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Topic: What calm you down when you get angry and astrological aspects
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Capriquarius
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posted January 05, 2012 02:36 PM
 
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Originally posted by sand:
i don't understand how you can get angry and then channel it somewhere else. it's passive in a way is it not? i've never gotten really really angry ever ima taurus sun/venus but if i did i'd go by way of scorpio mars, saturn, and pluto. more pluto. i'd want that thing that made me angry gone even jsut from my reality. they don't hafta e chilling with the fishes or anything. 
I'd strive to give you a proper answer to your question if the rest of your post made sense. Kind of like how I don't do chart interpretations if I don't believe in them.  I shall stop flapping my jaw now, sir.
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Neptune'sDaughter
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posted January 06, 2012 07:20 PM
Be honest and upfront. End of story. I have an easy going Mars in Taurus but a Firey Aries rising that sets it off as soon as I intuit (pisces) that you're b.s.-ing. -And trust me, my ScorpMoon can see Bullsh*t coming before your great grandfather spouts it- So just admit it, because if I'm finally angry, I've caught you many times, you know it already and I am indignant, furious and almost sure-proof right on.. Most of the time (aries rising after all ;-) )------------------
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T
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posted January 06, 2012 07:42 PM
Taurus SunMars square Uranus in fixed signs Virgo moon what calms me down is time. Usually to think things through and rationalize and find humor in it. either that, or a couple of cold ones. That's the quick fix. lol ;p IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted January 06, 2012 07:45 PM
I listen to music and walk away from the conflict.IP: Logged |
BeholdAstarte
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posted January 06, 2012 10:48 PM
through the years ive had to find ways to control my temper/emotions. whenever im depressed i draw/paint like there's no tomorrow.. when im stressed i clean, usually not spick and span but ill just tidy up my areas until i feel satisfied. ive always been a really messy person so i find organization in my chaos cause i dont think ive ever had a spotless room or environment haha. music is also an alternative, but i mean.. who doesnt use music as an outlet! when im angry my first instinct is to hide away and be alone. i think its because i get so tense and anxious that i have to let it out somehow so running away i guess seems like i good idea, but actually whenever im in any negative emotional state whether its anger, depression, or stress or whatever i want time alone. i usually do some serious introspective analyses and ultimately change whatever im upset about. suns conjunct mars/merc libra 6th house sqauring uranus/saturn/neptune 9th and those are opposing my jupiter in the 3rd making a big t-sqaure. my uranus is on the cusp of 8th/9th and ive read before that uranus in the 8th can make a volcanic temper and i certainly do. taurus rising i think contributes to the explosive temper too and venus conjunct pluto in scorpio opposing it pretty closely.i mine as well add that i have a virgo moon in the 5th haha before i got into astrology i use to always wonder why i was the way i was and why i was such a tempermental person. i would always blame it on my parents haha being they both have an aries moon and strong plutos and maybe it was genetics or myself being a product of my environment. but now that i understand myself in a much deeper perspective i think it lets me deal with my traits in better more efficient manner. i dunno though, im sure without astrology i would have been able to handle it too its just, the clarity. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 07, 2012 11:39 AM
I like driving in convertibles, which calms me down, but is unsafe and unwise when I'm angry. I like being alone. My Saturn is in the 12th House. IP: Logged |
enchantress299
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posted January 07, 2012 12:33 PM
Let's see... I've got:Aries Moon grand trined with: Leo Mars Sagittarius Jupiter and Uranus All in fire houses (1st/5th/9th) I do have a Virgo Sun though with Venus and Mercury in Virgo and Scorpio Rising that helps me to keep my cool for a LONG time before I go off. Mostly what happens to me is: I'll start to get angry, and I will try to make my point to the other person in a way that is not personal (NO name-calling- only stating facts). If they are still not getting the point, I will call them on their BS. If they are still making me angry, I essentially get SO mad that I literally have no more words, I feel just pure emotion, and so I usually storm out of the room at that point so I can calm down. Now, the trick at this point is for me to regain my cool and bring it up again at another time when both of us have calmed down. Problem is, I often don't like to be confrontational/assertive when things have smoothed over and I'm having a good time. So, I let it slide. If I let things slide for too long however, it just builds up inside me and it just is threatening for another blowup with me storming out again and sometimes, if it's really bad, I'll storm out and never talk to that person again (usually this is better for me in the long run, since IF I've made it to that point, I'm really done with dealing with that person anyway). The best cathartic release for me, is to go hang out with happy, funny people and blow off steam through jokes and fun (probably 5th house Aries Moon). IP: Logged |
Heartless
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posted January 08, 2012 06:40 AM
does it have to be moon? i'm a Gem mooner. i'd get to the bottom of it then chill out. everything revolves around logic. (Taurus Mars) IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted January 08, 2012 07:34 AM
Things that calm me down:- Drinking cold water slowly (.........?) - Looking at a photo of Leo guy (Venus/NN = a romantic at heart) - Looking at my dog (possibly Cancer AC = motherly) - A particular breathing exercise where you pretend that you are breathing-in through one nostril and breathing-out through the other (like a circular motion) - (Pisces Mercury = who else would play pretend? lol) - Swimming at sea or in the ocean (Mars conjunct Neptune = love of water) - A nice hot bubble bath (as above ^) - Reading about astrology, writing about astrology (Mercury square Uranus) - talking to a certain friend of mine (we have a Venus/Jupiter DW so I think it's more so the synastry) IP: Logged |
