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Topic: When do you leave your lover?
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Hera
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From: the OR
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posted June 29, 2012 09:39 AM
  
I don't stay in bad relationships. I make a few attempts to resuscitate them, if they fail I don't throw good money after the bad.
As I told my last ex, why be miserable together when we can be miserable by ourselves, it is more honest..7 Fire planets, 'nuff said. IP: Logged |
popcorn
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posted June 29, 2012 09:40 AM
I leave if he is controlling aggressive jealous. I think I will leave the relationship if he cheat.Ive moon, venus, NN, mars in house 11.
moon, venus in gemini.
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Saraintheski
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posted June 29, 2012 09:49 AM
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Originally posted by Milkyshutter:
The two failed relationship you had. Were the synastry with them showed strong bond? Or were you describing yourself?
With the second relationship I mentioned , I had a very strong bond with him even astrologically , It felt very fated . He actually introduced me to the more complicated astrology.I think he saw me as so loyal but yet fragile he could do no wrong and he was an egomaniac . I still don't even hate him to this day , I find it impossible almost. We had A lot of heavy saturn aspects , and Venus & pluto . Our Saturn was in the 7th house in the composite . He was mostly fire and water . I have mostly water and a fire moon . He actually started using astrology to insult me when he got really angy! LOL he'd say you slimey scorpio bi*** I should of known you were POS go rott in hell for eternity . We even had fights over this forum he told me I was spending too much time on here with these "Broads" and so on and so on everything became a fightIP: Logged |
Saraintheski
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posted June 29, 2012 09:52 AM
even though I compromised so much for him my family and friends . I felt like anything to show him im worthy . I'd make up excuses like oh he's a man he should be able to have control he knows whats best . It's just hormones he has too much Testosterone I always just steered away from the fact that maybe he's mentally ill. My happiness was his happiness my hopes and dreams were that he fulfilled his . We had great times together but when it came down to it he would throw me under the bus and terrorize me on a drop of a dimeIP: Logged |
Milkyshutter
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From: Seoul, Korea
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 29, 2012 10:11 AM
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Originally posted by Saraintheski:
even though I compromised so much for him my family and friends . I felt like anything to show him im worthy . I'd make up excuses like oh he's a man he should be able to have control he knows whats best . It's just hormones he has too much Testosterone I always just steered away from the fact that maybe he's mentally ill. My happiness was his happiness my hopes and dreams were that he fulfilled his . We had great times together but when it came down to it he would throw me under the bus and terrorize me on a drop of a dime
I really wish you meet the Mr. right next time. IP: Logged |
Milkyshutter
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Registered: May 2012
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posted June 29, 2012 10:12 AM
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Originally posted by Hera:
7 Fire planets, 'nuff said.
Indeed Hera. Indeed. And, more than half are in Aries, if I recall correctly. LOL IP: Logged |
Milkyshutter
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From: Seoul, Korea
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 29, 2012 10:16 AM
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Originally posted by popcorn:
I leave if he is controlling aggressive jealous. I think I will leave the relationship if he cheat.Ive moon, venus, NN, mars in house 11.
moon, venus in gemini.
mars in cancer
It's really hard to measure how much is being too controlling, aggressive and jealous, especially when a gemini moon/venus person say it. Get the drift? ^^ The last line was rather funny. You aren't too sure you would leave the person if he cheats? You are a flaky gal, arent ya? IP: Logged |
popcorn
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posted June 29, 2012 10:26 AM
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You aren't too sure you would leave the person if he cheats? You are a flaky gal, arent ya?[/B]
I think I will but Ive just no experience from that...Im really glad to that, absolutley. I just dont know how I will feel... IP: Logged |
Hera
Moderator Posts: 2508
From: the OR
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 29, 2012 10:36 AM
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Originally posted by Milkyshutter:
Indeed Hera. Indeed. And, more than half are in Aries, if I recall correctly. LOL
Awwww, I am flattered that you know my placements! ^_^  3 in Aries, 4 in Sag  I don't know.. I've had my parents' example for staying in a bad marriage for 30 years, I don't want that to happen to me. They're both fixed (Taurus and Aqua).
