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Topic: Do Pisces Ascendants females attract unwanted attention?
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Lonake Moderator Posts: 6532 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 22, 2012 07:56 PM
quote: Originally posted by amowls**: Malena is 100% right. Catcalling is an extension of rape culture. Rapists and catcallers both feel powerful when harassing/threatening women.
You all give 'catcallers' power by reacting like you do. You don't make it any less by yelling and throwing fits! I've never been intimidated by a man, even when he tried to make me feel that way, I don't overreact, I am in control, I choose how I want them to feel, not the reverse.
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hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 531 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted January 22, 2012 10:59 PM
quote: Originally posted by Lonake: [QUOTE]Originally posted by amowls**: [b]Malena is 100% right. Catcalling is an extension of rape culture. Rapists and catcallers both feel powerful when harassing/threatening women.
You all give 'catcallers' power by reacting like you do. You don't make it any less by yelling and throwing fits! I've never been intimidated by a man, even when he tried to make me feel that way, I don't overreact, I am in control, I choose how I want them to feel, not the reverse.[/B][/QUOTE]I think that's awesome but perhaps give the other posters some slack. Maybe they haven't learned to be like that yet even though they want to.
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Lonake Moderator Posts: 6532 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 23, 2012 12:54 AM
^ I don't understand the thinking here because the men are at your mercy if they're making the initial 'contact' as it stands. Not the reverse. They can be toyed with or ignored (if you feel like they might be trying to intimidate you), but the yelling etc. only aggravates the woman and amuses the man because you won't be able to control what he's saying to you; you can only control it if you get into the convo with him. The easiest is what I do, make a joke about it and keep going, I either do that or just ignore. If you want you can talk about their parts if they're talking about yours, because they opened up the door with their comment about you. If they're with friends and you do that, usually that guy's friends will start laughing at him. Usually the surprise that you're not offended is enough to get them to quiet down a bit cos they're used to getting a rise out of women who don't ignore them. But if you act like this be prepared for a look of shock on some of their faces, also some stumbling over their words (that's cos they didn't give their initial comments much thought). They're just boys.IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 531 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted January 23, 2012 01:07 AM
Oh, about the yelling and throwing fits? I agree with you concerning that; absolutely ignore them. I thought you were saying you didn't understand why they were getting offended or felt the way they did about being catcalled.IP: Logged |
Betty Boop Knowflake Posts: 2388 From: Betty Boop Land Registered: Sep 2010
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posted January 23, 2012 01:30 AM
I'm the same Lonake. I don't pay attention to it and it doesn't affect me. Anyway, there are street beggars who hassle me sometimes and people who try to preach me about their religion and give me pamphlets - and thieves who try to snatch my bag as I'm purchasing a ticket at the train station - and crazy people talking to themselves on the bus and then screaming at me because they had me confused with their ex wife?? - and - an old man who started shouting that my dog is ugly and that I'm stupid for having a dog, because apparently he was bit by a dog and clearly this is MY problem O_O... I just think s#it happens'.. If I payed attention to all these kinds of annoyances, I guess I'd be a very frustrated person. Or maybe I'd move somewhere in a remote rural area! haha But NA - I love the city! I'm very used to ignoring BS. Certainly - guys cat calling is not the most aggravating thing that has happened in my life. IP: Logged |