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Topic: Aspects that are a turn-off
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Nightingale
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posted March 24, 2012 05:00 PM
  
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how did you feel and experience this? i was saturn and i felt totally devoted to venus, i just want to know how venus would experience it, people told me since she was venus that she felt "pressured" by me, but that cant be the case, because we were both seemingly emotionally invested, i only became pressuring when she just thought she could just walk away without an explanation,after she had made promises and commitments to me, i would have been reasonable if she would have talked to me like a mature adult.
Probably other aspects adding to the situation. The married couple I know with it aren't happy, are both stuck though, but there are more Saturn aspects than this one. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 24, 2012 05:02 PM
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Originally posted by Moonfish:
For me, I didn't feel "pressured" by the guy. He was actually a really nice person.. but for some reason his presence felt heavy, like a burden. You know how when you try on clothes and even if its something you really like it just isn't comfortable. Sometimes no matter how hard you try to make a relationship work theres no use.. It's the mystery of Synastry my friend 
i know what you mean, and in my case i could have accepted that, had the girl been honest with me,but she wasnt, its funny because she was the heavy one who had a ton of insecurities, she would cry to me and say she knew she would lose me because she loses everything she loves,we had some serious karmic shiz going on... IP: Logged |
Capriquarius
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posted March 24, 2012 05:06 PM
Uranus contacts, which means Moon, Venus, and Pluto are included because they are a part of the same configuration. I can only deal with contacts to my Sun, Mercury (very important, as my chart ruler, and being in detriment, it has to put in extra effort to function as it should), Mars, Saturn, Jupiter, and Neptune. IP: Logged |
ariesdragon
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posted March 24, 2012 05:13 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i know what you mean, and in my case i could have accepted that, had the girl been honest with me,but she wasnt, its funny because she was the heavy one who had a ton of insecurities, she would cry to me and say she knew she would lose me because she loses everything she loves,we had some serious karmic shiz going on...
I was told the same thing and I thought "what's wrong with this person? why is she hurting so much?" It made me realize that there was too many deeper issues that I couldn't help her with. That it was time for her to help herself. I hope she's doing well and that she has found happiness. IP: Logged |
Moonfish
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posted March 24, 2012 05:21 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i know what you mean, and in my case i could have accepted that, had the girl been honest with me,but she wasnt, its funny because she was the heavy one who had a ton of insecurities, she would cry to me and say she knew she would lose me because she loses everything she loves,we had some serious karmic shiz going on...
Interesting, do you think there could of been other aspects to cause that? Perhaps something in her own chart?
If she kept things from you neptune probably had something to do w/ it. IP: Logged |
popcorn
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posted March 24, 2012 05:23 PM
I dont care about the aspect but I leave immediately an aggressive person. I cannot manage an aggressive person. Thats turn off for me.IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted March 24, 2012 05:26 PM
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Originally posted by ariesdragon:
Take it all in Ceri  u are wonderful!
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Ceridwen
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posted March 24, 2012 05:28 PM
Nightingale,yes, Saturn square DESC-ruler sounds like real heavy stuff, could be an absolute turnoff or very binding. But even then where`s the fun`? IP: Logged |
ariesdragon
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posted March 24, 2012 05:36 PM
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LOL that is awesome hahaha IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted March 24, 2012 05:50 PM
I think saturn tightly square moon is a downer too. But it seems saturn in composite does help keep a couple together. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 24, 2012 05:58 PM
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Originally posted by Moonfish:
Interesting, do you think there could of been other aspects to cause that? Perhaps something in her own chart?
If she kept things from you neptune probably had something to do w/ it.
she had tons of saturn squares in her own natal,and chiron square moon IP: Logged |
Moonfish
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posted March 24, 2012 06:20 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
she had tons of saturn squares in her own natal,and chiron square moon
Ah well that definitly explains it IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 24, 2012 06:43 PM
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Originally posted by Moonfish:
Ah well that definitly explains it
yea her dad died when she was young and she had been a daddys girl, and she kinda related those feelings of losing him onto me,i think we have deep karmic issues,our synastry and draconic shows it, funny thing is she is dating a guy who was born 5 days after me now and he looks freakishly like me. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted March 24, 2012 07:41 PM
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Not ones which you dislike but ones where you couldn't be less interested in someone else?
Ok – so these are just aspects that pop up when I feel disinterested in the relationship – not ones I intently dislike!
