posted August 30, 2012 11:32 PM            

personally i dont bond strongly with people my age and becuse of that i was quite the loner at earlier times...but now i learned to enjoy the company of people from all ages but most of my friendships are with older people

my advice is that you should enjoy your friends even if they are older becuse no one can force into this "be with your own age gruop" idea

and who knows you might find someone your age that is actually mature enough for you to become friends with

posted August 31, 2012 12:29 AM            

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Effects of Saturn in the 11th House

Saturn in the eleventh house implies dignified occupation of the native and attraction of aged and serious friends. Afflicted Saturn may require the native to be cautious as their acquaintances may use them for their selfish ends.

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posted August 31, 2012 02:27 PM            

I used to feel socially retarded, and believe me, at 15-16, it hurts quite a lot to see other teenagers go out and have fun while you "sit in the corner", so to speak.

It made me quite anxious and ill at ease with people my age. Somehow, I just felt different and thought people could see right through me, and I felt judged/criticized for my introverted nature.

I know better now.

I have friends who are, for the most part, much older than me and who live in different places all over the world.

That way, I can talk to them via the internet without feeling smothered ("me time" is sacred).

I do go out sometimes, but I feel most comfortable at home.

posted August 31, 2012 08:13 PM              

I have Saturn in 11th. It is so transiting through it. I have Venus in Libra so very strong influence on trying to keep everything happy and I have got lots of Sag.

I went through my toughest time in 15-16 too. I had lots of restriction from my parents at the same time I had no clue of relating to crazy people. I spent quiet a lot of time to be liked by this crazy lot and secretly I still do.

After like another 15 years I have come to conclusion they were not worth it.When I see the same teenagers now grown up and most of them are losers. Underachievers in life.

What baffles me is that why can't I have same kind of connection with other people ?

I do not think I am uncomfortable in social situations. I just feel at times people are not in their best behaviour, say silliest things, ask awkward questions and are less compassionate than I would be.

Another thing is it is ok to disagree on things with others rather than to keep peace.

As for how do I see Saturn in 11th. I see it different on different times. I can tell you I am still working on it. I love people, I get that high from people when I am with them and I love to make them feel good. I love to help people but at the same time I realize that they can feel like burden, responsibility. I can't keep being around people too much so I kind of schedule myself between introvert and extrovert times.

I care about their opinions far too much and thus lesson is that well don't try to be liked by them so much that you become a door mat.

Apart from that I think sometimes lots of people in relationship says really abusive and bad things, it really gets me start wondering if I am bad too. Am I not nice enough? I get very less encouragement or support from others but that's only to make my inner self stronger. I think placement is boon not a curse. It actually protects you from being sucker to other people and their opinions.

I want to know every minute if I am in people's good books or not. How many times I want to know what other people are thinking of me like even while I am writing this post, Is my post too long ? Should I apologize for it ?...blah blah...

It does make me feel lonely at times and completely forget that I already have lots of people as my friends.(Time to time I get odd
individuals who would remind me I am going to be loner and as I am afraid of it I believe them.) Good reminder would be to when you feel lonely, either look at previous friends and get in touch with them or try to make few new ones. (Making new ones wouldn't be difficult at all and you would be surprised to see how many you already do.) I believe that Saturn in 11th needs to do smart work on relationship when they feel lonely.i.e.love yourself, remove the time wasters or negative, (very tough job as same people would make you feel that you are doing wrong or you are going to be lonely without them) and then throw open yourself again to new people.

BTW I have friends who are more than twice my age and who are half my age so don't worry about having older friends as you would get older, things would be vice versa.

I realize that people come and go in the life, sometimes it is difficult to understand for saturn in 11 th.It is harder but it would happen.

We sometimes love people more than we should.

The Saturn lesson is love people who deserves it and weed out who doesn't.

