posted July 09, 2012 12:01 AM            

I have an aries friend, she's female, who really cares about me. I think she's fascinating, but I also dislike her. I think she's annoying and strange.. O_o I just don't get her facial expressions or the way she reacts to things. But at the same time, I can't help but be infected by her enthusiasm and how she pulls me around taking me places and how she's always just so happy and affectionate. I love that. I chalk it up to her just being shy...or withdrawn maybe? And that's why her facial expressions are weird. Like, somebody I know also noticed it and thought she acted "fake." She does. She comes off that way. But she's a sweetheart. For some reason she acts that way but she's not really fake. We have composite sun conjunct venus but not much else going on composite or synastry-wise. I don't understand why she is so obsessed with me. But I really do appreciate that she is. Haha. And I consider her a positive influence in my life. She is so so nice to me! And positive! We've actually talked about the Aries-Cancer attraction before. I was telling her how I looked at her composite with her boyfriend, a scorpio, and that I thought they were soulmates! She was like, "There's no doubt about that. When I think about how much I love him it makes me want to cry." haha aw she's so sweet. We started talking about how she was drawn to shy people, being so extroverted and energetic herself, and how that was funny, because her boyfriend is so so shy and antisocial. But then, all of a sudden, her voice got soft and quiet and quivered a little, and she told me "And..Cancers? How compatible am I with cancers?" And I was taken aback a little. Like, I had always read about the aries-cancer fatal attraction on the internet but I hadn't ever talked to someone in real life about it. And well, I explained to her. I mean, I totally knew where she was coming from. Aries are just my soft spot. And I could tell cancers were hers.

The best thing I can say to you is

I feel it most likely will not work out, but this isn't to ruin all hope for you. I'm still hopeful it might work out with me an aries one day (I have to admit that they are everything I look for in a guy, and I make best friends with aries both male and female all the time), but my experience is that at the same time that I love them, I also hate them. It doesnt work out in the end…but I can tell you that these two signs might not mix well together but they just cant seem to get enough of each other for some reason…Aries teaches Cancer to be more tough and independent while Cancer teaches Aries how to be a little more caring and loving. It's more like opposites attract with these two signs. They're not supposed to be together but they cant get enough of each other..weird. And the love is definitely very intense. And they have the capacity to change each other, and put each other in their place and make each other face what they need to change about themselves. But it won't be easy. Passionate, definitely. Easy, no. Sexual attraction is obvious at first for both these signs and they're definitely fascinated by each other, but, they are total opposites. It's hard to make that work in the long run. But I think it's worth it, because well, the aries in my life are just such a positive influence. They really bring me out of my shell. You have no idea.

I think I understand why your cancer guy feels the way he does. I have an aries friend who I get along splendidly with, we do have the love stellium after all, but at the same time, I also hate him. And though we have an attraction there and definitely some very sweet moments, I would never go out with him. Because he's just scary! That's how it is for me and most aries. There's an attraction, but they're scary! I'm in love with another aries. He scares me only a teensy weensy bit, but its very minor . I think that you will find the right cancer one day who won't think you're scary and insensitive. =0) Of course you will. Best of luck! He probably loves you but also hates you, I'm just saying. He loves you at least a little bit. He has to. There is too much fascination between these two signs. <3

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posted July 09, 2012 02:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Seeing Stars 7.21:
Wish i could help but either you've done something to **** him off or hes just one messed up a$$hole

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posted July 15, 2012 09:01 PM            

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Originally posted by FireMoon:
They like to be loved and needed but only when they feel comfortable enough to let you see past their shell. Which even if they're in love with you is probably not going to be all the time. Their moods can change quickly and they want to know they're not completely vulnerable. If you call too much attention to their "sweetness" they can get really freaked out and withdraw completely. They really are sweet but only when they choose to show that side of themselves to you and if you talk about it too much they feel emasculated. I would say stop trying to get him to notice you for a while and give him space and let him come to you... Aries and Cancer really are different in a lot of ways lol you just can't be as aggressive with them as other signs, but I understand your frustration with Cancer guys...

