posted September 11, 2012 07:00 PM            

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posted September 11, 2012 08:41 PM            

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posted September 12, 2012 12:08 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I am a Gemini Sun, merc and Venus. We don't do things like that.

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posted September 12, 2012 01:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Libreo:
I clean people houses for a living and I recently got a new client, 2 young single sisters in their early 20's. The house is a mansion and after my first time cleaning there I came home and told my live in boyfriend, whose child I am carrying. He has since asked me all these questions, trying to make it look casual, at times when we are not even on the subject. "Are they single?" "Are they attractive?" what the hell? I am really annoyed but I don't want to pick fights and come across as insecure, however I find it so innappropriate. I did say "what... are you interested or something?" To which he laughed and replied "No. I don't like the area they live in". What about no your'e happily in a relationship with a child on the way instead? Is this the typical behaviour of a Gemini sun conjunct Venus? Should I be worried or is it normal Gemini curiosity?

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Wow he's a d* ck.
I have been through what you have. It's not pretty, and it made me feel insecure. I think in a relationship it's the other person's job to not arouse silly suspicion.

If he was joking he's still a d* ck but also a dumb one.

I'm beginning to hate men. I wonder if my placements are "making" me hate 'em.

I just got finished watching a show about Carla Harris. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q1mJquw5g0A

The guy was a complete douche. Maybe that's what's clouding my mind right now. I just hate how men can be such pricks.

I know what you can do....It might be a little childish to some but a huge lesson to him. Ask him about a friend of his.

"Hey, so does Joey go to the gym like every single day?" "What gym does he go to?" and if you are smart about when and how you word this you could ask," Is he single?"

If he gets ****** then reply calmly. "Well I was just curious, plus it's not like he's around that often." ....wait.... Let him explode and also calmly add: "What's wrong? I didn't think it was wrong to ask since you asked me about those girls. I thought that was the new norm. I guess I was wrong? So anyway, does he go to blah blah gym?"

He'll go through the emotions you are currently going through. He'll feel insecure, jealous, shocked, upset, etc. Good! He needs to feel it to show him how it feels. Only when a person goes through all the emotions of what they dish out do they understand not to do it. This has been my observation.

Again, you could do this over a few hours, day, days, what have you.

But you have to be aware of violence, extreme nutty jealousy, the safety of your family etc.

posted September 12, 2012 08:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
Yes Ami, but you're also a cancer moon! Take it from me. My big three combo, sun libra, moon sag, asc gemini.
He might have been trying to imagine it and spending time with you that was reason enough for conversation. Does he suffer from foot in the mouth syndrome and say whatever is on his mind? If that's the case, I wouldn't sweat a pretty penny.

Realistically, this is a bunch of a strange girls he doesn't have any idea what they look like and If he's saying they live in a bad area anyway,he already sounds disinterested. Why would he pester if it was an automatic no? But if you have that gut, then maybe go with it. I think if he was looking to cheat perhaps he'd be more subtle? Maybe that's just me, Idk lol

He would say that, because its true. You don't trust him. Did something change? If you trusted him at some point, why would you suddenly stop? Words vs. Actions. It could just be your own insecurities. A great idea is you could turn the situation around and put it on him. Judging by his reaction youd know.

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I love my Cancer Moon. If people taunt me with Geminis are superficial, I just laugh because I am deeper than a wormhole

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posted September 12, 2012 08:16 AM            

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posted September 13, 2012 12:01 AM            

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Iv'e been busy sorry. YTA I appreciate your concern, but at the moment it's a financial necessity and I have my doctors ok. I'm not big yet, only 7 weeks so physically it's still doable and I'm not using any harmful chemicals.
I do plan to do it back to him. I'm going to ask him if any guys at his work are single and if so, are they attractive. Yeah he has foot in mouth syndrome. He does have his good points (I received a diamond ring for my pregnancy, flowers every week) but verbally he can be brutal. I don't know his ASC but I'd put my money on Aries. Not just for this reason but for a lot of other reasons. I am insecure too, and I have a lot of Scorpio so I'm suspicious too. I just worry that he will lose interest. I KNOW he has a roving eye and with that Venus of his I get super paranoid. I did catch him in the beginning of our relationship looking at dating sites on my computer. I checked his history after he'd used it and for several days he'd been on a particular dating site, through facebook. When I confronted him about it he said he'd wanted me to help him delete the application because every time he logged into facebook, he had notifications from this dating site and he the only way to get rid of them was to click on them. Admittedly, when I looked again at his history, he'd only ever been on it for less than a minute, each time, so I let it go.

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posted September 18, 2012 05:46 PM            

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I am thankyou. It kind of came to a head over the last few days and while I know I made
it look bad on his part, and while I wasn't lying about it, I do think I tend to use astrology far too much when I make assumptions about people. From the moment I met him I thought "Venus in Gemini = CHEAT!" without giving him a chance. I have been on his case about every little thing, from having his phone on silent to sneaking glances at girls everywhere, I really do think it's me with the problem. I have quite a bit of Scorpio in there too which compounds things (there I go again, using astrology). HE came home yesterday and said to me "Iv'e been thinking today, your'e really going to have to stop this suspicion that you have or we are just not gonna work." Something in his tone frightened me. He meant it, and if I don't pull myself together I am going to end up alone with this baby. I just wish I would stop noticing every little thing and blowing it out of proportion. I'm trying I really am.

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I honestly think he doesn't have the right to demand soemthing of that nature. A silent phone, sneaking glances, being on a dating site while pretending to start a family, asking about other women, being interested in other women and what they do or do not do, doesn't strike me as all too innocent. I think you are cramping his style so to speak because you catch him EVERY single time and don't let him get away with it. That's why he's upset. That's tough cookies for him. He shouldn't have done that crap in the first place.

You shouldn't let the fear of being alone with the baby force you to stay in a relationship where a man doesn't at least respect and appreciate you. You can't always be on guard duty nor keep tabs on him. He might get worse as time progresses and then 5 years down the line you'll be kicking yourself for jumping the gun and getting frightened by his treat. Who is he really to threaten you that way? If he wants to be in the relationship, shouldn't he also work toward a peaceful one? Why do you have to accept his trash and then mend the mistakes he made or overlook them? Trust me you'll tire of putting in all that effort to keep him around.

You shouldn't have to bargain and plead with him, or any man to stay. It's 'his' family and baby too. He should be just as scared that you leave him. He should be worried that YOU tire of him. And honestly he would only tire of you when he values you high enough. It doesn't seem to me like he cares. And he should automatically want to make it work. I hate ultimatums in a relationship.

Would you go up to him and say, "Hmm, you sound like fool, get a job or I'll start walking." No. You'd help him find a job and try to help him out of his rut.

So then why doesn't he ask you," Hey what's wrong? Do you really think that I care for anyone else? Really? I love you. I'm sorry I was acting like a jerk. I shouldn't have done that." he should try to find the reason you are so suspicious, fix his ways, and reassure you. If all you do is tell him, he does nothing to work on it, what does that tell you? he obviously doesn't care how you feel. Do you really want to be a man like that? How long can you tide that over?

You are the way you are. He is the way he is. You sound like a person that is trying to work on herself and compromise with him. I don't think he's making the effort at all.