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Topic: Should I call him?
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bella_taurus
Knowflake Posts: 131
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted July 05, 2012 03:27 PM
  
Now that the Venus RX is over, I've been feeling less cloudy about love and relations. By me being a first-decan Taurus, that transit hit me HARD, I'm finally feeling like myself again. Anywho, there's this guy who used to work at my job a few months ago. Ironically, his last day here as a contractor I contacted him via messenger and basically spilled my guts to him about how I have been crushing on him. Needless to say, he sent me less than 5 texts, told me he wanted to meet up for coffee at one point and I have not heard from him since. I felt and still feel like a stalker-*** -loser. Not to mention embarrassed about the whole thing. Lately, I've thinking about him and the situation and I just want to clear the air. Maybe I am pressing my luck or just being unrelaistic, but I am so not sure if I should call this guy. I am scared someone else might pick up or he might yell at me and think I'm stalking him. What should I do??? IP: Logged |
Seeing Stars 7.21
Knowflake Posts: 167
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 05, 2012 04:28 PM
Men handle crushes alot differently then women. We dont get angry about crushes some men might get wierded out but that is hardly the case. If a girl has a crush on me i dont get wierded out but rather feel bad that i have to let her down if im not interested.. and stalking is never considered because simply men dont feel threatened by women in that manner. So what would be considered stalking from a womens stand point would just be a cute persistent crush through a mans eyes. Not to mention your behavior doesnt even come close to "stalking". You just want to know if there could be anything there and you are entitled to find out. Although the woman pursuing the man generally isnt a good sign.. i guess in today's world its more socially acceptable for a woman to chase the man. He could be shy so I would say call him to clear up any doubts. You will kick yourself if you dont and the longer you wait the more awkward it becomesIP: Logged |
Hera
Moderator Posts: 2912
From: the OR
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 05, 2012 04:39 PM
Whoaaa! Hey Kevin, long time no see you around here!  (no, we don't really know each other but I remember you from few years back and was glad to see you back, random hello if you will haha  ) IP: Logged |
Seeing Stars 7.21
Knowflake Posts: 167
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 05, 2012 05:09 PM
Hi! Yes i took an extended brake from LL. I just recently started checking on the forum and dropping a comment here and there when I see fit. But it feels good to know someone actually remembered me, lol. Thank you Hera, god bless!  IP: Logged |
Hera
Moderator Posts: 2912
From: the OR
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 05, 2012 05:18 PM
I used to go by Izo/izodesmozina though you prolly don't remember me, I mostly mumbled to myself hahaha and kept low. I'm sure many people would remember you. I think I even remember you're a Cancer ha! (or Asc?) ^_^ God bless you too!
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 3137
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 05, 2012 05:25 PM
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Originally posted by Seeing Stars 7.21:
Men handle crushes alot differently then women. We dont get angry about crushes some men might get wierded out but that is hardly the case. If a girl has a crush on me i dont get wierded out but rather feel bad that i have to let her down if im not interested.. and stalking is never considered because simply men dont feel threatened by women in that manner. So what would be considered stalking from a womens stand point would just be a cute persistent crush through a mans eyes. Not to mention your behavior doesnt even come close to "stalking". You just want to know if there could be anything there and you are entitled to find out. Although the woman pursuing the man generally isnt a good sign.. i guess in today's world its more socially acceptable for a woman to chase the man. He could be shy so I would say call him to clear up any doubts. You will kick yourself if you dont and the longer you wait the more awkward it becomes
yea i agree 100%
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Doux Rêve
Moderator Posts: 1985
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 05, 2012 05:58 PM
Yes. Call him.
What do you have to lose? A bit of dignity, maybe.. And what do you have to gain? A connection with someone you like. Maybe even a relationship.Go for it. Life's too short to be wasting time on stuff like this. Rejection doesn't kill, either. Good luck!
