posted April 22, 2012 11:13 PM            

We went on a first date last night after two weeks of talking every day and writing 10,000+ word emails about everything; he was extremely opened in person, which surprised me (self-proclaimed introvert.) Talked a lot about his life, his fears, and he asked several questions about my family, my job, who I was in high school. We joked around a good bit. Strong eye contact. I made him laugh.

When we call it a night after 5hrs, he says quietly, "We can plan for something else later, if you want." (Of course I said yes!) We made it to my car, and he said he was busy this week with work, but we'd figure it out, that I could drive to his town, and we could barhop. He hugged me. Then texted me 30 minutes later to say, "It was cool to finally hang out." And when I agreed and said I'd had fun, he said, "Good and yay!"

posted April 22, 2012 11:27 PM            

He probably already trusts you because of the emails (trust is huge especially for the Virgo moon), and then meeting you in person made him extra happy because it sounds like you both had a great time.

Good luck!

Cap sun here, married to a Leo 13 years.

posted April 23, 2012 12:12 AM            

I say this as a Cap who got engaged to a Leo after one date! And we're still together!

Not to scare you....just saying...things CAN heat up very fast with Cap/Leo.

posted April 23, 2012 12:21 AM            

Patient, I think, because he said he was a slow-goer when we first started talking, and he is fairly reserved and somewhat shy. He's been single for almost five years and is just now turning his life around (lots of bad things happened for awhile) and admits he's put up lots of walls. I think one of the reasons he trusts me is I don't push, just let him reveal himself slowly, and just let him... lead. It's strange for me as I am a super fire blend without much patience. I like the switch though. It feels like... I'm growing? Which seems a bit bizarre to me, not really knowing him.

But please, give me whatever advice you want/got! Like I said, Cappys aren't my territory, and you being married for 13 years!!!! You seem like an authority I can trust

posted April 23, 2012 12:42 AM            

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Originally posted by beccathelion:
Wow! Haha, you guys must have some amazing chemistry!! I love it!

Patient, I think, because he said he was a slow-goer when we first started talking, and he is fairly reserved and somewhat shy. He's been single for almost five years and is just now turning his life around (lots of bad things happened for awhile) and admits he's put up lots of walls. I think one of the reasons he trusts me is I don't push, just let him reveal himself slowly, and just let him... lead. It's strange for me as I am a super fire blend without much patience. I like the switch though. It feels like... I'm growing? Which seems a bit bizarre to me, not really knowing him.

But please, give me whatever advice you want/got! Like I said, Cappys aren't my territory, and you being married for 13 years!!!! You seem like an authority I can trust

And that's FAR FROM SCARY. I like the sound of that VERY MUCH hehehehe

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Oh I wish YoursTrulyAlways were here. He's a Cap married to a Leo for 19 years and I think it took them...three weeks?...to get engaged after their first date.

Just you talking about it puts this huge smile on my face. It all sounds so familiar. I can even tell from talking to you why a Cap guy would like you, you are obviously mature, self-aware, considerate, appreciative, enthusiastic...

*clapping* Let us know how it goes!

(But forgive me if I am getting ahead of myself, sounding pushy. I'll try and be patient too. )

posted April 23, 2012 12:48 AM            

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Originally posted by Ann7:
Haaa this sounds familiar. I dated a cap sun/leo moon/scorp rising on and off for 2 years (we are still friends today). We talked and emailed and the first few dates were incredible but somehow he left me feeling unsure, possibly that cap coolness that they are famous for. What I noticed about my cap is that he needed time to get to know me before he truly warmed up (and said "I love you"). Unfortunately, I had already moved on - I got tired of waiting. My post isn't meant to discourage you, it's to point out that caps will draw you in and then pull away until they feel completely secure and that you are truly a good long term match. If you really like him, be patient.

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This sounds like a common Cap scenario also.

The thing with Leo/Cap, why it works so often, is that the two signs have loyalty in common. So the Leo gives the Cap time, and vice versa. My experience with it is...and I dated a different Leo for four years before I got married...the relationship changes but ages well. There may be a bit of turbulence as it changes.

posted April 23, 2012 02:23 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Oh I wish YoursTrulyAlways were here. He's a Cap married to a Leo for 19 years and I think it took them...three weeks?...to get engaged after their first date.

Just you talking about it puts this huge smile on my face. It all sounds so familiar. I can even tell from talking to you why a Cap guy would like you, you are obviously mature, self-aware, considerate, appreciative, enthusiastic...

*clapping* Let us know how it goes!

