posted June 07, 2012 08:23 AM            

the only advice i could give you is be honest with him as he is a scorpio, they like honesty. Tell him what bothers you, better yet, ask him where ur relationship is going, i know it is hard but if u really wanna end the pain, be brave enough to face it and end it

posted June 07, 2012 07:48 PM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
I guess I was stupid enough to tell him to just "go and ask her out when you know the time is right, girls don't wanna do the first move because we don't want to look desperate..." I was hoping he'll realize that the "girls" i was referring to was actually me...ugh, totally stuffed it up! i have no chance anymore

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Don't worry. It's not too late. You'll just have to be completely blunt. Just say the following:

"There's something I want to tell you. It's really hard for me to say, but I want to be completely honest with you."

Your Scorpio friend will look puzzled, but intrigued. He'll say something like," What is it?"

Then you say," I have feelings for you. I understand if you don't feel the same way, but I just want you to know that I really like you in a non-platonic way."

Whatever the outcome, your Scorpio friend will respect you for your emotional honesty. He will feel touched that you just made yourself completely vulnerable to him. You are essentially putting your heart in his hands, which shows the ultimate level of trust. He'll respect that. He may ask to take some time to figure out his feelings for you. Don't feel disheartened if he does this. After all, this news may be very surprising to him and he'll need time to digest this.

Sweetie, I know this is so scary, but you need to be direct with him because otherwise you'll always wonder years later from now what could've been. He may be the love of your life or he may not, but you won't know until you try.

posted June 08, 2012 03:11 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Do you flirt with him?

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that was when he was showing me that he might like me, but a whole lot of things could happen in 3 years right? we don't do it anymore, well, at last for me...I thought it was better off for me to just back off since I didn't wanna get too involved with him cos I don't wanna ruin anything that we have at that time, he's not even making the first move so I thought it might be that he just really feels comftable around me...

posted June 08, 2012 05:59 AM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
wouldn't it be awkward tho? I'm gonna attempt to tell him I like him for the second time because the last time I tried, not only did I froze, but some of his friends started walking towards our way while I was talking so I didn't end up telling him about it...he then asked me months later what it was about and I didn't tell him because I really thought he was going to move interstate...how can I bring up this topic again without making me look like so emotional? or is it the only way out?

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Of course it will be awkward. For one, you need to tell him when you two won't be interrupted. If this is impossible, you could always write him a short letter and leave it in a place where only HE will read it. The risk of this is that someone else will find the note and will make the situation embarrassing for you, so do not attempt the letter method unless your privacy is ensured.

To answer your question about how to not appear emotional, it is my experience that Scorpios are fond of emotion provided that it follows these rules:

1) It is expressed in private. Big, dramatic emotional displays in public are usually seen as tacky. There are exceptions of course (i.e. you are proposing marriage). In your situation, keep it between you and him, which I'm sure you already know.

2) You express your emotion honestly. Scorpios are emotional. They may not seem like it, but they are deeply sensitive souls and greatly respect those who can express their emotions honestly. If you love him, then tell him so. If you like him, then tell him. If you had just met this guy, I would strongly advise against making strong emotional statements since it can be weird for most people to have a stranger say they love them. However, you have known this guy for a while and you are best friends. It is perfectly all right for you to be completely honest. Just make sure you say what you mean. Don't exaggerate your feelings. Be simple and direct.
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Unless you are known for being overly emotional on a regular basis, he is not going to think you're overly emotional for telling him your feelings. There is always risk involved when expressing your feelings, but you will feel a lot of regret later on if you don't do this. If you wait too long to tell him how you feel because you fear the awkwardness of the situation, just imagine how you'll feel the day he gets married to someone else. You'll be kicking yourself for not acting sooner. By then it will be too late.

To ensure your privacy, tell your friend that you have something you want to tell him in private. That way, he'll set aside some time at his home or at some other place where he'll know you two won't be interrupted. I strongly advise you to arrange your own transportation to whichever place you both plan to meet so that way if you feel too embarrassed or things get too awkward for your own comfort, you can quickly leave on your own without having to depend on your friend for a ride home.

To take some pressure off yourself, just remember that whatever happens, happens. If it turns out he does not feel the same way, then it just wasn't meant to be. Sometimes you have to take risks in life. The potential consequences of these risks often scare people away, but these risks can also yield the greatest rewards.

posted June 08, 2012 06:07 AM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
...but him, telling me that I can understand him, telling his deepest darkest secrets to me, telling me about his family issues, always coming to me when he's feeling down or very happy.. is that not enough to say that trust is more than what we have in this friendship? he doesn't want me talking about other guys when around him because when I do, I noticed he'll start talking about these other girls and I know what's his trying to do... but I'm not even trying to make him jealous!! >< gaahhh, I know we might sound immature but we're actually in college now...we just don't have any experiences in dating lol

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I wish I had read your post carefully before I posted a reply because it is clearly obvious that he definitely likes you! If you both had a strictly platonic friendship, he would not care if you told him about other guys. And he certainly wouldn't retaliate by talking about other girls to make you jealous. I had a guy friend who did this exact same thing, and guess what? He later asked me to be his girlfriend!

What are you waiting for? Go and tell him how you feel!