do something? Would you like to talk about it?" He straight up ignores me, my friend asked what his issue was and he mumbles "nothing." And then she mentions my boyfriend and then he gets up and moves to the other side of the room. I asked her if I did something wrong? She said "Well he seemed happier before you got here. He was actualy about to tell me a story and then you came then he just seemed upset." I really don't like people being upset with me so I clearly think maybe I did something wrong. I go up and ask him why he's upset and he ignores me and just taps his foot. Not getting anywhere, I just leave and go about my day.

I don't really get it. Seems VERY moody. I don't like anyone upset with me so my job is to fix it. He's normally very pleasant and friendly towards me but today was a new side, I'm thinking I must've killed his mom or something to get this treatment. Any cancer influenced people, what do you think is the problem? I hate when people are upset and I sense I upset them and do my best to fix it. I've asked him for his birth details all he wants to tell me is he is a cancer sun/moon

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posted December 13, 2011 09:29 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
I don't really get it. Seems VERY moody. I don't like anyone upset with me so my job is to fix it. He's normally very pleasant and friendly towards me but today was a new side, I'm thinking I must've killed his mom or something to get this treatment. Any cancer influenced people, what do you think is the problem? I hate when people are upset and I sense I upset them and do my best to fix it. I've asked him for his birth details all he wants to tell me is he is a cancer sun/moon

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posted December 13, 2011 11:02 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:

You still missed the point, so now I guess you're odd and obnoxious.

And no, I don't have responsibility. Just because I was aloof or whatever doesn't make me responsible for someone's moodiness. Not my problem if they take an act that wasn't even related to them way too personally. Please don't say cancers feel the undercurrents of things because no, i don't agree, seems like they tend to misonstrue situations and cause their own moodiness if anything.

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posted December 14, 2011 12:04 AM            

The thing is, with astrology, you need to look at the persons ascendant to work out his personality, as 1st house is personality, not the SUN, as most astrologers would leave you to believe. So your ignorance of astrology is leading you to label his behaviour as Cancerian, when in fact his ascendant is likely to be something else other than Cancer.

posted December 14, 2011 12:24 AM            

Say you're a leo with a cappy asc. Inside you're warm and flamboyant, expressive. On the surface you may appear quite emotionally controlled and sometimes cold and reserved. Cappy traits may be part of what makes you, you too, buttt at the end of the day, you're a leo and those traits are more prominent.

posted December 14, 2011 12:49 AM            

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Because the asc *colours* your personality, but it's not completely who you are inside is it?

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This is logical as both stem from house 1, which is everything to do with personality.. The sign on the OUTSIDE as your mask, while the sign on the INSIDE is your real, true self.

The people who say Sun is personality look at astrology from a planet point of view, not a house point of view, which is the correct way to look at astrology. Sorry Linda Goodman about this, but your books and work is still valid, only if you look at rising sign, not sun sign.

posted December 14, 2011 12:50 AM            

I think I'll speak for myself; seeing that I have been labeled "moody" and "changeable" by so many people in my life.

Yes, cancer moon is very sensitive to rebuffs or cold treatment. I recall that on my first day at work,my boss was very cold and aloof to me. I took it very personaly and labeled him a "no go zone".Even when he is nice and courteous, I maintain a very aloof demenour.

To me it seems like a defense mechanism. I am bubbly, warm and receptive to people(when first meeting them), but when I sense that the feelings are not being reciprocated by the other party, I distance myself from them.

And this includes changing my expression whenever they talk or just giving them one word answers. I tend to put out what I pick up; and so if you are cold and indifferent, I absorb that energy and put it back out to you.

Sometimes the moon in cancer can make a person so super-sensitive, they tend to personalize things that were not necessarily meant for them. This tends to happen even when that was not the case.

If you really want to make amends with the situation you have with the guy, try a heart to hearty talk. And I don't mean playing a guessing game about what you may have said, or not have said to offend them, because that would suggest to them that you see their hurt as "irrational".

Try to start the conversation with,"Okay enough already , I get it. I am sorry about the way I behaved the other day, I was just not in a good space.There were some stuff going on in my life and I didn't mean to be so cold towards you.

I realize that if it was you who behaved that way towards me, I would have been equally offended.That was not my intention at all and am sorry."

He should respond with denying that that was not the reason he has been withdrawing from you(classic cancer reaction) and then ask you to detail what the issue was, in the first place.Prepare for this because I have dated moon in cancers long enough to know that "a big emotional reveal" is necessary....

Asc Taurus/Aries
Sun Sagittarius
Moon Cancer
Mercury Capricorn
Venus Scorpio
Mars Libra

posted December 14, 2011 01:16 AM            

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I find it odd that you missed the entire point of the thread. Are we equal now?

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You still missed the point, so now I guess you're odd and obnoxious.

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If this is the way you speak to someone when you're irritated, I can understand why he may be upset with you. Did you tell him that you didn't want to talk to anyone? If you were in a bad mood and wanted to make as little contact with people, why did you even go to a party? Isn't that the point of a party? Clearly nothing there would have made you feel better since the merrymaking parts of parties require socializing...

I'm not sure why you would feel weirded out by him saying that you're a sweet person. Just last week you were complaining about people your age being afraid of you or whatever. If someone told my friend that he thought I was sweet, I would think that he was a nice guy and appreciate the compliment.

You were distant and "short" with him through no fault of his own, even attended the party with your friend and him, so why is it a surprise that he's acting the same towards you?

posted December 14, 2011 01:31 AM            

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Originally posted by VenusDiSirius:
One's chart isn't built on Sun,Moon etc but Ascendant!
What are you saying,in situation when rising and Sun would be more compatible,rising would gain in significance? I suppose that's why you choose signs in quincunx to illustrate your point.

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I did it to illustrate the difference that's all. There's no point in comparing two water signs for example, since they all share the same traits btwn em (with of course other distinctive traits too).

posted December 14, 2011 01:34 AM            

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Originally posted by Coffee:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Because the asc *colours* your personality, but it's not completely who you are inside is it?

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Lindisfarne, cancers can be like that, but a sign to completely ignore you after a hurt like you may have given him could well be a Scorpio riser. All or nothing with them, apparently.[/QUOTE]

Yeah the first house is the outer personality, but you were saying how people shouldn't look at the sun but instead at the asc which is wrong cos every house makes us part of our personality. It's not just the asc. It's about the sun, moon, venus etc.

You said "the first house shows your personality" when it's actually more your whole chart isn't it? All the planets in different houses indicate your true personality. It's NOT just the first house o_O.

posted December 14, 2011 03:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Coffee:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Because the asc *colours* your personality, but it's not completely who you are inside is it?

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Lindisfarne, cancers can be like that, but a sign to completely ignore you after a hurt like you may have given him could well be a Scorpio riser. All or nothing with them, apparently.[/QUOTE]

Hm he might have Scorpio Ascendant. he looks intense, very attractive, deep penetrative eyes. I know Scorpio risers they all have a few things in common:
intense eyes,
intense stare
this uber effortless sex appeal
look intimidating

posted December 14, 2011 03:36 AM            

I think the ruler of the ascendant varies so much that it's difficult to say...