I think people do realize it is bad but they are afraid of leaving, feeling they can't make it without their partner. I have a friend who is a Leo, been with her bf for, I don't know, 8-9 years, cheated on him with several dudes, actually had multiple committed relationships on the side.. she is planning to marry someone else but she didn't muster the courage to tell him it's over.. Somehow he is still the stability in her life (lol he's a Gem hahaha but I think with a heavy dose of earth).. but she will ruin his. On the other hand, I think he knows what is going on but doesn't want to face up to it, so until she calls it quits, he pretends everything is alright... I don't know.. that sort of life is not for me. God knows I'd probably do anything for my future husband.. but tolerate disrespect, disloyalty, lack of commitment, deception, manipulation or violence.. IP: Logged |
beckylee
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From: japan
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 29, 2012 10:37 AM
I'm a Scopio sun, aries moon, libra venus and virgo mars  I left a boyfriend because he was trying to make me jealous. I was too proud to deal with that kind of nonsense. I loved him a lot though, a Capricorn with sag moon. I also left a boyfriend because he kept disappointing me. I wanted him to change a little, I didn't like some of his moods- as a Cancer he had loads of that. I also felt like he didn't respect me enough. IP: Logged |
depth
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posted June 29, 2012 11:01 AM
I was with 2 scorpios and they both c0mplained that I was unstable, unpredictable, rude, seemed em0tionally and sexually disinterested, spoke about/to other guys, n0t at all r0mantic, opened up stuff that should have been kept private... I gave out those "this is temporary vibes." And yes, it meant forever. It's the same with my scorp sun c0nj nept m0m. When she says she's d0ne, she means it. She's d0ne it with a go0d number of people.I can leave anytime. Even I d0n't kn0w when and why. I had this sm0oth thing with this guy, spoke to him for 2 hours at night and the 1st thought that came to my mind the next m0rning was "what on earth am I doing with him?" It c0mes to me in instant flashes. Other times are when I feel stuck/can't grow/bored. When I realize the relati0nship doesn't have a future. The guy isn't as ambitious or hardworking equals n0 future. When he clings, is needy, bosses around, mistreats me, basically incompatible. I do compr0mise big time though. Then, there are times when I feel grossed by them. Earlier, I would run. These days, I stay away from them for a week, a two or s0metimes a m0nth and then c0me back. This applies to people I share a ro0f with too. The last reas0n is if they cheat. My intuiti0n knows when a guy has lost interest. This pushes my insecurity butt0n. And once that happens, the end's near. Even if the guy c0mes back, I just won't take him. Sagittarius Sun. IP: Logged |
depth
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posted June 29, 2012 11:02 AM
I was with 2 scorpios and they both c0mplained that I was unstable, unpredictable, rude, seemed em0tionally and sexually disinterested, spoke about/to other guys, n0t at all r0mantic, opened up stuff that should have been kept private... I gave out those "this is temporary vibes." And yes, it meant forever. It's the same with my scorp sun c0nj nept m0m. When she says she's d0ne, she means it. She's d0ne it with a go0d number of people.I can leave anytime. Even I d0n't kn0w when and why. I had this sm0oth thing with this guy, spoke to him for 2 hours at night and the 1st thought that came to my mind the next m0rning was "what on earth am I doing with him?" It c0mes to me in instant flashes. Other times are when I feel stuck/can't grow/bored. When I realize the relati0nship doesn't have a future. The guy isn't as ambitious or hardworking equals n0 future. When he clings, is needy, bosses around, mistreats me, basically incompatible. I do compr0mise big time though. Then, there are times when I feel grossed by them. Earlier, I would run. These days, I stay away from them for a week, a two or s0metimes a m0nth and then c0me back. This applies to people I share a ro0f with too. The last reas0n is if they cheat. My intuiti0n knows when a guy has lost interest. This pushes my insecurity butt0n. And once that happens, the end's near. Even if the guy c0mes back, I just won't take him. Sagittarius Sun. IP: Logged |
PhoenixFire
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From: The Crossing
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 29, 2012 01:33 PM
Sun in 12th conj Neptune. Neptune conj Asc Pisces Moon Venus in Scorp. IP: Logged |
Milkyshutter
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From: Seoul, Korea
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 29, 2012 09:50 PM
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Originally posted by beckylee:
I'm a Scopio sun, aries moon, libra venus and virgo mars I left a boyfriend because he was trying to make me jealous. I was too proud to deal with that kind of nonsense. I loved him a lot though, a Capricorn with sag moon. I also left a boyfriend because he kept disappointing me. I wanted him to change a little, I didn't like some of his moods- as a Cancer he had loads of that. I also felt like he didn't respect me enough.