Not person but people (group).I am sure there would be teenage groups. Try to join groups which are of your own interest. I made goals on exactly what kind of people I want in my life,attract and probably they would show up. Few have already.Good Luck ! for you too.

posted August 31, 2012 08:36 PM              

Celebs with Saturn in the 11H:
Adele
Halle Berry
Dakota Fanning
Robin Williams
Natalie Portman
Ryan Reynolds
Tyler Perry
Demi Moore
George Clooney
Antonio Banderas
Zac Efron
George Lopez
Jennifer Love Hewitt
Phil Collins http://www.astrotheme.com/celebrites/saturn/m11/1.htm

posted September 01, 2012 12:13 AM            

I have Mars conjunct Saturn in Scorpio in the 11th. Yeah, it's been a doozy and I still struggle with it. I've vacillated between awkward loner to the Queen of my own little circle of friends. My issue is sustaining my friendships; I do much better with tons of acquaintances. I've never had a serious relationship, either. I've had a connection with this guy for over a year but we met online and are still arranging our meeting.

I'm usually alone. Sometimes it's very freeing, other times depressing. It's like I wish I had a nice little group of friends, but I've either alienated them or are in a different place (children, etc.). Another thing that kills me is that I can see where Saturn dampens Mars' parade, I feel that energy being stopped by cautiousness. And I have regrets that I wasn't able to push past Saturn and take more risks, but as I become more aware of it, I can better pick-and-choose where to shut Saturn down and where to listen to him.

posted September 02, 2012 06:54 PM            

@CosmicKarma360: I'm definitely one of those people who needs time alone. Of course, I like being around others, but there always has to be a certain time for me to recharge my batteries. And it is kinda freeing; I do feel independent, like I create my opinions and make up my own rules, get to know myself better. I know I'm never going to be *like the rest of them*, but it's pretty liberating, no?

I also like that Tim Burton quote you mentioned. It reminds me of something I read on an astrology site: "Saturn delays but does not deny". Keeping both of those things in mind, it makes it easier to know that eventually I'll meet other people with similar interests. Thank you!

@Moonfish: The interesting thing is is that I feel more comfortable with older people, even if I don't have to talk to them. I sometimes feel awkward just standing at a bus stop with a bunch of teenagers, but I kind of relax when there are people at least maybe ten years older than me, give or take.

The friends that I do have my age always seem kind of worldly, ready to take the hard knocks of life and are independent of what others may think of them. I like those qualities :) Very interesting!

And that list of celebrities with Eleventh House Saturn... when I think about it, it seems to fit my general impressions of them. That's pretty cool!

Lastly, the funny thing is, my mother has made several remarks about me, telling me I'm an "Old Soul". Freaky coincidence...

@doommlord: :D Yeah, I can get along and appreciate people in my own age group, but I still don't generally connect with them. I feel like an old man 95% of the time, lolololol

@Doux Reve: Socially retarded defines my feelings perfectly! And thanks for the reassurance... I look forward to finding the balance you've described

@4lifephrases: I agree, I think this placement puts up a certain barrier against intruding opinions, it helps you stick to your guns. I know a couple people also with Saturn in the 11th, and they can be pretty stubborn and rooted when they believe in certain aspects of themselves.

I agree, with what you said about how we weed out the people that are unworthy. Sometimes I'll lose contact with people, and I'll realize that they are definitely who I want around (or sometimes not). Thanks for the bits of advice and your experience!

And we TOTALLY need to start an Eleventh House Saturn club! XD (Ironic, no?)

@Desiring Shadows: Mars in Sadge is a bundle of energy XD

@Sagittarius Rising: I have a friend with Mars and Saturn conjunct, but with Mars in the elventh and Saturn in the tenth. His Mars is also conjunct his Sun and Mercury, all in Aries except for Saturn (In Pisces). He pushes and pulls me, with times where he's happy being in action and talking to people, other times where all he does is sigh and withdraw into himself (it drives me insane). I see this reluctance in him aswell.

For me, paradoxically, the independence is freeing and confining at the same time. I totally agree. I see the necessity for me to be alone, but I think I overdo it.

posted July 21, 2016 07:51 PM            

I don't find a pattern of age and friends. It varies a lot to be honest.
Socially awkward, yes when I was younger. Even now you could say because I have a general disinterest in socializing, not that I don't know how.

posted July 22, 2016 03:25 AM            

It happens often that during that process of having to collaborate with others, the more social nature does come out. And i can feel it.

So i would reckon for 11th house Saturn, it could be something similar.

You may feel a lit more of being part of the group when there is isa shared vision,objective or belief system.