posted September 16, 2012 10:05 AM            

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Originally posted by a_may_gemini:
I think it's harder to be the female version of Sagittarius, Capricorn, and Aquarius because those signs got identity issues. Sagittarius is into being reckless and rude, that's not very fitting for a female. Capricorn is uptight, boring, cold, overbearing, controlling, and the list goes on. YUCK.
I like Aquarius people and as a Gemini, I'll probably always have their backs but I swear, Aquarius chicks try to be like one of the guys (similar to Sagittarius) and just end up being awkward and psychotic. They probably make the worst mother figures ever cuz they're so distant and nonchalant.

I can't say it's easy to be a female Gemini either. The Gemini ego is linked to intellect which is traditionally considered masculine. Meanwhile, I look, act, sound, move, dress feminine but my thinking is very masculine which throws a lot of people off. I've met many other Gemini females and they're similar- very masculine brains but feminine with everything else. Perhaps the key lies within feeling feminine. In that case, I don't really feel feminine and I haven't met a female Gemini that thinks she feels feminine either. I guess we're a bit too emotionally distant to be completely feminine...

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I'm a mother and a damn good one because I was raised by a damn good one not because of my sign. I hate when astrology becomes a need to be a judgemental ******* . This goes for anyone who knocks a persons parenting skills because of some damn planets in the sky!

posted September 16, 2012 11:02 AM            

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Originally posted by a_may_gemini:
Capricorn is uptight, boring, cold, overbearing, controlling, and the list goes on. YUCK.

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glad someone said this. despite having a Cap sun (weak-ish) and Cap brother, I would NEVER date a Cap guy (just because they really are barely desirable). and I also cannot admit to having a Cap sun without adding really quickly "but I'm not a very typical one, I have lots of fire and water and whatnot"

And look at this list! They all seem sexually messed up, insecure and unapproachable! This is what one reads off immediately at any rate http://www.librarising.com/astrology/sunsigns/sunincapricornfemale.html

@ topic, my vote for the worst goes to Cap (just because I don't want people assuming I am that boring undersexed shy being with self-esteem issues, which is not even true ), my vote for the best.... from what I've seen Scorpio women are kind of harmonious and cool, but apparently there's all that envy/jealousy involved, so who knows. Taurus must be very good too, at any rate it must be on the easier side.

posted September 16, 2012 01:02 PM            

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Originally posted by inthemisosoup:
One thing I dislike about astrology is many people who study it like to perpetuate gender roles. People are who they are irregardless of gender. Women are not more emotional then men, it is simply that society is more accepting and expecting women to have more emotional responses, all the while castigating men who choose to be emotional. Same goes for aggression, that typical "male" behavior. It is simply not true that one gender is predisposed at birth to behave and emote a certain way. Astrology can give us insight as to why people act the way they do; why some men are more open or in touch with their emotions than others and the same goes for women with aggression and dominance. However, you have to take into consideration that it still is a taboo or a turn-off for many (even among those who are modern and educated) to see gender barriers being broken. So even if you have a woman who's chart is Mars-heavy or fire-heavy, she still may not exude this energy as she pleases, for fear of being excluded or frowned upon. That can give off the appearance of being "uncomfortable" in one's own skin, with their natural energies. This, I think, is what you are getting at with the topic.

But let's try not to perpetuate these gender myths here.

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posted September 16, 2012 01:56 PM            

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Originally posted by maira:
I was commenting with a good friend that Aries and Leo are lousy signs for women (before anyone feels insulted, I'm the aries and she is the leo ). It gives a go getter attitude when it comes to love, which emasculates men and causes trouble in relationships.

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There might be something to this - I think like a man when it comes to dating and when I'm interested in someone, it's like I'm naturally hard-wired to be the one doing the pursuing. In first grade I spent about a week chasing a boy I liked around the playground during recess; in fifth grade I took the plunge by giving another boy a Jessica Rabbit Valentine's Day card with "I like you" scribbled on the back.

posted September 16, 2012 03:33 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I agree with Gray and Maira! Being an Aries woman is good for work, bad for love. Guys always seem to like the demure girl who gets attention for being pretty and girly (she can be smart, but she gets attention for her appearance. Not her personality) whereas Aries women, well, we're pretty much everything. I think guys feel one-upped by me/us when I'm just being myself.

