posted August 20, 2012 02:07 AM            

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Originally posted by Capricorn Sun:
That is true and that's when it becomes suffocating and intolerable.

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Yes so true!
I'm starting to wonder if moon/pluto is an aspect for on and off again relationships.Because I have this with my ex boyfriend I love him so much.Then other times I can't stand him.

posted August 20, 2012 02:14 AM            

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Originally posted by crissyx89:
Yes so true!
I'm starting to wonder if moon/pluto is an aspect for on and off again relationships.Because I have this with my ex boyfriend I love him so much.Then other times I can't stand him.

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posted August 20, 2012 02:28 AM            

I just feel like sometimes I'm holding on to the past with him.Its been 7 long years on and off and its just so hard letting go.My friends and family hate us together.I've just started communicating with him again,I hope I'm strong enough too resist moon\pluto and keep him as friend only.

posted August 20, 2012 02:29 AM            

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Originally posted by crissyx89:
Yes so true!
I'm starting to wonder if moon/pluto is an aspect for on and off again relationships.Because I have this with my ex boyfriend I love him so much.Then other times I can't stand him.

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posted August 20, 2012 02:46 AM            

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Originally posted by popcorn:
That's true. Feelings its not easy. Its sometimes easy to try leave the person but the feelings will not forget so.... Moon-pluto seems to me be like an addict which go deeply into our soul. Atleast the DW.

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posted August 20, 2012 03:04 AM            

I think what they mean is that not only do their significant others go hot and cold, but so do they. I know I have felt that relief of it being over. Like you can breathe. Though if im honest with myself, I know its not truly over, and I'm just really angry and blocking my emotions with anger. Once the anger subsides though, the deep longing starts. And as soon as you contact the person, or they contact you, and you're both so happy to hear from one another, the roller-coaster starts up once more.

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posted August 20, 2012 03:20 AM            

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Originally Lava Flower:
^ You're absolutely right. As time passes, ppl generally remember the good times more so over the bad.

I think what they mean is that not only do their significant others go hot and cold, but so do they. I know I have felt that relief of it being over. Like you can breathe. Though if im honest with myself, I know its not truly over, and I'm just really angry and blocking my emotions with anger. Once the anger subsides though, the deep longing starts. And as soon as you contact the person, or they contact you, and you're both so happy to hear from one another, the roller-coaster starts up once more.

I wonder, how long can you guys go without contact? We have once gone almost 3 months.

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You summed up how I feel.One of the reasons Ive gone cold is sometimes,Ive felt that my ex depends on me alot emotionally.And I've gone cold on him because of this.Then when I go cold he gets furious accusing me of letting him down.I get angry because I feel Ive given him so much of me and he stil wants more.

The longest has been 6 months hard staying away.

posted August 20, 2012 04:07 AM            

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@ Capricorn Sun
Well said so true.

You summed up how I feel.One of the reasons Ive gone cold is sometimes,Ive felt that my ex depends on me alot emotionally.And I've gone cold on him because of this.Then when I go cold he gets furious accusing me of letting him down.I get angry because I feel Ive given him so much of me and he stil wants more.

The longest has been 6 months hard staying away.

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posted August 20, 2012 04:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Lava Flower:
Woah, your post just made me realize something. I wrote about wanting to give of myself, and its true, but he always wants more. And so do I. Wanting more time, energy, love, sex, affection, reassurance.. And using the perceived lack of those things as leverage against the person. But instead of coming out and straight saying so, *we* tend to take those things away, because in that moment you're powerful and the other is exposed and vulnerable I think I do it more than him (perhaps because my sun is conjunct the composite moon that's in the 1st opposite Pluto) but it gets so overwhelming and intense. Sometimes I give affection because i'm scared of facing him, or maybe im scared of facing myself. I'm actually scared of being in this relationship, not of him, of me. Things have finally, after 8 years, are falling into a place where we have a chance to be together, and I am already looking for ways to prolong time away from him. Excuses from things he did in the past, to his astrological chart, to every incompatibility I can think of. I swear i'm not crazy but there are things I do with him that do not make sense at all. I feel safer loving him from afar even though it hurts.

