posted August 31, 2012 07:30 PM            

Anyway, I'm curious to hear everyones thoughts and personal experiences.

posted August 31, 2012 08:49 PM            

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Originally posted by libraschoice77:
^^thats aweful what he said to her after all that time together.

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Well, why don't we continue to hang out together till I find the woman I should marry. Jacka$$ first class!!

posted August 31, 2012 10:09 PM            

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Originally posted by asclibrasagsun:
I think in the synastry it would be sun conjunct venus and venus conjunct moon. Those are definitely two good aspects for marriage. But I think that the composite would probably be of better help to you and I am not sure about composite placements.

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posted September 01, 2012 12:03 AM            

He also has the classic Venus square Uranus aspect, uranus being in 7th house along with other things people would say might not lead him to marry AND...
He said for two years he didn't believe in marriage and then went quiet about it and them boom...proposed. So I don't know if there is some exact formula for what "exactly" makes a marriage happen. I think your destiny, your karma, your upbringing all impact it. I know after 8 yrs we are still deeply inlove. He is even the one that wanted a traditional wedding and for me to take his name etc and calls me wifey all the time! We were married in 2008.

AND I was married before briefly to a man whose moon, conjunct my sun and other planets and we had lots of other classic aspects. It lasted 6 months due to his abusive nature. So I just don't know. Each couple is different.

But follow your instinct....your know in your heart what to do.

Also post your chart info and maybe we can see what might be at play here!

posted September 01, 2012 12:27 AM            

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Originally posted by CRCRINCON:
You know, I have no conjunctions with my husbands moon sun or him to me and in fact we have very fews conjunctions, but we strong Saturn aspects, Venus trine mars, Venus trine Jupiter, my SN conjunct his sun, and several other NN and SN aspects, strong asteroid aspects, lots of chemistry aspects, MC and ASC aspects to planets, a strong composite. Strong aspects in progressed charts to natal chart.

He also has the classic Venus square Uranus aspect, uranus being in 7th house along with other things people would say might not lead him to marry AND...
He said for two years he didn't believe in marriage and then went quiet about it and them boom...proposed. So I don't know if there is some exact formula for what "exactly" makes a marriage happen. I think your destiny, your karma, your upbringing all impact it. I know after 8 yrs we are still deeply inlove. He is even the one that wanted a traditional wedding and for me to take his name etc and calls me wifey all the time! We were married in 2008.

AND I was married before briefly to a man whose moon, conjunct my sun and other planets and we had lots of other classic aspects. It lasted 6 months due to his abusive nature. So I just don't know. Each couple is different.

But follow your instinct....your know in your heart what to do.

Also post your chart info and maybe we can see what might be at play here!

Blessings!

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posted September 01, 2012 01:37 AM            

I have a relationship with a guy, and we both care very deeply about each other. We have Sun trine Saturn in the composite, but in our synastry chart it's only my Saturn making aspects to his planets and his nodes. Does that mean I'm the one more committed to the relationship? I'm activating everything else EXCEPT Saturn, and I see it in our interaction. The only thing I can see offsetting that is that my Jupiter is conjunct his moon in Capricorn.

posted September 01, 2012 05:23 AM            

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Originally posted by CRCRINCON:
Hi Lava flower! Were you going to say something about my post? You quoted, but there was no comment. ???

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posted September 01, 2012 05:29 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Ann, let me share a most tragic story. One of my best friends loved her boyfriend in her 20s. She waited 8 years and 10 months and finally forced him to make a decision. He said, Yes I would like to get married. Not to you!!! To this day, she has never overcome that tragedy and remains unmarried 15 years later.

Know where you stand.

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This is a good point in this. I think this is more common than you think. There are so many people who not can be alone. It feels better hangaround with someone than be alone. Not everyone tells the true in a relationship like the person you describe.

posted September 01, 2012 06:37 AM            

As far as sun conjunct moon and heavy saturn aspects, I had that with my ex husband. The relationship was over before it started due to a combination of abusive behavior and no spark. I think the saturn is what kept us w/ each other even though the love was non existent . All I can say is -yuck-.

In my current situation, my guy and I are a bit older (43 and 44) we have both been married and divorced twice and we both have 2 kids. I can understand why he would be apprehensive about a third marriage... The thing is, he proposed to me in the very beginning when everything was new and exciting andddd he was still in the process of finalizing his divorce papers. I told him to ask me again when he was officially single and that I would say yes. Several years have passed and no proposal. Honestly, I wasn't sure if I wanted to get married again either. The thing is, I feel very strongly about this man, more so than any man I've ever met. In my heart, I know could spend the rest of my life with him as we make a great team and, after all this time, I'm still in love.

I agree with everyone that said know where you stand. When I recently approached him about marriage he got squeamish. He doesn't want to end things but he doesn't want to make it official either. So I'm left wondering if he feels as strongly as I do. Of course he says yes but... And in no way am I going to pressure him or make him choose. Love and marriage shouldn't be forced.

posted September 01, 2012 08:23 AM            

I think you have good marriage aspect.

posted September 02, 2012 07:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Ann7:
... In a synastry chart? Or lack there of? I have been with my guy for four and a half years... He doesn't want to get married but he doesn't want to end things either. I am --so-- confused. Part of me feels like I'm being strung along the other part can kind of see where he's coming from. Talk about giving someone an inferiority complex...

Anyway, I'm curious to hear everyones thoughts and personal experiences.

Thanks!
Ann

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Honesty is Confidence - Hoodie Allen

posted September 02, 2012 07:58 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Four years is no good. You deserve to know where you stand. He can't have his cake and eat it too. At least not forever. You deserve to know where you stand. I'm male btw.

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Honesty is Confidence - Hoodie Allen

posted September 02, 2012 08:15 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Ann, let me share a most tragic story. One of my best friends loved her boyfriend in her 20s. She waited 8 years and 10 months and finally forced him to make a decision. He said, Yes I would like to get married. Not to you!!! To this day, she has never overcome that tragedy and remains unmarried 15 years later.

Know where you stand.

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Sun in Virgo conjunct Venus ( 11th House )
Moon in Libra
Rising sign Libra

Honesty is Confidence - Hoodie Allen