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Desiring Shadows
Moderator Posts: 1349
From: UNITED STATES, BABY
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 05, 2012 06:05 PM
If he isn't treating you as you like then maybe don't. It's your decision though.IP: Logged |
redshift
Knowflake Posts: 27
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Registered: Jul 2012
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posted July 05, 2012 07:04 PM
Ouf see, this may be unpopular, but I think he sent a clear message already. You spilled your guts and he didn't go for it. What more could you do?I was just saying on another thread, that I think I'd make a good man, because of my assertive mars in Aries tendancies and lots of people say it's ok for a girl to pursue a guy, but honestly, I don't think it works often. Usually, I need to surpress it or men feel usurped and slightly suspicious that I'm making it so easy for them...unless they are really in touch with their feminine side and unconventional and open-minded, which let's face it, is not the average man. More often, I've wasted time and energy asserting with a guy on the off chance he's shy/confused/mysterious etc, when really, he's just not interested. Sorry to be the voice of dissension, but dudes are usually pretty simple about what they want. They go for it. Has he gone for you? You've already offered. Call if you like, but consider his actions thus far. They will speak the truth to you. And consider your own value. Offer yourself to those that truly honour and appreciate it and to those that RECIPROCATE! Even I need to follow my own advice!! It's hard to remember if you are crushing on someone. IP: Logged |
Astra
Knowflake Posts: 379
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 05, 2012 07:09 PM
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Originally posted by bella_taurus:
Now that the Venus RX is over, I've been feeling less cloudy about love and relations. By me being a first-decan Taurus, that transit hit me HARD, I'm finally feeling like myself again. Anywho, there's this guy who used to work at my job a few months ago. Ironically, his last day here as a contractor I contacted him via messenger and basically spilled my guts to him about how I have been crushing on him. Needless to say, he sent me less than 5 texts, told me he wanted to meet up for coffee at one point and I have not heard from him since. I felt and still feel like a stalker-*** -loser. Not to mention embarrassed about the whole thing. Lately, I've thinking about him and the situation and I just want to clear the air. Maybe I am pressing my luck or just being unrelaistic, but I am so not sure if I should call this guy. I am scared someone else might pick up or he might yell at me and think I'm stalking him. What should I do???
I agree with redshift. You directly told him your feelings and he hasn't contacted you since. If he were interested, then he would've followed through with at least meeting you for coffee. I wouldn't bother calling him. Just let it go and find a man who appreciates you. IP: Logged |
stillatlarge
Knowflake Posts: 247
From: TX
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted July 05, 2012 09:15 PM
What part of FIVE texts do you people not get? That's a book for some guys.IP: Logged |
Astra
Knowflake Posts: 379
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 05, 2012 10:23 PM
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Originally posted by stillatlarge:
What part of FIVE texts do you people not get? That's a book for some guys.
Five texts doesn't mean anything if they don't lead to something more. If he were really interested, he would follow up those texts with a basic phone call or meeting in person especially since he knows exactly how she feels about him. Unlike many other men, he doesn't have to worry about being rejected since she already told him she likes him. IP: Logged |
Nine
Knowflake Posts: 1080
From: The Cusp of Love
Registered: May 2009
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posted July 05, 2012 10:26 PM
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I think I even remember you're a Cancer ha! (or Asc?) ^_^ God bless you too!
I remember him. He's a Cancer, with moon in Libra (?) and Virgo rising @ 19 degrees. I remember the username Izo. In those days real astrology was discussed round here. Today anything goes, even made up aspects - because the descriptions sound good. What's next - a retrograding moon? ... It means your emotions are turned inwards. And you may have difficulty expressing your true feelings. IP: Logged |
Seeing Stars 7.21
Knowflake Posts: 167
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 05, 2012 10:45 PM
Lol yes i remember you izo. On the other hand nine i dont know if I remember you but good job calling those placements! IP: Logged |
Nine
Knowflake Posts: 1080
From: The Cusp of Love
Registered: May 2009
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posted July 05, 2012 10:51 PM
hehe. SS7.21, I've undergone a name change or two. IP: Logged |
Hera
Moderator Posts: 2912
From: the OR
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 05, 2012 11:20 PM
Lol, I was pretty sure I went incognito around here  IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
Moderator Posts: 3221
From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted July 06, 2012 04:18 AM
Personally, I don't know that you should call him.If he was really interested, he would have gone to coffee with you by now or at least would have scheduled it with you. I personally wouldn't push the issue. IP: Logged |
bella_taurus
Knowflake Posts: 131
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted July 06, 2012 09:29 AM
Okay Everyone...I decided not to call, I guess I was still crushed he never called.
...Life goes on....
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Ceridwen
Moderator Posts: 3461
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 06, 2012 12:00 PM
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Originally posted by Nine:
What's next - a retrograding moon? ... .
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