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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
As we all know.. Virgo can be negative, cynical, depressed and eventually it can become a cycle that's hard to break. The one thing Virgo is not good at, is the big picture. Unlike Sagittarius, Virgo notices the details and often obsesses over them, focusing too much on what's wrong, what's broken, what "needs" to be fixed.
When the individual is unsure of themselves and their abilities, and has no outlet for the Virgoan energy, they turn it inwards and become self-critical, self-conscious, notice all their flaws and become anxious about them. Accepting their own humanity - and thus, their imperfection - is extremely hard, because it's seen as a failure, a worthlessness that they consider unshakable and that makes them unlovable.
As someone else stated, the key is acceptane of the self first and foremost. It may be one of the hardest things to do for a Virgo Moon because perfection becomes a basic "need" that is expected to be met.
I think it's important to channel the energy outside of oneself. If you really can't help your need for criticism, try to apply it to things and not people. For example, you could write a journal about all the things you view as unaccetable, be it social standards, the way people can be inconsiderate, the way animals are (mis)treated, poor countries where people die of hunger, etc.
The energy needs to be expressed, you can't just repress it forever. The thing to do is change the target. Focus on what's wrong *outside* of yourself (but please try to be gentle with your closed ones!), and what you can do about it - for example, make people aware of the problems in the world, try to make them react, create or participate in an organisation, do charity work, etc.
That way the Virgoan qualities will still be expressed, but in a positive, contstructive way. And once you're less focused on yourself and your "flaws", you won't even mind them that much. Tolerance will come more naturally.
Also.. become more faithful. Virgo could learn from Sag and Pisces about faith and spirituality. Anxiety and obsessive negative tendencies can decrease significantly with the bigger picture in mind, and a good deal of faith and hope. You should strive to believe - just believe in something good, something better.
And finally, keep in mind that the Virgo/Pisces axis is about selflessness, it's all about service to others. As hard as it may be to accept, the ego issues here are more crippling than with the other signs. That's why when you focus too much on yourself, your own world, your own problems, your own body, etc, it brings so much pain and negativity. You're "supposed" to focus on others, and how you can help them. The dissolution of the ego is of utmost importance here, and while it's very difficult to become almost selfless (a healthy sense of individuality is of course necessary), eventually it will only bring peace and satisfaction. That's why Virgo Moons usually like helping people, because they feel good about it, and it does make them feel good about themselves, too. Of course they should strive to help others just for the sake of it, and not to make themselves feel "worthy" or "good people". It should come naturally, genuinely.
I hope you feel better soon, hang in there and don't despair, there is always a way out. =)