posted September 13, 2012 05:39 AM            

I'd advise you to wait until he makes a move.
A man who's interested in you will always show it to you, even in little ways.

If there's no indication that he feels the same way, and if it's just a friendship to him, move on.

There's no other way.

Don't waste your time on someone who's hot and cold.

You could, of course, hint that you fancy him, but don't go all emotional on him.

Virgo men can be cold, they dislike emotional displays and are more practical when it comes to romance.

You could just simply tell him you like him a lot and ask if he could see you as more than a friend. Just be simple and honest. They don't like games, usually aren't good at getting emotional cues and can be hard to get to know.

Just talk to him honestly.

posted September 13, 2012 09:13 AM            

I guess with "Happy Birthday" to him.

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Then he has moments when he appears to be a complete mystery to me. He will retreat into his own little world blocking me out and I'm sensitive and I try to not get offended but I have been advised that this is just their nature. Is that true?

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It's common for third decan Virgos have this perfectionist streak, apparently, which makes them feel the need to withdraw and work on whatever they are working on. They just "close" sometimes.

As for letting him know that you are crushing? Hmmm...can you tell us more about your synastry with him or post charts? That'll help.

He might actually prefer the quiet chemistry, being sensitive himself. My Virgo and I were so subtle together, barely anyone understood just how much emotion was roiling under the surface, and we both LOVED that. In fact, we were best friends for a long time before he finally admitted there was more there, and then even after openly talking about how much we liked each other, it took over a month to kiss. LOL

Not trying to be an expert but what else can I say? I can SO relate to this!

posted September 13, 2012 09:37 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
OMG, my ex soul mate was born the day before this guy you are talking about (same year), and I'm a Cap woman, so where shall we begin?!?

I guess with "Happy Birthday" to him.

It's common for third decan Virgos have this perfectionist streak, apparently, which makes them feel the need to withdraw and work on whatever they are working on. They just "close" sometimes.

As for letting him know that you are crushing? Hmmm...can you tell us more about your synastry with him or post charts? That'll help.

He might actually prefer the quiet chemistry, being sensitive himself. My Virgo and I were so subtle together, barely anyone understood just how much emotion was roiling under the surface, and we both LOVED that. In fact, we were best friends for a long time before he finally admitted there was more there, and then even after openly talking about how much we liked each other, it took over a month to kiss. LOL

Not trying to be an expert but what else can I say? I can SO relate to this!

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Your comment made me smile a lot.

I do not know where to begin with this man, he is amazing I have never come across anyone like him before.

It is odd the way we can have these moments together without that it is quiet on both out parts as were kind of a little shy over certain subjects then he knows how to get to the core of me and make me laugh and happy like no one has.

Well his birthday is today, my birthay is 16th January.

posted September 13, 2012 09:56 AM            

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He always seems in sync with me. I can think about him and then he will be in touch.

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Snapshot from my past:

Phone rings at 3 am.

I answer the phone saying: "How funny that you called, I was just thinking about you."

Him: "I know, that's why I called."

One of my best friends was born Jan 12th and she also loved a guy born 9.16.76

Strangely, much as she and I both loved our Virgo men, we were the ones to break it off in the end. I don't mean for that be a prediction on your future!!! It's just that I think Cap-Virgo is a little tough to sustain because it is SO deep emotionally, and both Caps and Virgos tend to prefer coolness.

But we were young when we had these relationships, and from what I've seen, Cap-Virgo relationships that begin later in life have a better chance of getting off the ground and surviving.

Best wishes!

posted September 13, 2012 10:11 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
^ Sighhhhh

Snapshot from my past:

Phone rings at 3 am.

I answer the phone saying: "How funny that you called, I was just thinking about you."

Him: "I know, that's why I called."

One of my best friends was born Jan 12th and she also loved a guy born 9.16.76

Strangely, much as she and I both loved our Virgo men, we were the ones to break it off in the end. I don't mean for that be a prediction on your future!!! It's just that I think Cap-Virgo is a little tough to sustain because it is SO deep emotionally, and both Caps and Virgos tend to prefer coolness.

But we were young when we had these relationships, and from what I've seen, Cap-Virgo relationships that begin later in life have a better chance of getting off the ground and surviving.

Best wishes!

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Well were in our thirties and we have both been there and done all the things your supposed to do when younger. But now we have both agreed having a drama free life is much better then high end drama. One thing I have noticed with him is everyday things seems to be different. Everyday I find something more to like about him and to find intriguing. Life is never boring it's like I find another layer to his personality that's appealing. Some people will not get him or understand him and may find him a little....'aloof'. I get his quirky ways. They amuse me!

posted September 13, 2012 10:11 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Oh and for the record Tom Hardy (Virgo...hot as hell) and Charlotte Riley (Cap) are still together after three years....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RoN38xfkKE8&feature=related

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Oh I had to stop drooling then. Oh Tom Hardy

posted September 13, 2012 12:43 PM            

And, just to compare notes, I was endlessly curious about everything with my Virgo, too. In the long run, I was just too hurt by the times he would shut down. I think if I knew that was just PART of him, and not some reaction to me, I might've been able to stay with him longer. Still miss him sometimes.

If you think of it, let us know if there are any new developments with your man.

And I hope others will chime in here, I didn't mean to hog the topic!

posted September 13, 2012 01:34 PM            

I had to approach him. Virgos are "shy."

I think you as a Cap lady will do much better with a Virgo man then I have. I am an emotional creature and he hurts my feelings constantly. NOT that I provide drama or overt emotion, (alot of Aqua in the Pisces lady!) but I do have needs that he will never be able to fulfill.