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Yes yes you've taken the words out my mouth.Sometimes it feels like its never enough,the more of yourself you give he still not satisfied.I like my alone time sometimes.When I want time too myself he asks if Im ok.Its like he finds it odd that I want time for myself.Then the guilt trips start I needed you I feel like your avoiding me.Then the emotional manipulation comes in effect accusing each other of not giving enough love,time ect.Your relationship sounds so simular to mine.

Ive found myself saying we spend too much time together, Im so glad he spending time with other people I get a break.Then for some reason I find myself getting jealous,then I end up wanting more time.It doesnt make sense its like when it comes to him I do irrational things.I wonder if I even know what I want.

posted August 20, 2012 05:59 AM            

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Originally posted by crissyx89:
Yes yes you've taken the words out my mouth.Sometimes it feels like its never enough,the more of yourself you give he still not satisfied.I like my alone time sometimes.When I want time too myself he asks if Im ok.Its like he finds it odd that I want time for myself.Then the guilt trips start I needed you I feel like your avoiding me.Then the emotional manipulation comes in effect accusing each other of not giving enough love,time ect.Your relationship sounds so simular to mine.

Ive found myself saying we spend too much time together, Im so glad he spending time with other people I get a break.Then for some reason I find myself getting jealous,then I end up wanting more time.It doesnt make sense its like when it comes to him I do irrational things.I wonder if I even know what I want.

Yes its much easier loving him from a distance because when he is up close your vulnerable.

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I relate to everything you have said. I also feel the pressure break when he is not around but at the same time I get jealous as well. We are also really needy with each other, him more so than me, or maybe I just see him reflect the behavior and vulnerability that I fear so much. I also feel him thinking about me. I ask him to stop sometimes when i'm working and trying to focus on something. Its really weird, but as soon as I let go, even a little emotionally, he feels it and comes on much stronger. He notices when I go a little longer than usual without thinking of him, even though he is always on the back of my mind. I think of him so much more than is healthy. I notice the times I do not think of him more than the times I do.

Strange too, because I have BIGG issues with intimacy. My moon is in the 12th opposite Saturn and for me to have my feelings flying all over the place.. Its not me. I find it easy to go through the motions, but I am involved with my whole heart with him. Or at least as much of my heart as im aware of so far. I also have Venus quindicile Uranus and I value my independence much more than other women.

Him, well he is a double Aqua and his chart ruler Uranus is conujunct Venus in Sagittarius exact. We have been best friends for years, and I know his attachment to me is REALLY unusual for him. He has always jumped from one girl to the next, doing the dumping I use his past against him a lot, I need to grow up.

posted August 20, 2012 11:41 AM            

Since the first time we met, I couldn't stop thinking about him. I didn't like it because I'm kinda uranian person (I've got venus opposite uranus natally). It was too intense for me. I wanted to run away but I couldn't.

But then i start to open up and be true to myself and it's not too bad after all, but still I can't get him out of my head!

We've just admitted that we like each other a lot and found one another to be highly addictive.;p

This may lead to no where but the whole intense experience is not too bad after all.

Synastry: Moon conjunct Pluto in Libra
His moon falls into my 12th house.
My moon falls into his 8th house.

posted August 20, 2012 12:40 PM            

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Nope red, not me srry... But the girl who I cant seem to get off my mind is a pisces lol sychronicity maybe.

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WHOA!! You have a Pisces woman, being the assertive one??? Do you know how unheard of that is?!! She must ADORE you. How the heck did you manage to get a Pisces to pursue you??

Oh I know, by having her Pluto conjunct your moon! As the Pluto person, she probably feels a strong drive to work something out with you. You probably stir up unconscious issues in her that she feels she can heal with you. Something about your emotional communication with her probably feels very important and necessary on a profound level.

