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Topic: Men Who Want to Marry
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sand
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From: 14.5530° N, 121.0199° E
Registered: May 2011
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posted August 15, 2012 03:24 AM
  
Yeah my dad is a sag and he believes it's wrong not to be lol!IP: Logged |
Lotis White
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From: USA
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted August 15, 2012 04:13 AM
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Originally posted by sand:
Yeah my dad is a sag and he believes it's wrong not to be lol!
That is hilarious. The thing about Sag’s is that they tend to be really opinionated, but what they believe person to person is different. You could have one Sag influenced person swearing that littering in wrong! While another one would ramble on passionately about how we need the personal freedom to throw trash wherever we want. They all tend to believe in SOMETHING. You’d find those who are all for marriage, and those who are not both in this sign.
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Capricorn Sun
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From: Planet Saturn
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 04:31 AM
Doesn't everyone want to be married at some point? Being single forever has to be the most loneliest boring existence ever. Sure it has its ups for freedom, but at some point it is nice to hear the words "I love you" or just knowing someone cares. That has to be special. And why do some get it and some of the rest don't? That is my biggest mystery. ------------------
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Aquacheeka
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From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 07:05 AM
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Originally posted by Capricorn Sun:
Doesn't everyone want to be married at some point? Being single forever has to be the most loneliest boring existence ever. Sure it has its ups for freedom, but at some point it is nice to hear the words "I love you" or just knowing someone cares. That has to be special. And why do some get it and some of the rest don't? That is my biggest mystery.
I actually know a Taurus who is determined to never marry and even has an uncle he looks up to as an example of why it can be done. IP: Logged |
Rosalind
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posted August 15, 2012 07:09 AM
I am not a man but guess I can leave my opinion anyway. I have an empty 7th house in Taurus with ruler in 10th. Since I was 10 I wanted to get married and have children BUT I want only one man and a single marriage. My fixed DSC don't like divorce.IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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From: Surfing Kite. Seriously.
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted August 15, 2012 07:24 AM
Virgos are inherently against marriage,state of mind,really.
I had the fortune to meet marriage-driven Aqua 
I can't blame the man,my Cancer Venus is bad  IP: Logged |
starmoon
Knowflake Posts: 177
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Registered: Sep 2011
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posted August 15, 2012 06:12 PM
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Originally posted by Capricorn Sun:
Doesn't everyone want to be married at some point? Being single forever has to be the most loneliest boring existence ever. Sure it has its ups for freedom, but at some point it is nice to hear the words "I love you" or just knowing someone cares. That has to be special. And why do some get it and some of the rest don't? That is my biggest mystery.
you can hear 'i love you' without being married to someone and friends often care more about you than a spouse. marriage is not the answer to happiness, and perhaps the ones who abstain know that. happiness comes in many other forms, and you can be very lonely within a marriage - constant companionship means nothing. i have 7 major planets in libra, supposedly a marriage/partnership sign, but i don't care to be married (and i'm 37 already)... it's a statistical impossibility to find 'the one' - just think of all the people in the world - marrying anyone is merely settling because you'll never find your true soul mate, imo IP: Logged |
Thefish
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Registered: Apr 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 06:15 PM
Capricorn Sun,Not everyone is suitable for marriage nor believes in marriage. I could get into why marriage can be a bad arrangement from the male perspective but that's not appropriate for this forum. Btw, I would like to get married at some point. IP: Logged |
CRCRINCON
Knowflake Posts: 35
From: CA, USA
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 06:21 PM
My husband is a Gemini Sun, Moon Taurus, ASC Aries with Venus (5th) square Uranus (7th) and a packed 1st house in Aries. When we first got together he said he did not believe in marriage. Four years later we were married and he is the one that wanted the traditional ceremony and wedding reception. He calls me "wifey" all the time. So go figure! But we have lots of Saturn contacts so maybe there is something to do with the Synastry and the composite between two people???...Wasn't it Warren Beatty who was known as the eternal bachelor until he met Annette? However he does have a Scorpio Moon... IP: Logged |
ail221
Knowflake Posts: 761
From: Mary Margaret Blanchard's home
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted August 15, 2012 06:22 PM
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Originally posted by Capricorn Sun:
Doesn't everyone want to be married at some point? Being single forever has to be the most loneliest boring existence ever. Sure it has its ups for freedom, but at some point it is nice to hear the words "I love you" or just knowing someone cares. That has to be special. And why do some get it and some of the rest don't? That is my biggest mystery.
Ehhh marriage isn't for everyone. Personally I could live my life without getting married. Marriage is just a legal contract with rings involved. Not being married doesn't mean not having a significant other and after living with someone for a set number of years in the eyes of the state it's considered a common law marriage. Plus not all people who are married are happy just as not all single people are unhappy not being married. IP: Logged |
scorpy_oh
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posted August 16, 2012 03:29 AM
i'm pretty much fixed water & cardinal earth and i don't have a real desire to get married. i think because i take it so seriously, i'm not so thrilled by the idea of marriage. the thought of waking up married one day actually scares me.well, to be fair, i am only 20 and i have other things on my mind than legally binding myself to another. for example, my career. the only planet i have in my 7th is my mercury. IP: Logged |
Capricorn Sun
Knowflake Posts: 88
From: Planet Saturn
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 16, 2012 09:35 AM
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Originally posted by starmoon:
you can hear 'i love you' without being married to someone and friends often care more about you than a spouse. marriage is not the answer to happiness, and perhaps the ones who abstain know that. happiness comes in many other forms, and you can be very lonely within a marriage - constant companionship means nothing. i have 7 major planets in libra, supposedly a marriage/partnership sign, but i don't care to be married (and i'm 37 already)... it's a statistical impossibility to find 'the one' - just think of all the people in the world - marrying anyone is merely settling because you'll never find your true soul mate, imo
There is no such thing as soul mates. You can be compatible with a large mass of many. Ones who marry are devoting their self to their significant other. Sure you can live with someone and it becomes a common law, but how much easier it for one of you to walk out the door with no responsibility or remorse of the other person you spent that time with? Laws make marriages for people to be committed. It is less likely for this lack of respect to occur then. There is nothing wrong with marriage.
