posted April 23, 2012 02:04 PM            

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Originally posted by cherryblossom:
Is it true that scorp doesn�t like to compromise and change?

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posted April 24, 2012 04:15 AM            

Sounds like your man is quite insecure (cf. jealousy).

I don't think he's the cheating type. Unless his Uranus conjuncts his personal planets, but that could just mean he needs freedom in his relationships. Not one to be tied down.

I think you should just wait and see what he does. Chances are, he'll come back to you.

posted April 24, 2012 08:07 AM            

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Originally posted by cherryblossom:
Thanks everyone!

Well.. I can say that it's not totally his fault. I do need to make adjustments as well for him.

We're currently on a break now. It's my fault this time tho.. I'm so confused.

What should i do during this break to change his mind? It's been 3 days on our break..

Day 1: We chat a bit. He said sorry it has to be like this. He was ready to leave but it’s hard for him cause he still loves me. But at the same time he wants to get away from this evil circle where we fight constantly. I tried to be understanding and gave him space. I know I was wrong. Ive hurt him blab la bla..

Day 2: I called him to say hi. At night he texted me and gave me short call just to check if im home.

Day 3: He texted me and we chat a bit in the afternoon and at night he texted me again wanting to know if im home. He said he'll text me again tom. But that’s it. I asked, he answered. He didn’t ask or talk about anything else. I know he’s still mad.

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I haven't read all of the other posts...

...but here, he is just checking up on you and keeping tabs and knowing your whereabouts. What it means, why he is doing it...etc, in relation to whether or not he 'cares' about you, idk. But he is certainly interested in tracking you.

..."if it makes you happy."

posted April 24, 2012 02:12 PM            

A piece of advice, a gem, in my humble opinion. A gem because it comes from a woman who finally understands "the way it is", now that she's 42.

People don't really change too often. This Scorpio man, if it's his way now to lash out with hurtful words, is not going to stop doing it any time soon. He admits he doesn't know why he does it, which probably means it's a knee jerk, emotional reaction. It's the only way he knows to deal with certain situations.

Don't believe, like I did, when I met my husband at the age of 28, that the things this man does that don't sit well with you are ever going to go away. Despite his other wonderful qualities, he will probably always be verbally abusive. And it will only get worse as he's more familiar with you and starts to take you for granted. The man I ended up marrying showed a LOT of telltale signs of who he REALLY was behind the mask. Some of those signs truly bothered me, but for whatever reason, I chose to plod onwards, on a course of marriage and home together. Well, I wrote out a retainer check to a matrimonial attorney a couple of months ago after years of becoming increasingly frustrated with him, his woe-is-me attitude (he had it before we married), his lack of verbal restraint (ditto), his passive aggressive behavior (ditto) and his need to control the smallest things in our joint household (yes, there were signs of that too, earlier).

posted April 24, 2012 05:06 PM            

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Originally posted by crabbypatty:
Okay, OP, I'm taking a break from some work I don't really want to do, and your post caught my eye.... so here's my two cents in the name of procrastination.

A piece of advice, a gem, in my humble opinion. A gem because it comes from a woman who finally understands "the way it is", now that she's 42.

People don't really change too often. This Scorpio man, if it's his way now to lash out with hurtful words, is not going to stop doing it any time soon. He admits he doesn't know why he does it, which probably means it's a knee jerk, emotional reaction. It's the only way he knows to deal with certain situations.

Don't believe, like I did, when I met my husband at the age of 28, that the things this man does that don't sit well with you are ever going to go away. Despite his other wonderful qualities, he will probably always be verbally abusive. And it will only get worse as he's more familiar with you and starts to take you for granted. The man I ended up marrying showed a LOT of telltale signs of who he REALLY was behind the mask. Some of those signs truly bothered me, but for whatever reason, I chose to plod onwards, on a course of marriage and home together. Well, I wrote out a retainer check to a matrimonial attorney a couple of months ago after years of becoming increasingly frustrated with him, his woe-is-me attitude (he had it before we married), his lack of verbal restraint (ditto), his passive aggressive behavior (ditto) and his need to control the smallest things in our joint household (yes, there were signs of that too, earlier).

I'm not saying that an astrological analysis of him is a bad idea. I'm just saying, maybe once you do that, whatever the outcome, you move on and leave him behind in the dust. Say a civil goodbye and look forward to having a wonderful man in your life who doesn't abuse your sensitive nature. He will come if you invite him in to your space.

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posted April 24, 2012 05:10 PM            

I also agree that having a look at his astrological chart will lend you some insight in to his character, but it's not going to change who he is and you will know who a person is by the most consistent way they treat you.

Some of this may be hard to hear but I would consider it before making any further decisions and use this break to take stock of what *you* want instead of asking him what *he* wants.

posted April 24, 2012 06:03 PM            

You asked whether Scorpio's don't like compromise and/or change. I am a Scorpio but I have heavy Libra and Aquarius influence, so in my case, change is something I embrace, and compromise is something I always strive for. So, to answer your question, it depends on other elements in the person's chart, I think.

posted April 24, 2012 06:17 PM            

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Originally posted by crabbypatty:
Oh, and him not being willing to change anything to suit your needs means he's self centered now and will probably continue to be.

You asked whether Scorpio's don't like compromise and/or change. I am a Scorpio but I have heavy Libra and Aquarius influence, so in my case, change is something I embrace, and compromise is something I always strive for. So, to answer your question, it depends on other elements in the person's chart, I think.

Don't give up on Scorpio men. I know one with a Pisces moon who would probably take your breath away.

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Haha, I'm a Libra with scorpio influences. I am with you 120% on the compromise and change part.

posted April 24, 2012 11:05 PM            

He loves you and doesn't want to hurt you. But he's given this relationship all he has to give. He's trying to tell you, but you won't listen to him. Where he was once sweet he's turned bitter. It's a hope, a prayer, a wish you will spit him out. But you won't.

posted April 25, 2012 02:53 AM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
This guy is not complex or insecure. He's a gentle, passive soul.

He loves you and doesn't want to hurt you. But he's given this relationship all he has to give. He's trying to tell you, but you won't listen to him. Where he was once sweet he's turned bitter. It's a hope, a prayer, a wish you will spit him out. But you won't.

Hear what he is saying to you. Release him.

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It could be the case.
I went through this with a Scorpio man, and i could not understand why he suddenly became so mean. But yea, he wanted ME to realize the truth. Scorpio man are like that.