You probably feel that she might be plunging into depths in you that are both thrilling and frightening. The sexual attraction will be powerful both ways.

posted August 20, 2012 06:40 PM            

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I relate to everything you have said. I also feel the pressure break when he is not around but at the same time I get jealous as well. We are also really needy with each other, him more so than me, or maybe I just see him reflect the behavior and vulnerability that I fear so much. I also feel him thinking about me. I ask him to stop sometimes when i'm working and trying to focus on something. Its really weird, but as soon as I let go, even a little emotionally, he feels it and comes on much stronger. He notices when I go a little longer than usual without thinking of him, even though he is always on the back of my mind. I think of him so much more than is healthy. I notice the times I do not think of him more than the times I do.

Strange too, because I have BIGG issues with intimacy. My moon is in the 12th opposite Saturn and for me to have my feelings flying all over the place.. Its not me. I find it easy to go through the motions, but I am involved with my whole heart with him. Or at least as much of my heart as im aware of so far. I also have Venus quindicile Uranus and I value my independence much more than other women.

Him, well he is a double Aqua and his chart ruler Uranus is conujunct Venus in Sagittarius exact. We have been best friends for years, and I know his attachment to me is REALLY unusual for him. He has always jumped from one girl to the next, doing the dumping I use his past against him a lot, I need to grow up.

Trigger, I also hope you can post the synastry and the composite charts. Please include the asteroids mentioned by a previous poster above, and also include Juno, Ceres, and Amor

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Finally someone that understands my relationship with my ex!!Most people around us including our families think the relationship is obsessive and volatile.Yes me and him our needy with each other aswell.I think he depends on me more than I do him.Weird that your guy venus/uranus natal aspect,my ex's does too.His venus squares his uranus.He also has an aqua moon only 1 water planet and that's pluto in scorpio.So this amount of emotion and vulnerability is hard for him to handle sometimes.But its odd because I'm a cancer sun mercury in cancer and sometimes I feel I can't handle it.I wonder if it has something to do with my virgo moon.

My ex is the same way when he even thinks I'm acting distant he freaks out.He comes on stronger asks me why I'm acting weird.He gets really emotional and aggressive its creepy sometimes.We've just started talking again in july as friends only.But I already feel myself falling for him again.My love for him has never left,I know if I commit again its gonna be really deep.Not sure if I'm ready for him like that now.

posted August 22, 2012 12:08 AM            

I experienced this once, and boy was that enough. The most intense love ever, his Moon in exact conj to my pluto in libra. To make it more intense, he has moon conj pluto in natal and is a scorpio rising, so my pluto fell in his 12th house.

we met in middle school, I found him fascinating but wasnt really into boys yet. He was mesmerizede by me, which I didnt discover until he disclosed later. We saw each other in high school, never dated as I had a boyfriend & he switched schools sophmore yr.

Our paths crossed again as young adults, he got my number from a friend. I was getting out of a disasterous relationship, he became my closest friend. I fell in love fast, just by our conversations wo having seen each other in yrs.

Long story short, after a year we broke up due to bad timing & misundetstandings. He wanted marriage & thought Id never settle down. I loved him as have never loved anyone, but wasnt ready to marry so soon after drama of ending my relationship. We said some hurtful things to each other, he ended up hooking up w an ex gf and married her months later ):

It was so painful, very painful. It took me years to get over it, had written tons of poems and journals over this tortured love for my Uranian. To this day his spouse detests me & fights w him over our past and he looks away whenever our paths cross.

Finally a couple years ago, made peace that will probably never quite love amyone that way again, and this is ok. Now have accepted he was lost to me long ago, and the persons we have both become are not the two younglins that loved each other so.

posted August 22, 2012 01:14 AM            

Anyway the bottle was empty. So she refilled it then squirted some in my hands and said, " have you been fantasizing all weekend long about me squirting this in your hands" much playful banter ensued naturally

I think that was her way of saying that she can't get me off her mind.... Idk what do you guys think?

Good god this girl has me wrapped around her finger.