(But forgive me if I am getting ahead of myself, sounding pushy. I'll try and be patient too. )

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No, no! Not pushy at all. And thank you so much for the compliments! I certainly hope it goes wonderfully. I am trying to be realistic that it could go south, but that doesn't mean I don't get carried away with my Leo fantasies. Do you mind if I ask how your first date was? Did you have sparks shooting out of your eyes for each other instantly or more of a muted, "Yes. This,"? Ours wasn't fireworks and thunderclaps, it was much more of a slow burn that... burned slowly. There were gaps in conversation, but he admitted it was because we'd said so much already, and that the date was more of a preliminary "make sure you aren't insane internet person" date, so I shouldn't worry (which I thought was sweet.) And he doesn't seem like the kind of man to ask me out again if he didn't want to.

posted April 23, 2012 02:28 AM            

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Originally posted by MessyLilLeo:
I seem to be exclusively attracted to Caps. My current BF of 5 yrs is a Cap Sun, Merc., NN, Venus, and Jupiter, with Moon conjunct Saturn in Gem - super Cappy. I'm a Leo too, and things went super fast with us as well. He moved in after 3 weeks or so. Probably too fast, in retrospect.
Anyway, he had been through some damaging relationship stuff, and had also been single for a long time. I pretty much had to tell him that I was absolutely nuts about him before he would even admit an inkling that he liked me.
I have major rejection issues, so I wouldn't just say that just because, but I knew in my own woman's heart that he had feelings for me and he was afraid/couldn't quite say them.
I also think you should just take your time, he's probably crazy about you and doesn't know how to say it.

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posted April 23, 2012 02:33 AM            

First date had its mishaps and awkward moments that we still laugh about. At the same time just being next to him, I was COMPLETELY attracted, and willing to do whatever it took just to be able to stay as close as I could, as long as I could.

Apparently he felt the same way!

posted April 23, 2012 11:04 AM            

As Faith mentioned, I'm 19 years into my marriage.

posted April 23, 2012 12:25 PM            

I don't even know where to start with questions, honestly. He's 29, and I'm 25. I'm used to dating air or fire sign men, and it's always a heart-on-the-sleeve sort of show, so with this Cap, there's lots of question marks above my head. He mentioned early on he disliked pet names and gushy stuff, which is great; I do too (thanks, Cap Mars!) I guess, Yours, if you don't mind... when you knew you liked your spouse, how did your actions reflect that? Or was it slow going until you were sure? He's extremely busy right now, but still takes time to ask how my day is/was, which I think is a good sign, but he is an absolute puzzle to me. Extremely analytical, rationalizes all his feelings. I don't know. I guess, what are some of the signs that all lights are go, and I should be honest with how I feel? I don't want to scare him. Are Cap men polite just to be polite, or are they type to say something and mean it?

posted April 23, 2012 01:21 PM            

My wife and I just simply clicked. We are so different in one sense, but so alike in another sense.

As a Leo, she's flamboyant, ambitious, directed, brave, and there is an overwhelming sense of style in everything she does. My wife is heavy Virgo (five planet stellium) and she embodies the earthy qualities that I like. At the same time, she is poised and charming Leo and carries herself in a dignified manner, which I admire. She just so happens to look fabulous, so that simply moved things further along, not that I focused exclusively on looks. We share the same religion, values and political views. That doesn't hurt. We even share the same brand preferences for automobiles, jewelry and attire.

From her standpoint, she likes my Capricorn sense of duty, responsibility, respect, care and most of all affectionate nature. She liked me having a strategic plan for everything (I was surprised that most women don't like that). I was five steps ahead with the career and financial planning. I had investment strategies mapped out by 21 and the home buying part by 25. That was just unique me. Of course, she just so happens to like the business look (and most young women don't). Me being dressed in fine suits most of the time didn't hurt.

When I went out with my wife for the first time, I made it clear that I enjoyed her company, and at the end of the date, I made sure she knew that I liked her. Most young women get scared by that. She asked me what I was searching for. I flat out told her that it was my lifelong dream to start a family the proper way and center my focus in life on my new family. She didn't flinch.

posted April 23, 2012 03:42 PM            

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Hello beccathelion! Welcome to LL

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posted April 23, 2012 04:35 PM            

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I'm really looking forward to date two; I won't be as nervous, and I think we can cut loose a little more

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posted April 26, 2012 01:35 AM            

He texts every day. Sends pictures of things I like, etc. Actions speak louder than words; it's a good sign. However, I haven't been asked out again. It hasn't even been mentioned (and I'm not gonna bring it up!) I know he's somewhat busy with work and school, which is beyond fine. Those things come first, in my opinion, but... it's running cooler and cooler, and the one time I brought up our past date, it got shutdown pretty quickly. I don't think I'm being kicked into friend zone though; last night I asked if I could call him a nick/pet name based on a joke we made, and even after admitting he hated them, he approved it (which stunned me). I say, "Good night, [nick name]," and he responds with, "Good night, [nick name]" that he made up for me. Now, duh, this is good, but... is it really going to be this slow going? I'm just trying to situate myself here, prepare myself for the wait.