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Topic: Can pluto relationships ever end :happily ever after" or always a painful ending?
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Aquacheeka
Knowflake Posts: 1924
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 08, 2012 02:50 PM
  
I seem to always have Venus square Pluto in the composite. This question is very concerning to me. My Cap seems so much more stable than my ex  IP: Logged |
crissyx89
Knowflake Posts: 230
From: California
Registered: May 2012
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posted October 08, 2012 05:58 PM
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Originally posted by Gabby:
Ugh! Do you think its going to work? Is it his pluto holding you together or are both of you equal in shared feelings, do you both feel your not going anywhere and want to work it out, to stop the on off relationship?
I hope it honestly works this time its been a intense ride.I feel his intensity he's really possessive of me and kinda obsessive.I love him so much sometimes it scares me how strong my feelings for him are. IP: Logged |
PhoenixFire
Knowflake Posts: 901
From: The Crossing
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted October 08, 2012 06:28 PM
To add to the postings of Pluto pushing your limits/self, yes this has been very true. When husband & I met we were two college kids, bouncing off the walls and quite immature. Despite my having gone through a horrible early divorce, the world was a carefree nirvana w exception to parenting my two younglins  At that point in time, I wasn't planning for the future just taking things a day at a time. He being a couple years younger was def not thinking deeply either. We went on a date, liked each other instantly and before we knew it became serious quickly. It still amazes me how serious the relationship became, and how much we both grew up within it. If you'd told me then how much we'd mature, would not have believed it. The relationship forced me to really look at the not pleasant sides of myself and to transform on a soul level. I had been content w ignoring the violent destruction of my first marriage (his sun/mars squared my Pluto. My sun/mars/Neptune sextuplets his). I didn't ever want to be hurt again, had fallen in love afterward and it didn't last. I was so determined to stay single forever and just be friends w guys, nothing of serious emotional connection or intimacy. Husband being a Cancer w heavy Scorpio doesn't do casual friendships or flings. He knew quickly what he wanted and didn't give up after I turned him away many times. Even after being together awhile, I was still guarded and kept trying to push him away. The intense emotional connection freaked me out as did his strength in not being intimidated by my power as many people are. Despite being Pluto, I realized could not push him away or control the relationship. This the dark side of my Venus in Scorpio, immense guardedness to protect my heart... It all came out bright as daylight. His insecurities and jealousies came out as well. The disagreements were not mellow at all, think of two scorpions fighting for power in a show of dominance. No violence or abuse but intense self realization and stripping away off defense mechanisms. And then we grew up now our disagreements still carry lots of emotion and passion, but have both learned to channel the tides better and no longer take a soul beating when not seeing eye to eye. Again not for the faint of heart, but you know I really like the people we've grown up to be... And these transformations would not have occurred without pluton power. IP: Logged |
Gabby
Knowflake Posts: 710
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Registered: Sep 2012
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posted October 08, 2012 06:55 PM
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Originally posted by PhoenixFire:
And then we grew up now our disagreements still carry lots of emotion and passion, but have both learned to channel the tides better and no longer take a soul beating when not seeing eye to eye. Again not for the faint of heart, but you know I really like the people we've grown up to be... And these transformations would not have occurred without pluton power.
I really appreciate your posts! Sometimes i feel like im absolutely hopeless in love with pluto in my 1st, veunus conjunct opposing my jupiter and chiron, squared off by my eros and valentine, throw nessus on the heap because its also squaring my AC ...it feels like all i will ever have is
pain in love.
Your giving me hope, ive spent so much time by myself trying to overcome these things alone, now as reenter the relationship war zone i realize ive kind of out grown a lot of these guys...i hope i will find one to that is truly ready to evolve like i am! I guess thats all it really takes, someone who is mature enough that they want to grow into a better person and sees how this can be done together! Thanks! IP: Logged |
Gabby
Knowflake Posts: 710
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Registered: Sep 2012
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posted October 08, 2012 06:57 PM
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Originally posted by crissyx89:
I hope it honestly works this time its been a intense ride.I feel his intensity he's really possessive of me and kinda obsessive.I love him so much sometimes it scares me how strong my feelings for him are.
Deep feelings are scary but transformative...but if you've hung in there this long i bet you will get it figured out soon! IP: Logged |
PhoenixFire
Knowflake Posts: 901
From: The Crossing
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted October 08, 2012 07:15 PM
You are welcome best part of lindaland is the sharing & connections, really helps to vent and connect w others. Feel your pain on the Chiron/Jupiter aspects. My Venus is in mutual reception to Pluto and squared by Chiron from the 5th and Jupiter in the 8th. Not fun. I've read negative interpretations of hard Jupiter/Chiron aspects to Venus, and choose to take these as a guide for how things could be but not necessarily a prediction of what will be. Plus the good thing about going through junky relationships/lessons, is you move on stronger and with a better idea of what you don't want and will not put up with again IP: Logged |
Gabby
Knowflake Posts: 710
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Registered: Sep 2012
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posted October 08, 2012 07:21 PM
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Originally posted by PhoenixFire:
You are welcome best part of lindaland is the sharing & connections, really helps to vent and connect w others. Feel your pain on the Chiron/Jupiter aspects. My Venus is in mutual reception to Pluto and squared by Chiron from the 5th and Jupiter in the 8th. Not fun. I've read negative interpretations of hard Jupiter/Chiron aspects to Venus, and choose to take these as a guide for how things could be but not necessarily a prediction of what will be. Plus the good thing about going through junky relationships/lessons, is you move on stronger and with a better idea of what you don't want and will not put up with again
You are absolutely correct there!!
My jupiter conjuncts chiron, wide orb tho, 9 away!!
But my vertex is right in between chiron/jupiter opposing my venus tho! But all they all sextil/trine my part of fortune!! So maybe ill make something positive of all this! IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
Knowflake Posts: 1924
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 10, 2012 05:24 PM
I seem to always have Plutonian relationships. I wonder if it's because of my moon-trine Pluto aspect.This relationship has sun AND Venus square Pluto in the composite. I guess I just sit around and wait for the fireworks to start. (sigh) IP: Logged |
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