posted February 27, 2012 04:33 PM
This is my single major challenging aspect in my synastry with my wife.Would like your input.
Her Saturn in 10th House in Aries Squares my Neptune in 7th House in Virgo by 0 degrees and 26 minutes.
I don't know how to interpret this one, but I have heard it as both negative and very positive. The third reference below is what I have generally relied on: that Saturn is the discipline, and that Saturn controls the idealism in Neptune.
Then, there's the negative SkyView Zone version that essentially says that the Saturn person behaves like a controlling wet blanket.
Remember that the wife is Saturn and I'm the Neptune, so don't start slinging arrows at me about being controlling
The truth of the matter is that I'm a Capricorn and I am a control freak. Just that my wife is a Leo and she is an even bigger control freak. However, I'm the more practial Capricorn and she's the more creative Leo, so the fault probably goes both directions.
Keep in mind that this is a marriage of two strong personalities. My wife behaves like a real lioness and she would take off the head of anyone she doesn't like. I'm a very strong personality myself. We yield control to each other out of love, but would not accept being subordinated to anyone else.
I'll generally write this off as a lost cause because I neither understand nor have control over the situation.
So, this is one challenging aspect that is not easily mitigated unless I change my fundamental serious Capricornian personality and give up wanting to steer the ship, which is not easy. Telling a Leo to stop wanting to rule the roost is like pacifying a lioness. Not going to happen.
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From: http://www.throughnightsfire.com/SaturnNeptuneconnections.html
The square between Saturn-Neptune in the Synastry chart can indicate a karmic lover relationship, but the lovers have not usually lost one another through their love, that is, their relationship didn't cause or contribute to the death of one or both partners as can be the case with the Saturn-Neptune opposition in a karmic house touching a planet or light in both individual nativities. The square more often indicates that there were difficult circumstances in the past that the two individuals failed to handle appropriately and they will once again face a similar situation together. Their incompetence may have cost lives, particularly if they were involved in the medical profession or were military leaders. This configuration can appear when both partners need to work toward a goal that will benefit mankind. It can become a driving force behind a team dedicated to helping others. The square will often be strong enough to hold the two people together if they are able to focus the energy outside the relationship rather than within it. The fear that lingers so deeply with the opposition could manifest within the relationship with the Saturn-Neptune square, but it isn’t likely to be as strong nor focused within the relationship. For instance, meeting the other person could bring up unknown fears and insecurities within each individual, but they will not be fearful of the other person. Instead, they may come to lean on the other to offer support and help them overcome the new fears as they develop. Fear of professional success or health maladies may be brought to the forefront through the connection. For instance, one partner may be scared to take a risk in order to make more money or gain prestige in his or her profession while the other partner develops allergies or begins to worry excessively about cancer or another terrible disease.
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From Sky View Zone:
Saturn square Neptune:
What does it mean to your relationship when your natal Saturn is square your partner’s Neptune? You cannot seem to find substance or a feeling of security in your relationship when you consider your partner’s lack of practicality and common sense. Demanding that he/she settle down and takes responsibility is not productive. If your romantic partner’s Saturn is square your Neptune, you may feel loss of self esteem and creativity when your partner demands that you face reality and adopt his/her way of doing things. You feel he/she just doesn’t understand your creative process.
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If you want a relationship to last, you need to have Saturn contacts.
Saturn is the planet of responsibility, hard work, reality, dedication and time. A relationship can’t survive if the people in it don’t feel a sense of responsibility for one another. Any meaningful relationship requires work and effort, and a mutual sense of obligation binds people together.
Relationships that last have to pass a reality test. Summer romances don’t need Saturn contacts, flings don’t need Saturn contacts, but if you want lasting love, you want Saturn contacts. Saturn contacts form enduring bonds.
Neptune-Saturn
The Neptune person learns the limits of illusion, fantasy and idealism.