posted January 02, 2012 09:38 PM            

Maybe he's just not your type.
I like his chart overall - although his Moon could be better off!

Do you have anything like Moon/Venus/Jupiter - in trine or sextile with his Moon?

posted January 02, 2012 09:43 PM            

wish i could change the tone of this relationship. Ive tried not contacting him at all a few times but THREE WEEKS could go by and he wont call. Ill give up and call him and he'll be all "I'll be over in 10 minutes". hahah. And since this happens a lot, we've really only gotten together about 10 times total in these almost 4 mos. We havent slept together and he doesnt really try. The times we've been close, there have been reasons (ehem) why I couldnt so I know he *wants* to. So it cant be that he just sticks around for the sex. lol

posted January 02, 2012 09:47 PM            

i also dated a scorpio with libra rising and i had to initiate most things, or, at least, he always deferred to me. always. i found it confusing but some people might like that.

posted January 02, 2012 09:52 PM            

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Originally posted by woah cakes:
i've been seeing a cap moon for about a year. his venus is also in the 12th. i think these two placements alone make a man quite reserved with showing feelings, even to the point of taking initiative. there's a cap moon thread somewhere on this page. it might help.

i also dated a scorpio with libra rising and i had to initiate most things, or, at least, he always deferred to me. always. i found it confusing but some people might like that.

good luck!

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posted January 02, 2012 11:27 PM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:
just my 2 cents... when in love the moon sign can mean more than the sun sign in terms of showing affection. i am a cap moon and we are S-L-O-W, very very slow. we won't show affection or take initiative until we are 100% sure and ready. but he will make the moves eventually if he likes you, and cap moons are really good at showing affection in other ways before we show it emotionally or with overt moves - look for other signs of affection, like doing things for you, talking with you exclusively, etc. it can often take me over 6 months to just kiss on the cheek, and many months after that before i will even consider sleeping with someone. friends first is a real benefit with this moon/sun placement.

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posted January 02, 2012 11:33 PM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Wow he sounds much too passive for me. I would have moved on. 3 weeks?
If somebody is into you, you would expect them to make the effort to see you.

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lol no 3 months!

yea, thats what i think, but i also wonder why someone would stick around if he didnt like me. Like I said, its very obvious that this guy has feelings for me when we're together. Thats why i dont get why he doesnt reach out on his own. maybe because he knows i will and hes lazy? i guess thats what im trying to figure out here.

posted January 02, 2012 11:40 PM            

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hes gotta be gettin it somewhere else

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Actually he doesn't have to be! Not with Mars/Neptune in his chart.

I have Cap Moon + Mars/Nept conjunct and as I said on another thread.. the earliest I've ever had sex with a man was my ex - 8 months into knowing him.

I don't find 3 months long at all actually. If you feel like he is not for you - then it's your call to leave.

I'm very particular anyway - so if someone doesn't seem like they are my type.. and especially if they are impatient or try to make things sexual sooner than I am interested in going there - this really bothers me.. & it doesn't usually work out.

posted January 03, 2012 12:32 AM            

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they are not as inclined to make sure they get a healthy serving of sex frequently

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Exactly! Their sexual feelings (Mars) are completely tangled with their spiritual feelings (Neptune). It's all very intertwined... so they are not really all that physically raw.
It's a bit like a Pisces Mars.

I just noticed that actually you have Venus conjunct Neptune in natal - and this is conjunct his own Mars/Neptune.
This is an interesting aspect to say the least. In synastry Mars/Venus can point to a strong sexual attraction, but in my experience it can also be a bit love/hate and prone to arguments.
However - because your mutual Neptunes are involved.... on the one hand this is a good thing - since it will bring out the best in both of you and you'll likely treat each other with affection and sensitivity (so the Venus/Mars won't be as argumentative as it can normally get)... but on the other other hand... Neptune also dilutes the sexuality of Venus/Mars and makes your relationship more of a spiritual experience, rather than a physical one. It's even possible that you will never have sex.

I have a question: Are you absolutely 100% sure that if he did want to make things physical - and he literally initiated sex tomorrow... you wouldn't back out? Basically, are you sure that he is the only one who is reluctant?

posted January 03, 2012 12:40 AM            

So even if you call him 20 times... He will still imagine that when you didn't call the 21st time - it means you don't like him anymore and you've got someone else.
When 3 weeks went by and he didn't call.. I have a feeling he freaked out and thought you were with someone else. (very much a defeatist attitude... not the kind of guy who will 'fight' for you... much more likely to victimize himself like - 'she left me boo hoo for me')

They have this weird thing about bothering people..
"Oh I couldn't call you... because I thought I might be bothering you... because why would you want to hang out with me - when you are waaaaay up there on your perfect pedestal and I'm waaaaay down here... "

posted January 03, 2012 01:06 PM            

I was reluctant to sleep with him the one time we came close but I think I stopped because I felt it was too early and didn't want to seem easy. He seemed o really like me so I took it slow, telling myself
I wouldn't do anything until he initiates...and he hasnt. I