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Topic: The Lion leaves when hurt.
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enchantress299
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posted August 17, 2012 06:57 PM
  
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I said well I thought about everything, and......
he cuts me off and said.. Hey I dont like the way this blue tooth sounds.. I will call you later..
I said Ok bye...
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If a man doesnt want to hear it, then he certainly doesnt want to read it..
Whos to say he would even read it..
I'm sorry, but this guy sounds like a d*ck, no matter what astro sign he is. He very obviously has no care for your feelings or what you have to say which means you have no voice in this 'relationship' anyway. If he's not willing to hear you out then YOU and YOUR feelings are not a part of this and they obviously aren't valuable to him. That's not love or caring for another person. I'm not trying to be callous to your feelings of course, but it's pretty obvious he just doesn't care (enough) or isn't man enough to admit that he does care. Either way... To me, it doesn't seem like it's worth the trouble. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 17, 2012 07:49 PM
Yeap.. Which is why Im out..
He has no consideration for my feelings... He asked me to tell him.. I made the effort, yet he doesnt want to hear it...
BTW... He never called me back.. Which I knew he wouldnt.. But Im not expecting him to either..
Im really ok... I really feel this is a good decision. IP: Logged |
ariesdragon
Moderator Posts: 4078
From: Jupiter
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 17, 2012 07:52 PM
Stay strong Lioness 
I have a feeling he's gonna call... IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 17, 2012 07:55 PM
Honestly I dont feel a need to tell him my feelings...
I was good with walking away with "dont contact me anymore" HE'S the one that asked me to think if over and get back to him the next day...
I said ok... I thought it over and I got back to him the next day as promised.. Then he decided he didnt want to hear it..
Thats ok.. Its easier for me anyways..
Who 'wants' to have that convo?? Im not sweating it.. He just "thought" when I thought it over, it would be a different decision.. Once he realized I was going to say bye.. He didnt want to hear it.. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 20, 2012 09:09 PM
Just for the record.. not to brag or anything. But HAA!!! See I knew he was going to do that! He called me today.. Just like I said he will call on Monday... I know this fish! I know how he thinks. He called and said he felt like something is missing...
I got MAD!
I started telling him, he's contradicting him self.. He said how??
So I told him.. He said
Well I can hear in your voice that your feisty so I will let you go..
I said ooo noooo U called so Lets talk about this!
So we had it out...
After that he said cant we just let this go??????? grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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popcorn
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posted August 21, 2012 03:06 AM
If you really want leave him you must cuting of the strip between you two. You cant answer on phone and talk to him. You must do on the same way like you do when you stop smoking..Not be near him at all. Expect 2-3 year of psycological withdrawal symptoms.....IP: Logged |
Astra
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posted August 21, 2012 08:05 AM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
Today fishy hurt my feelings for the last time.... Im fed up... He reached my limit..
I feel like he never takes my feelings into consideration.. Even though Im head over heals and Im totally into him.. I just cant do this any more... He cant really believe he "has" me like that...
I dont think so.. I have no reason to accept the BS! So the Lion stepped on the fish..
What can I say! I ended it today..
I told him, please please dont contact me anymore..
He said u got it... So call it ego or pride.. IDK.. but regardless I'm not going to allow him to keep hurting my feelings...
A lioness will never stand there and take it.
Good for you! I wish my Leo ex would do the same, IP: Logged |
lilithpluto
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From: pluto
Registered: Dec 2011
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posted August 21, 2012 08:28 AM
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Originally posted by popcorn:
If you really want leave him you must cuting of the strip between you two. You cant answer on phone and talk to him. You must do on the same way like you do when you stop smoking..Not be near him at all. Expect 2-3 year of psycological withdrawal symptoms.....
Agree. It was painful but yes, distance works. Sad but works. IP: Logged |
lilithpluto
Knowflake Posts: 1093
From: pluto
Registered: Dec 2011
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posted August 21, 2012 08:28 AM
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Originally posted by popcorn:
If you really want leave him you must cuting of the strip between you two. You cant answer on phone and talk to him. You must do on the same way like you do when you stop smoking..Not be near him at all. Expect 2-3 year of psycological withdrawal symptoms.....
Agree. It was painful but yes, distance works. Sad but works. IP: Logged |
inthemisosoup
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posted August 21, 2012 09:27 AM
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Originally posted by popcorn:
If you really want leave him you must cuting of the strip between you two. You cant answer on phone and talk to him. You must do on the same way like you do when you stop smoking..Not be near him at all. Expect 2-3 year of psycological withdrawal symptoms.....
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mercuranian
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From: the future
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 21, 2012 10:56 AM
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Originally posted by popcorn:
If you really want leave him you must cuting of the strip between you two. You cant answer on phone and talk to him. You must do on the same way like you do when you stop smoking..Not be near him at all. Expect 2-3 year of psycological withdrawal symptoms.....
this^^
been there. it's the only way. and it really does take about 2 years to get over. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 21, 2012 09:28 PM
I'm finding it very hard to not have.contact with him.
I have to see him everyday..
I haven't called him, so he's really been texting me.Next week I will be on vac, so that should be easier..
I haven't told him I won't be in next week..lol IP: Logged |
C1ND3R
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posted August 21, 2012 09:33 PM
I got a stray dog about a week ago... It certainly helps a LOT!! I'm learning new behaviour traits that i didn't exercise before that is sure to benefit me elsewhere.One of the things that i'm learning is that there is no bad dog; just unwise trainers. So, giving steady signals and messages and being in charge of the dog and keeping our relationship trusting and open for further training... It's working wonders and showing me where i can do some maintenance work to enhance my relationships. IP: Logged |
C1ND3R
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posted August 21, 2012 09:36 PM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
All I can say is I hope he feels that moon/pluto lol.. Ohhh He is gonna miss me... Right now he's pi$$ed cuz his little game back fired... but he's going to miss me! He will feel it..
