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libraschoice77
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From: NYC
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted September 19, 2012 02:24 PM
  
I can't believe he is behaving like that towards you, especially since you are pregnant. You know what you have seen from him, it wasn't your imagination him asking about the status of those two women you work for. His main concern should be on your well being physically and emotionally. And I agree with the poster above, he should be trying to work things out, not pulling a fickle response of "its not going to work". Anyway its up to you whether or not you want to put up with how he's behaving towards you, if he's not really here for you now, how is going to be there later on after you've had the baby? I am just sorry your having to go through this in your condition  IP: Logged |
Dreaming111
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posted September 19, 2012 05:29 PM
Yeah me too. I feel bad for her. I think in her position I would try hard to hold on to him, even though it may not be the best thing. But when you're vulnerable and risk having to care for and work through a pregnancy and post pregnancy alone, it's scary. I see why she's trying ot make it work.
I just don't know if holding on too much makes him think that she'll be sticking around forever nad he never has to work for the relationship. You don't want a person to get accustomed or complacent with you being around. He should value you AS MUCH as you value him in your life. Idk...sticky situation. Hoping you have family and friends to be there when he's not. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
Knowflake Posts: 2405
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Registered: Nov 2011
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posted September 19, 2012 06:09 PM
Does he always ask you questions like that? I think Geminis are curious and like to flirt, but if he agreed to being your live-in BF then I don't think he would go anywhere seriously. That's still annoying though.IP: Logged |
7thGuardian
Knowflake Posts: 234
From: Transylvania
Registered: May 2012
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posted September 19, 2012 06:17 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I am a Gemini Sun, merc and Venus. We don't do things like that.
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I love my Cancer Moon. If people taunt me with Geminis are superficial, I just laugh because I am deeper than a wormhole 
+2 ...tell them sis. I'm so tired of hearing that archetype - as a Gemini I'm suppose to be a Playa by nature, one that can detach easily of any emotion... and I've heard this more than once (especially - here) - even in times when i was struggling to make it till next day (that's how painful it was - in terms of emotions) a friend who has some knowledge of astrology - kept telling me that I'm lucky to be a Gemini - cause "i don't have to deal with emotions (as if all Geminis or psychopaths)..." REALLY!? - feels like "racism"... ------------------
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Libreo
Knowflake Posts: 1066
From: Australia
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted September 19, 2012 07:19 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Does he always ask you questions like that? I think Geminis are curious and like to flirt, but if he agreed to being your live-in BF then I don't think he would go anywhere seriously. That's still annoying though.
This is exactly what he keeps telling me. Last night he said "so tell me about astrology. Tell me about me and tell me about you. What is it that's so fascinating?" So I began to tell him about his Sun and his Venus and his Mars (Virgo....sceptic) and he said to me "I hear that Geminis are supposed to have 2 women, is this why your'e so paranoid? Because I know you believe in all that s**t" and I said "yeah I guess it is, but no matter what you say to me you'll never shake my belief in astrology, and with your Virgo I'll probably never shake your sceptisism, but that's ok, you don't have to believe", he said "well my 2 women are you and my mum, is that ok?" (He does worship his mum). Idk. I know this stuff will come up again. Iv'e taken on board everyones advice and warnings. It's so very up and down at the moment. If he's not to be trusted, am I naive to think a baby will settle him down and make him see what is important in his life?IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
Knowflake Posts: 2405
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Registered: Nov 2011
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posted September 19, 2012 07:30 PM
Don't go into the belief a baby will change his core being, if he's a flaky type. I've seen that a lot (and I've never seen a man change although I'm sure it does happen and can happen) but who he is with you is also who he is with the baby, a baby. Geminis are the sign of duality, even I can attest to that as having the ASC and nearly everything in my life comes in "twos." I will probably be dating a pair of twins sometime shortly, and I don't even know any pairs of twins. I don't get a bad feeling from the situation really. I understand your plight though as a woman, a girlfriend, a mom-to-be and a suspicious Scorpio person lol. If all else is fairly well, don't let this sour it. Just take note and maybe give him a bit of his own medicine. IP: Logged |
Libreo
Knowflake Posts: 1066
From: Australia
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted September 19, 2012 08:22 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Don't go into the belief a baby will change his core being, if he's a flaky type. I've seen that a lot (and I've never seen a man change although I'm sure it does happen and can happen) but who he is with you is also who he is with the baby, a baby. Geminis are the sign of duality, even I can attest to that as having the ASC and nearly everything in my life comes in "twos." I will probably be dating a pair of twins sometime shortly, and I don't even know any pairs of twins. I don't get a bad feeling from the situation really. I understand your plight though as a woman, a girlfriend, a mom-to-be and a suspicious Scorpio person lol. If all else is fairly well, don't let this sour it. Just take note and maybe give him a bit of his own medicine.
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7thGuardian
Knowflake Posts: 234
From: Transylvania
Registered: May 2012
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posted September 19, 2012 08:33 PM
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Originally posted by Libreo:
It's so very up and down at the moment. If he's not to be trusted, am I naive to think a baby will settle him down and make him see what is important in his life?
It's kinda late here beyond 3 AM - so i'd like to clear some things which are still unclear to me... Are you two married? Did he wanted a child - i mean, did you guys decided to make a child (or was it a surprise/unexpected)? IP: Logged |
Libreo
Knowflake Posts: 1066
From: Australia
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted September 19, 2012 09:27 PM
No wer'e not married but we do plan to. Evenutally.
We tried to fall pregnant for 4 months before it happened, we both took fertility vitamins to help it along, and when I did fall pregnant I was presented with a diamond white gold ring (for my right hand! Not my left) as a 'thankyou' of sorts.
His level of commitment is not in doubt, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he loves me and is committed to me, (this is why it came as such a shock when I received the warning from him that if I don't stop it things could change) my concern is the Gemini stereotype (sorry to all the Gem's, I'm not being prejudice I'm genuinely wanting to know more about you and about this myth/fact) that while happily going along and being my partner, he will need some variety and something more on the side, in secret.IP: Logged |
Dreaming111
Knowflake Posts: 855
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Registered: Oct 2011
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posted September 19, 2012 09:32 PM
Libero, I just want to give you a hug. I don't know how to handle that situation. : / I mean in theory it's different, but then again being an outsider the solutions are simpler and more efficient. I don't have any emotions invested in the relationship neither do the rest of hte LL gang giving advice. So I guess we see simple solutions. Having said that, you are a scorpio. And if I know suspicions...I know they can cloud my judgement a bit. I suppose it would be nice to hear his version of events to make a better analysis on the whole thing. Btw, I think it's sweet he said the two women in his life are you and his mom.
lol Just make sure you pay attention to your emotional health for your baby's sake. I heard the way you handle your pregnancy really affects your child. If you are happy, you have a happy child. hehe Take care. IP: Logged |
Libreo
Knowflake Posts: 1066
From: Australia
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted September 19, 2012 09:35 PM
Thankyou Dreaming111 that's a lovely message, and good advice.  IP: Logged |
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