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Rosalind
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posted August 16, 2012 09:37 AM
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Originally posted by Capricorn Sun:
There is no such thing as soul mates. You can be compatible with a large mass of many. Ones who marry are devoting their self to their significant other. Sure you can live with someone and it becomes a common law, but how much easier it for one of you to walk out the door with no responsibility or remorse of the other person you spent that time with? Laws make marriages for people to be committed. It is less likely for this lack of respect to occur then. There is nothing wrong with marriage.
Rolling of the Floor Laughing.
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Aquacheeka
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From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 16, 2012 01:07 PM
Astrology is about respecting differing worldviews and lifestyles, as long as no one else is harmed by the expression of those differences.
The fact of the matter is, both viewpoints are perfectly legitimate because no one is hurt or stigmatized by either one. Variety is a good thing. We can't all agree. If one person is happier married - that's great! If another feels that it's outdated or confining - also great! I don't think there's a right or wrong answer to this.
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Aquacheeka
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Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 16, 2012 01:10 PM
For me personally, I don't see any urgency or importance to getting married. I think it would be nice to do one day but I just don't see the point unless you're throwing the big party - the big wedding. If you can't afford it (the average wedding these days costs $27k and parents are less likely to contribute to the costs than before), then what's the point? Just live together and wait until you can.
The majority of people I know - including my bf - feel this way.
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crissyx89
Knowflake Posts: 175
From: California
Registered: May 2012
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posted August 16, 2012 02:31 PM
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Originally posted by Capricorn Sun:
There is no such thing as soul mates. You can be compatible with a large mass of many. Ones who marry are devoting their self to their significant other. Sure you can live with someone and it becomes a common law, but how much easier it for one of you to walk out the door with no responsibility or remorse of the other person you spent that time with? Laws make marriages for people to be committed. It is less likely for this lack of respect to occur then. There is nothing wrong with marriage.
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Originally posted by Rosalind:
Rolling of the Floor Laughing.
I for once agree with Rosalind if everyone was so compatible with large amounts of people.You wouldn't see so many people single or in unhappy marriages.Soulmates do exist!! IP: Logged |
Dreaming111
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Registered: Oct 2011
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posted August 16, 2012 04:44 PM
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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
I should note that I am saying long-term relationship. Because 99% of the guys I know of every sun sign are not thinking about marriage. I think a lot of it is financial, and a lot of it is cultural/generational. Americans in general value marriage more than we do here in Canada.
Just wanted to remark about the whole "Americans in general valuing marriage." Um, no. I'm an American, who deeply values marriage and commitment, but to say that the general population does is not accurate. Maybe more than Canada? That could be I've never been to Canada to assume I know the answer for that portion. 
But Americans based solely on marriage-divorce stats, reasons for first time marriages, infidelity and instant gratification culture of ours, we as a general group honestly are not even a bit capable of valuing marriage. Maybe there are a few here or there but as a group, we are laughable. I laugh, when I see people who have zero of their priorities straight, zero ability to sacrifice/ compromise, no track record of self discipline or selfLESS service to others, no standards/ principles but ones that are as fickle as the wind. I laugh mostly because these people speak about romance, love, being sexy for their mates, getting it down in bed with them, about how hot that guy is, how hot a girl is, how big an ass is, how ugly he looks, how ugly she looks, how they need a lay, how he can't control himself, how she can't control herself, how he's out of love with her, how she's out of love with him, how she's falling for a coworker, how she's falling for a coworker. And finally, they speak with expert advice about marriage and commitment. That's rich huh? Seems like they spent their ENTIRE life dreaming about a committed relationship and marriage and ACT in accordance toward it. *Sarcasm* Dreaming yes. Acting toward it, us Americans? Hell no. We are lazy, airy, undisciplined people. As a group we don't even demand that people act on what they say. We just let it float by. It makes me laugh when people who have absolutely no idea who they themselves are set out to find "the one" who they will spend the rest of their lives with faithfully. You can never find a true relationship with the right person if you first don't take the time to develop a relationship with your own self. You can't with the Gold at the marriage olympics if you aren't waking up at 6am putting your feet to the dirt track. You need to act toward the goal you desire with tons of self discipline, hard work and yes importantly sacrifice. If no, then you'll not get commitment but maybe a few hundred bucks from a divorce lawyer, and a few babies to add to the headache.
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Dreaming111
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posted August 16, 2012 04:52 PM
Back to the topic though. I think men that have an emotional need met by their significant other are likely to want to get married. I guess you would look at his moon, 12 house. If someone meet you spiritually or brings out your 12th house though it can be difficult to deal with, it's very enriching and never superficial. It allows us to grow tremendously. Many times out 12th house planets are deep deep within us and we don't even realise that we have been functioning without them...that is until you meet someone that activates it. Don't get me wrong the very emotional water sign moons don't always stick around because they get upset easily, feel slighted quickly and might be too sensitive, and if that person then finds someone to be their emotional rock that's a rescipe for infidelity. So, it's not about stagnant signs, natal aspects etc. It's about the combination of signs and aspects (synastry/composite) that are compelling and compatible. This the the function of why a man or woman may want to marry or not. IP: Logged |
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