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posted September 16, 2012 03:33 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I agree with Gray and Maira! Being an Aries woman is good for work, bad for love. Guys always seem to like the demure girl who gets attention for being pretty and girly (she can be smart, but she gets attention for her appearance. Not her personality) whereas Aries women, well, we're pretty much everything. I think guys feel one-upped by me/us when I'm just being myself.

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posted September 16, 2012 03:34 PM            

Pass the scotch

posted September 16, 2012 03:53 PM              

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Originally posted by Gray:
They feel threatened, like if you ask them out first, that makes them the woman, as if their p.enis magically vanishes lmao.

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posted September 16, 2012 04:26 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Which I don't get. Like, guys now a' days complain "Why do we have to do all the work, blah blah blah" So then we women DO THE WORK and they're like "Why are you so masculine, blah blah blah." Click, click, boom.

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posted September 16, 2012 04:28 PM            

As for it being hard for Leo and Aries or Sagittarius women, I disagree... I've known many and few of them ever had a problem picking up a guy. There are others that do, true, but I've never seen a lot of them have a problem here.
Hell, I have all fire signs in my big 3 and I'm one of the less fortunate ones, but the reason why has nothing to do with me being a fire sign.
Then again, depending on where they were brought up and what culture they are in, it COULD be a problem. If anything, the majority of guys here prefer it when a woman is confident, forward, outgoing or even aggressive. Typical fire sign traits. If anything, the quiet, submissive girls tend to get overlooked. But that's going into an entirely different discussion of gender roles, men's preferences and times, leaving behind Astrology.

posted September 16, 2012 04:32 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Which I don't get. Like, guys now a' days complain "Why do we have to do all the work, blah blah blah" So then we women DO THE WORK and they're like "Why are you so masculine, blah blah blah." Click, click, boom.

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ain't that the truth (luckily, not all are like that)

posted September 16, 2012 04:53 PM            

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Originally posted by inthemisosoup:
One thing I dislike about astrology is many people who study it like to perpetuate gender roles. People are who they are irregardless of gender. Women are not more emotional then men, it is simply that society is more accepting and expecting women to have more emotional responses, all the while castigating men who choose to be emotional. Same goes for aggression, that typical "male" behavior. It is simply not true that one gender is predisposed at birth to behave and emote a certain way. Astrology can give us insight as to why people act the way they do; why some men are more open or in touch with their emotions than others and the same goes for women with aggression and dominance. However, you have to take into consideration that it still is a taboo or a turn-off for many (even among those who are modern and educated) to see gender barriers being broken. So even if you have a woman who's chart is Mars-heavy or fire-heavy, she still may not exude this energy as she pleases, for fear of being excluded or frowned upon. That can give off the appearance of being "uncomfortable" in one's own skin, with their natural energies. This, I think, is what you are getting at with the topic.

But let's try not to perpetuate these gender myths here.

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posted September 16, 2012 04:54 PM              

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:

honestly, I don't understand why it's such a huge deal; why does it matter who asks first? makes no sense. It's the 21st century.

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posted September 16, 2012 06:37 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
ain't that the truth (luckily, not all are like that)

honestly, I don't understand why it's such a huge deal; why does it matter who asks first? makes no sense. It's the 21st century.

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posted September 16, 2012 07:08 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
[b] ain't that the truth (luckily, not all are like that)

honestly, I don't understand why it's such a huge deal; why does it matter who asks first? makes no sense. It's the 21st century.

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posted September 16, 2012 07:24 PM            

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Originally posted by Gray:
You'd be surprised. Pretty much every guy I've encountered has a problem with it.

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posted September 16, 2012 07:55 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
haha I have never heard any guys complain about it. I know I don't. I actually kind of toy with women who are interested in me, I act oblivious to their hints to see if they'll ask me, but they are too chicken. lol

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posted September 16, 2012 08:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Gray:
Then you're a rare case, because most of them say they don't have a problem with it, until they're actually in a situation where they're being pursued by a woman, then they get all weird.

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posted September 16, 2012 08:15 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
here's my honest opinion on that, its not that the guys have a problem with the girl making the first move, its just they aren't interested in the girl asking. i highly doubt a guy would reject a girl he's attracted to.

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+1000!