AND to boot we are now trying to hold this thing together long distance, to the tune of 1200 miles!

If you feel any sense of interest on his part, lightly, sweetly "suggest" something, a cup of coffee, something so simple that he might not even pick up on it.

blessins and the very best of luck with your Virgo man!!!

posted September 13, 2012 02:12 PM            

That's how i think.

If it can be passed off as a waste of time, i won't bother.

Now, if the itentions of later on are stated upfront and i'm told that the first step would be coffee, then, ok, sure.

posted September 13, 2012 02:32 PM            

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Originally posted by C1ND3R:
^ as a Sun in Virgo.. I'd say to look at his Mars. Mine is in Aries and unless i'm flat out told, i won't get it. "coffee"? I'd see it as a waste of time. What do i want coffee for when i could just easily have coffee at home?

That's how i think.

If it can be passed off as a waste of time, i wonm't bother.

Now, if the itentions of later on are stated upfront and i'm told that the first step would be coffee, then, ok, sure.

Coffee annoys me, though... Too many people around, not potentially intimate enough and i'd have to be out... With people. :/

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your energy is crazy!!! tho I am a Pisces fe-male....

My bfriend is very, very Virgo, with a Scorpio Mars, olala!! But he likes subtlty from a woman when first approached....he can/wont approach a lady, it took me many, many tries, and he got it, he just claimed he was "shy."

Once things got going I did have to spell it out to him...black and white..no grey (still do) He get so ****** at me when my fantasy land Pisces soul gets poetic, imaginative, dreamy...

I have read your posts on your mother...bad
bad fish she was, my mother is a Virgo and we have had our hellish trials and tribulations...

Not an easy mix, Pisces/Virgo....

Cap and Virgo would be much better!

posted September 13, 2012 03:50 PM            

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Originally posted by C1ND3R:
^ as a Sun in Virgo.. I'd say to look at his Mars. Mine is in Aries and unless i'm flat out told, i won't get it. "coffee"? I'd see it as a waste of time. What do i want coffee for when i could just easily have coffee at home?

That's how i think.

If it can be passed off as a waste of time, i wonm't bother.

Now, if the itentions of later on are stated upfront and i'm told that the first step would be coffee, then, ok, sure.

Coffee annoys me, though... Too many people around, not potentially intimate enough and i'd have to be out... With people. :/

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posted September 13, 2012 07:54 PM            

I actually DO NOT like people in my house.
Unless i'm really in tune with their vibe but i sage myself and my place almost immediately after i'm dealing with someone.

But i am not a fan of starbucks or any place like that.

I live in a big city though so a starbucks here is almost as if you were going to a nightclub.

Unless i have a reason to be somewhere with purpose, i can't say that i see myself getting excited about going.

posted September 13, 2012 08:18 PM            

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Originally posted by C1ND3R:
^ sun and south node in virgo. 5th house.

I actually DO NOT like people in my house.
Unless i'm really in tune with their vibe but i sage myself and my place almost immediately after i'm dealing with someone.

But i am not a fan of starbucks or any place like that.

I like in a big city though so a starbucks here is almost as if you were going to a nightclub.

Unless i have a reason to be somewhere with purpose, i can't say that i see myself getting excited about going.

I tend to be very specific with my focus.

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posted September 14, 2012 04:10 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
^ Isn't he CUTE?

And, just to compare notes, I was endlessly curious about everything with my Virgo, too. In the long run, I was just too hurt by the times he would shut down. I think if I knew that was just PART of him, and not some reaction to me, I might've been able to stay with him longer. Still miss him sometimes.

If you think of it, let us know if there are any new developments with your man.

And I hope others will chime in here, I didn't mean to hog the topic!

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Thanks for your kind words and I have come to realise his quiet moments are just part of him. As at times I need time to be me but I am subtle compared to him!

posted September 14, 2012 09:41 AM            

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Originally posted by DrewMann:
I am also a Virgo and I too have that tendency of going into my cave, as I call it. Luckily I have a sun jupiter conj, so I am also a very outgoing and socialable Virgo. Haha a contridiction of terms.

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posted September 15, 2012 10:02 AM            

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Originally posted by LoVeLy:
Let me just say that Virgo's are looking for perfection so be as perfect as possible

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thats just the thing about Virgos, there is no such thing as "perfect" and they know it, mostly unconciously. SO they spend their lives looking for that perfect ideal, which never exists, hence depression often and always projection of their dissatisfaction with themselves onto others.

My bfriend ALWAYS takes things and switches them up so they are my fault, somehow.

They can not deal with the ugliness of this sometimes very ugly world. I my mother is a Virgo, my former mother in law and sister in law...I have had my FILL of Virgos, dont know why I had the audacity to fall for one.

posted September 15, 2012 10:10 AM            

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Originally posted by louisa:

Why do you feel the need to go into your cave? Is that just to have time to yourself and to get away from the outside world for a bit? As nearly every virgo I have come across male and female are like this. I know about most of their needs for perfection but the retreating into yourself is another common trait.

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It's cleaner there.

There aren't germs on the rails in the house unless we've put em there, ourselves. Our bathroom's are personalized and clean, we cook our own food so there's no surprise hair or spit in our meals. We get to decide the amt of fat and oil we use. No one there with a crazy aura field spewing their junk into our atmosphere. Our air is contained and sealed., there are no car fumes or bad breath blasting their gunk down our nostrils.... The question is: "why not?"

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