You have a colorful personality. That surely will make any guys dizzy to match your expectation. ^^ IP: Logged |
Milkyshutter
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From: Seoul, Korea
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 29, 2012 10:03 PM
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Originally posted by PhoenixFire:
Sun in 12th conj Neptune. Neptune conj Asc Pisces Moon Venus in Scorp.
You must've lived a very interesting life. I always thought when outer planet is playing too heavy on a natal chart, the person can feel their life is more fated. That they don't have direct control of his/her life, but walking on a fixed path of destiny. In your case, through a misty road. Could you tell me about yourself more? IP: Logged |
blugrey
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Registered: Nov 2010
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posted June 29, 2012 10:39 PM
When I have lost all respect which in turn erases all feelings I could have possibly had.IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted June 29, 2012 10:51 PM
When there's nothing left to stay and fight for..IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted June 30, 2012 01:08 AM
If their trying to force me to be something I am not that includes not respecting my political or spiritual beliefs.
Cancer sun, Gemini moon, Taurus ascendant IP: Logged |
starzy54
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From: CA
Registered: Feb 2010
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posted June 30, 2012 02:07 AM
For me, its when they don't appreciate you anymore.IP: Logged |
Milkyshutter
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From: Seoul, Korea
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 30, 2012 02:12 AM
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Originally posted by starzy54:
For me, its when they don't appreciate you anymore.
I relate to this. For me when there is no respect in the relationship. I think my mars in leo can explode all of a sudden without it. IP: Logged |
PhoenixFire
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posted June 30, 2012 02:14 AM
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hannaramaa
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posted June 30, 2012 03:12 AM
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Originally posted by Milkyshutter:
I believe mercury in Aries can sympatize pretty well. After all, Aries is always about ME. When people say something to Aries, they relate back to their past time experience, and if it makes sense, they know exactly what you are going through. Most Aries that I met are usually intellegent because they self-reflect. Yet, they are only intrigued about something they are interested in. So, I guess if the topic/person is boring, it isn't that they can't relate, they become indifferent, losing the will to engage.What say you hanna?
I think you said it better than I did. For one, I really like Mercury in Aries' simplicity. Water sign mercuries are too into non-verbal stuff for me, that I never pay attention to and earth sign mercuries (except Capricorn...) don't pick up hints fast enough for my liking. I get along well with people who have mercury in Leo, or Mercury in Gemini. It's effortless, and entertaining. I agree that we self-reflect. I never get why some say fire signs don't self reflect because Aries is ALL about self-improvement on some level or another. And if I can't relate to it then I become very bored indeed. I know it means a lot to the person and I get that, but I can't serve you that well if I have no idea what you're feeling. Once I understand, then I'm all ears.
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hmm
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posted June 30, 2012 08:53 AM
i have my sun in 12th house in taurus, my venus in aries.flirting is the only thing thus far that has made me leave guys. and it's the only thing i can think of that would make me leave in the future.
incompatibility i can deal with, being mean i can deal with, anything really, but if you're flirting with other girls, it's just an automatic reaction to break things off. i've never gone back so far. it's not a rule that i don't go back, but generally i just didn't want to (actually i wanted to, but couldn't).
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Milkyshutter
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From: Seoul, Korea
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 30, 2012 09:58 AM
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Originally posted by hmm:
i have my sun in 12th house in taurus, my venus in aries.flirting is the only thing thus far that has made me leave guys. and it's the only thing i can think of that would make me leave in the future.
incompatibility i can deal with, being mean i can deal with, anything really, but if you're flirting with other girls, it's just an automatic reaction to break things off. i've never gone back so far. it's not a rule that i don't go back, but generally i just didn't want to (actually i wanted to, but couldn't).
Flirting or cheating? There is a huge difference. Technically, just having a casual conversatiton in a bar could be classified as flirting....You mean flirting with sexual tension? IP: Logged |
hmm
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posted June 30, 2012 10:12 AM
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Originally posted by Milkyshutter:
Flirting or cheating? There is a huge difference. Technically, just having a casual conversatiton in a bar could be classified as flirting....You mean flirting with sexual tension?
yeah, that's what i mean ;P. no i don't get mad if it's just talking.
just the way i see it flirting=interest. and if you're interested....in someone else, then what's the point. IP: Logged |
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