Have you read Hades Moon? They'll feel it only for a while before they detach. It gets to be too much for the pluto/moon people. Kinda how he just simply said "u got it".. Like that. Momma taught them well.. But not really :/ IP: Logged |
C1ND3R
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posted August 21, 2012 09:41 PM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
Right now, I feel nothing but anger.... I want to go and kick his azz.. But I'm keeping my self restrained..@ceri.
He tried testing me, to see what he can get away with..
Thinking he has me right where he wants to.. No man has me like that, never had never will.. Test me and I assure u, it will back fire..
I don't take being tested by anyone.. So he thought he was going to prove he has me like that...
Instead I told him, not to contact me anymore..
That will teach him not to test me.
That sucks. It sounds like he hurt you by treating u in a way that made you feel used. If he had to test you, he didn't trust you and also belittled you in a way by treating you in a way that made u feel unweten't capable of making whatever decisions the feud was about... Whenever people resort to manipulation, u have to understand that their self-esteem has gotta be wayyyyy low to the point that they don't know how to trust or believe in the genuine acts of another person. I think that maybe you both may have learned a lesson. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 21, 2012 09:42 PM
I'm sorry, I'm not sure what u mean... Can u explain?IP: Logged |
C1ND3R
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posted August 21, 2012 09:44 PM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
Just for the record.. not to brag or anything. But HAA!!! See I knew he was going to do that! He called me today.. Just like I said he will call on Monday... I know this fish! I know how he thinks. He called and said he felt like something is missing...
I got MAD!
I started telling him, he's contradicting him self.. He said how??
So I told him.. He said
Well I can hear in your voice that your feisty so I will let you go..
I said ooo noooo U called so Lets talk about this!
So we had it out...
After that he said cant we just let this go??????? grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My advice would be to disengage.
If you play into it, you're to blame, too and you get down to his level. He's ****** too. Otherwise, he wouldn't have done it. He let you in, in his own way and has to get a sting across or just feel that it's not all in his head so he can feel release. Doesn't sound healthy.
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C1ND3R
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posted August 21, 2012 09:46 PM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
I'm sorry, I'm not sure what u mean... Can u explain?
About the hades moon? It's a defense mechanism. They kill their emotions when it gets to be too much for them. And if they feel hurt, they can be really vindictive. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 21, 2012 09:52 PM
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Originally posted by C1ND3R:
About the hades moon? It's a defense mechanism. They kill their emotions when it gets to be too much for them. And if they feel hurt, they can be really vindictive.
Yeah.. I feel like he killed it.. But at same time I'm having a very hard time letting this go..
Plus he still wants to continue, so he keeps pushing ahead....
I feel really lost. IP: Logged |
C1ND3R
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posted August 21, 2012 09:58 PM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
Yeah.. I feel like he killed it.. But at same time I'm having a very hard time letting this go..
Plus he still wants to continue, so he keeps pushing ahead....
I feel really lost.
Don't go... Lol. The line has been crossed and now it looks like rough waters ahead from where i'm sitting but i don't know the whole story, either. If you follow along, now.. There really is no telling when the sting will happen and more than likely, it will.. And they do it in inopportune times. I would think it'd be a lot like sleeping with one eye open and that's not trust or love but seroous s&m business.. It can get hairy. The longer you're in it, the more lost you may feel... When you're knee deep in sh*t, who cares about a dandelion? http://books.google.com/books?id=AMy_jLQcVKsC&printsec=frontcover&dq=hades+moon+judy+hall&source=bl&ots=p0vu-ZiwAT&sig=xshIvDg_MB7v1oyn-l4CXxtI6XA&hl=en&sa=X&ei=pDw0UKmMFYKk9ASF_oH 4BA&ved=0CDEQ6AEwAA
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popcorn
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posted August 22, 2012 03:19 AM
Close him of. Try to put him out of your mind. Dont write and talk about him. When he will be in your mind try to put it out. Thoughts will always expand and go deeply into our feelings. If you wana break moon pluto so focus on mercury and start close of and think about what you think about..IP: Logged |
Padre35
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From: charlotte, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted August 22, 2012 03:29 AM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
Yeah.. I feel like he killed it.. But at same time I'm having a very hard time letting this go..
Plus he still wants to continue, so he keeps pushing ahead....
I feel really lost.
Do you still have positive feelings/attraction towards him? I hesitate to ask that Lioness, in my experience when there is some feelings still there, the other party can sense this and grab a hold of them like a drowning man does at a straw. Said with the utmost respect, just have seen sort of how this stuff plays out at times. Keep in mind, unless a relationship is 100% the it runs off of the rails quickly in my experience anyway
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C1ND3R
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posted August 22, 2012 10:20 AM
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Originally posted by popcorn:
Close him of. Try to put him out of your mind. Dont write and talk about him. When he will be in your mind try to put it out. Thoughts will always expand and go deeply into our feelings. If you wana break moon pluto so focus on mercury and start close of and think about what you think about..
Great advice. Lioness may need closure, though. IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted August 22, 2012 12:18 PM
Hey Lioness, What Moon/Pluto aspect does Fishy have in his natal? IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 22, 2012 01:42 PM
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Originally posted by Lonake:
Hey Lioness, What Moon/Pluto aspect does Fishy have in his natal?
None. He.doesn't have any natal moon/pluto aspects. He has.venus sq pluto
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Mars trine pluto. IP: Logged |
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