Sun quincunx Sun (I like them but I don't really feel close enough to be interested) Their Mars conj my Moon (Way too predictable.. I know them inside and out. They just bore me) Unaspected personal planets in the synastry (mainly Mercury.. If either my Mercury or theirs is un-aspected we have serious issues communicating - and there is also a disinterest in communicating. Neither of us care) A man’s Moon or Venus conjunct my Mercury/Jupiter conj in Pisces..
As much as I am physically attracted to Sun/Mars in Pisces… On a romantic level I feel disinterested in Moon/Venus. I guess this is for similar reasons to the Moon/Mars above.. I feel a bit bored because I find their love-life predictable. I can kind of tell what they are capable of both positive and negative. There is no intrigue. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted March 24, 2012 07:42 PM
I have saturn squares too and moon and venus square chiron (by 1 degree each)Think it makes me really sensitive, but not really the type to broadcast that vulnerability. She is probably the same way. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 24, 2012 07:47 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
I have saturn squares too and moon and venus square chiron (by 1 degree each)Think it makes me really sensitive, but not really the type to broadcast that vulnerability. She is probably the same way.
yea ,but whats weird is she shared all that with me IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted March 24, 2012 07:48 PM
mintgirl - The aspects on your list irk me! But I don't feel disinterested.. I sometimes feel strongly annoyed with those squares (depending on the rest of the syn).
But it's not like the person is invisible to me. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted March 24, 2012 08:23 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
yea ,but whats weird is she shared all that with me
Are you guys around the same age? That would mean your saturn would be squaring her placements since saturn is a generational planet and it moves very slow. She'll have that with everyone born around the same age as you.
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mintgirl123
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posted March 24, 2012 08:25 PM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
mintgirl - The aspects on your list irk me! But I don't feel disinterested.. I sometimes feel strongly annoyed with those squares (depending on the rest of the syn).
But it's not like the person is invisible to me.
Oh I just go 'eek' and kinda get turned off alittle. It's not sth that's a total deal breaker, but I would be expecting the conflict. Cos it almost always appears eventually down the track (a few months in usually if it's the moon).
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aquaguy91
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posted March 24, 2012 08:30 PM
we were born 10 months apart,and i meant she opened up to me about all her insecurities related to loss etc,IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted March 24, 2012 08:37 PM
Yeah so no wonder your had all that saturn.
Saturn moves really slow. She'll have those aspects with other people born around the same time too.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
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posted March 24, 2012 08:43 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Yeah so no wonder your had all that saturn.
Saturn moves really slow. She'll have those aspects with other people born around the same time too.
thats weird because as i said she is dating a guy born a week after me and i snooped and did the synastry,yes im nosy,but saturn wasnt nearly as bad,mine squared all of her personals from sun to jupiter, his maybe squared 3 IP: Logged |
popcorn
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posted March 25, 2012 06:46 AM
Look at that girl about 10-15 year. I promise... you will be surprised.IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted March 25, 2012 08:17 AM
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Originally posted by ariesdragon:
LOL that is awesome hahaha
thanks. On Moon square Saturn.
my Saturn is exactly square my best friend`s Moon. Her Saturn is opposite my Moon widely (5 degrees). We`ve been friends for over 20 years. I guess there really is some glue coming with the Saturn.
It is probably different in friendships though, and no, it has not always been an "easy" friendship, but very valuable to both of us.
I wouldn´t really "recommend" Moon-Saturn-squares for everyone though. In our case though, my Moon is quinkunx Saturn natally, and her Moon is trine Saturn; her Venus conjuncts Pluto and my Venus squares Pluto. Her Mars is also conjunct Pluto, and my Mars sextiles Pluto.
Mars rules her 11th house, Pluto rules mine (and the 12th house), so our 11th house rulers are conjunct.
We simply are on the same page in what we want in friendships, and have similiar needs concerning friendship-commitment, loyalty, sincerity etc.
So I think in our case the Moon-SAturn-square was workable, due to the resonance with our natals.
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Moonfish
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posted March 25, 2012 12:28 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
yea her dad died when she was young and she had been a daddys girl, and she kinda related those feelings of losing him onto me,i think we have deep karmic issues,our synastry and draconic shows it, funny thing is she is dating a guy who was born 5 days after me now and he looks freakishly like me.
Wow sorry to hear that 
So she's still with the other guy? Maybe the orbs between there synastry aspects w/ saturn are wider?
Overall i think your a great guy for still wanting to be w/ this girl despite all her insecurities :] IP: Logged |
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