posted January 12, 2012 09:24 PM            

so this evening, long story short i was with a couple of my close friends we had finished shopping and decided to grab some coffee at starbucks. unfortunately we couldn't actually make it into the shop. the reason for that is, an acquaintance of ours bumped into friend 1. friend 1 had 'heard' things that acquaintance had said. right after that, a verbal fight ensued. right there.. in the middle of the mall, the two started screaming and yelling at each other. at first i was shocked, i had no idea what to do. so i grabbed a seat next to a plant and watched. friend 1 kept telling acquaintance "stay out of my life stay away from me you do not know me blah blah blah you're psychotic you dont know me lets keep it that way" friend 1 attempted to walk away, acquaintance wouldn't allow this to happen. 5 minutes after, they started screaming at each other, yelling at kinds of things, acquaintance started hitting friend 1. friend 2 jumped in. i continued to sit there and watch. i was embarrassed people were staring, and watching. i eventually got up and said in a calm voice "guys stop it. you are being immature. people are watching. lets take this outside." nobody listened to me they continued to yell and scream, acquaintance would not let friend 1 walk away, acquaintance body checked friend 1. i walked away due to embarrassment, employees from the american apparel store, and the tiffanys jewelry store were staring, everyone was staring. i asked one employee to call security. people were legit standing there, watching. i went back and calmly asked them about 10 times "guys stop it. we can discuss this outside" thats when acquaintance jumped in my face started screaming at me pushing me around. i told acquaintance "do not put your hands on me. we can discuss this outside. you are being ridiculous both of you stop. lets go outside." acquaintance was demanding i answered their questions but i didnt want any part in it, anytime i tried to get a word in, this person would yell above me and would never let me finish so i ignored them and it seemed to make things worse. i walked away, this person followed me outside, everyone else did. the fight got worse, i stood there, acquaintance would not let friend 1 and 2 leave, i told acquaintance to back off and that i would only have a calm discussion with them and i would be happy to answer their questions once they calmed down. acquaintance screamed "no!!!" so i accepted the no and stepped aside. i went to call for security and this person was escorted, before they were escorted, acquaintance punched friend 1 in the face. yes, i wanted to fight acquaintance but i just couldnt im not a violent person. i was interested in having a calm discussion. that wasn't what was going to happen, clearly. so i called security.

out of all this, yes this is my "style" i do not like conflict, my way of confrontation isn't overtly aggressive. i prefer to talk things out smoothly. i cannot have a conversation with irrational irate people that wont let me have a word in or when they get in my face and put their hands on me. i dont know why i can be so calm when i am in these situations apart of me IS annoyed because i feel like i am a coward that i cannot do 'enough' to save or help out any of my friends. even if someone were to punch me in the face, i won't attack back, its not how i am. i walk away.

a little while after friend 2 asked me how on earth i did not 'fight' acquaintance after they hit me, they would have 'destroyed' this person. i honestly dont know why i didn't either. its not my style.. i dont know if its because im a coward or what? its something i never really liked.

posted January 12, 2012 11:08 PM            

BRAVO!!!

Its actually harder to walk away, then it is to stay and fight....

posted January 13, 2012 12:09 AM            

That being said, if someone did physically punch me, I can't say I would keep my hands to myself.

posted January 13, 2012 04:03 PM            

I think that's the good thing about astrology. It can bring us toward self-acceptance. Sure, there are some unhealthy things about some of our planet placements that can be changed. But, for the most part, we are who we are.