meissieri
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posted May 18, 2013 10:25 AM
Just browsing through some old threads and this one caught my eye. Wow, what don't I do to calm down? Many things, probably shown through the high number of aspects my moon makes. Capricorn moon in the 4th. Conjunct Saturn, IC and Neptune. Square Asc/Desc, trine Mars, Venus and Mercury, sextile Pluto. Opposition Chiron and Midheaven. I normally bury myself with work or just giving myself something to do. Good way to shut things out for a while. Of course that can't last forever. So: - Going somewhere alone helps, especially being able to lock myself up at home. I'll lie on my bed and reflect on what happened, trying to get some peace inside my head. I really take the time to go over everything, doesn't matter what kind of thoughts pop up, it's not like anyone will know. - Sleeping. I do get nightmares to get through the bad feelings sometimes, but I don't mind. I'll write them down and look up dream interpretations if they really stick (and some of them make me wake up shaking). - Walks and exercise, especially when something keeps running through my mind non-stop - Having an honest heart-to-heart with someone I trust. - Venting. Either through a rant (mostly to myself but I prefer the heart-to-heart above) or writing. I've written quite a number of blog posts and e-mails to myself to get those bad feelings out. - Crying. Just accepting what's bothering me and letting it all out. I tend to focus on everything, even memories that remind me of what happened to really let myself go. It's cleansing? I feel literally like a new person once I'm done. I'll repeat it as often as I have to. Sometimes I do need to give in to the depression. - Art. Music. Watching films or TV shows. Anything artistic, really. It's a good distraction. As a teenager I filled notebooks full of lyrics and poetry, all dark and sentimental. I needed it bad. Oh and the classic "slam something in frustration, then slump down crying". And I tend to swear when I'm angry. I swear a couple of times and it's cool. I added the angles because a lot of people don't really see this side of me. That's where they come in. At least, I try not to show them until I've gotten to know them better. I do look vulnerable because of the squares, I often struggle to keep it together for my life outside of home. Funniest thing is Saturn here. It restricts me a lot and I'm riddled with insecurities - that's why I break down so hard when I do - but he also seems to know when I'm ready to pick myself up again. I feel like he lets me grieve for as long as I need it. It's usually some sort of responsibility that snaps me out of it. IP: Logged |
Jkitty
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posted May 18, 2013 11:03 AM
I've got a retrograde Mars in Cancer in the 9th house. It takes me a while to even realize that I'm angry and then I need to look backwards to see what caused it! First clues are either a bit of depression (depression=anger turned inward) or a kind of "bruised feeling" in my chest. Once I realize that I'm angry and what triggered the anger, I get analytical about it (late degree Mercury in Aquarius trines my early degree Mars in Cancer) and/or philosophical about it (Mars in 9th). Is this the hill I want to die on? Is this worth confronting? Do I care enough about this relationship to want to talk it out? Has this just triggered something from childhood? Does God want me to learn something from this? etc. You probably get the picture! I don't need to work on calming down -- I actually need to work on getting riled up so people will know that I'm actually angry since my anger tends to go into hiding. I think I could envy people whose anger is more straight forward! IP: Logged |
mir
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posted May 18, 2013 11:28 AM
When angry I'm so full of FIRE that I want a solution now-here RIGHT AWAY!
Since there are usually other people involved as the "cause" of this emotional state of being I HAVE to find an outlet directed or related to *them*. If a direct confrontation isn't possible I will find a more indirect outlet like writing a letter or whatever. I won't have peace before the consuming air with the person or whatever institute is cleared up. If even writing etc. isn't possible I will follow my fellow-countrywoman meissieri and have a "heart-to-heart" with my best friend to consider every possible practical option in depth and so to kill 2 birds with one stone; I canalize my current emotional state of being by preparing myself for the next step with only one goal in mind, clearing the air in between. Scorp-Moon square Aqua-Mars/NN in 6th (Mars in exact quindecile to Asc/Merc.) IP: Logged |
ShineYourLight
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posted May 18, 2013 01:50 PM
Mars in Libra square Moon, Uranus & Neptune
Mercury Square PlutoWhen I'm angry I'll start to ignore that person I'm angry with completely and give them a couple "death" stares...
& slam some doors, throw some things across the room...  What calms me down is music!
it gets all my anger out and after that I can look at the situation again with a "clear" mind.
Or I go sit outside and breath in some fresh air that helps really well too.
But I just have to retreat otherwise I am going to say hurtful things I don't mean.
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StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted May 18, 2013 02:05 PM
I like to WRITE (right?) about anger and passion and the more puns I can make when inflamed, the better I like it. Sagittarius Mars in third house. I like to rant and rave too. Mars square Pluto twelfth house. Basically, I am a writer, but I love the power of expression and a vigorous intellect. I view passion as a catalyst for the creative process. IP: Logged |
Jkitty
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posted May 18, 2013 06:29 PM
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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
I like to WRITE (right?) about anger and passion and the more puns I can make when inflamed, the better I like it.
So you throw some PUN-ches at them? IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted May 18, 2013 06:32 PM
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Originally posted by Jkitty:
So you throw some PUN-ches at them?
That's a good one! IP: Logged |
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