Also welcome to LL

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posted July 15, 2012 09:46 PM            

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Originally posted by butterflyxoxxo:
you dont deserve to be treated like that, seriously. i would ice this guy out 100%

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posted July 15, 2012 09:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Lonake:
He thinks you're creepy and he's shown you in multiple ways that he doesn't want you around. Time to back off and learn the meaning of the word no. It doesn't matter if you're female and he's male, think if the genders were reversed how this situation would look. Uh huh. Find someone who appreciates what you have to give, and give this guy some peace.

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posted July 15, 2012 10:02 PM            

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Originally posted by butterflyxoxxo:
you dont deserve to be treated like that, seriously. i would ice this guy out 100%

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posted July 15, 2012 10:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Lonake:
He thinks you're creepy and he's shown you in multiple ways that he doesn't want you around. Time to back off and learn the meaning of the word no. It doesn't matter if you're female and he's male, think if the genders were reversed how this situation would look. Uh huh. Find someone who appreciates what you have to give, and give this guy some peace.

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I have to agree. There may be a Cancer guy out there for you, but it's not this guy. Part of loving a person is respecting their boundaries and your persistence is not romantic, it's disrespectful at this point. Cancers know pretty quickly what they want and what they don't want, if he says no then he isn't deluded, he has felt you out and you don't make him feel the way he wants to feel with someone he likes.

Another quick mention. You said in the beginning of your post that you know Cancers because you "send him cute texts and show an interest in his family and his mental state telling him I want him happy always". These are superficial gestures. I know your intention is not to be superficial. You simply want to show that you prize him enough to want to spend considerable amounts of time paying attention to him. The problem is, Cancers need you to genuinely and instinctively be a person who is naturally interested in all these things (if these are the individual's particular interests), not a person who does those things because you think it will make them like you.

posted July 15, 2012 10:24 PM            

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Originally posted by Xiiro:
I have to agree. There may be a Cancer guy out there for you, but it's not this guy. Part of loving a person is respecting their boundaries and your persistence is not romantic, it's disrespectful at this point. Cancers know pretty quickly what they want and what they don't want, if he says no then he isn't deluded, he has felt you out and you don't make him feel the way he wants to feel with someone he likes.

Another quick mention. You said in the beginning of your post that you know Cancers because you "send him cute texts and show an interest in his family and his mental state telling him I want him happy always". These are superficial gestures. I know your intention is not to be superficial. You simply want to show that you prize him enough to want to spend considerable amounts of time paying attention to him. The problem is, Cancers need you to genuinely and instinctively be a person who is naturally interested in all these things (if these are the individual's particular interests), not a person who does those things because you think it will make them like you.

Think of a Cancer as a blind and deaf person, you can stand in front of them, jump around, wave your hands, and shout, "I LOVE YOU" with little result (besides offending their sense of smell after working up such a sweat). It is more effective to sit next to them and offer your warmth, embrace them with gentleness, and offer a hand when they need it. It sounds like you have warn out your welcome with this particular Cancer, but don't look at it as a loss. Look at this as a win in learning how to know when a person is interested in you or not.

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posted July 15, 2012 10:25 PM            

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posted July 15, 2012 10:35 PM            

I get where your coming from.
I'd walk away too and chalk it up to experience.
I think you have a beautiful pure heart and there is someone who will adore you for it.

posted July 15, 2012 10:35 PM            

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Originally posted by ariesforever:
oh. you must be right, i just screwed up too much by still trying..

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posted July 15, 2012 10:37 PM            

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Originally posted by ariesforever:
i didn't think cancer's detach at all.. holy, its been 2 weeks and i still haven't got a respons from the cancer guy, i try to talk every now and then but get nothing

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posted July 15, 2012 10:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Libreo:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by ariesforever:
[b] i didn't think cancer's detach at all.. holy, its been 2 weeks and i still haven't got a respons from the cancer guy, i try to talk every now and then but get nothing

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posted July 15, 2012 11:03 PM            

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Originally posted by lalalinda:
Hello ariesforever! Welcome to LL

I get where your coming from.
I'd walk away too and chalk it up to experience.
I think you have a beautiful pure heart and there is someone who will adore you for it.

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posted July 15, 2012 11:05 PM            

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Originally posted by ariesforever:
i feel like its my fault, its hard to let go because he means a lot but i guess i was trying to understand more than he just doesn't like me and no should be done

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