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peregrine
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posted November 19, 2012 04:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for peregrine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know there may be many but what has been the most common for you?

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Moonfish
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posted November 19, 2012 05:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moonfish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've noticed that it's hard for me to have any romantic feelings for someone who's saturn (squares/opposes/conjuncts) my moon or venus. I think it's because my Moon and Venus aspect Uranus, the planet that needs space and freedom. I can't help but feel heavy and burdened whenever I'm around the saturn person. It's fine when we're in the friend zone, but soon as I can tell they wanna get serious it makes me wanna run for the hills.

I've had an experience with someone's saturn opposing my venus. I was physically attracted to him, but the chemistry was dull. We called eachother "bf and gf" however our relationship was so casual I don't even consider him an ex-bf, rather an ex-friend I just happened to call my bf lol.

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My Sun/Mars/Pluto conjunction is not fond of being overpowered in a relationship. I will leave anyone who tries to control or dominate me. Having Libra venus, I value equal partnerships.

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Ami Anne
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posted November 19, 2012 05:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think the Nodes are super important in synastry, too. The Nodes are each person's purpose and goal in life.
If another person puts a hard planet like Chiron or a hard asteroid like Nessus on your node, that will be the theme of the relationship ime

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SaturnineMoth
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posted November 19, 2012 05:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SaturnineMoth     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think it's easier to see why someone else walks out on a natal, than why we walk out on them (well, with only natal chart to go by).

Besides, I've very rarely been the one to give up, or walk out first. I always had a difficult time with "dumping" a bf so I very rarely did so, (mostly by avoiding relationships/dates with guys I wasn't "sure" I had a mutual feeling toward to begin with). - always date mutual - never neutral... nothing I feel/do is ever lukewarm, why settle for it in matters of love?!~ right?!

How the few times I had to walk away would be seen in my chart... not sure. I would guess in my case it has a lot to do with that pesky Pisces DC~ Neptune is part of a stellium and smack-dab between my 4th-5th houses. If they had any common line it was they had either an addiction (substance/alcohol), were serial flirts/liars/cheaters, or abusive/sociopaths (my ex).

I think that DC has me either drawn to or drawing in the negative Piscean/Neptune-characters. But, not Pisces, just those with the traits negatively associated with the sign... most the time I had Aqua-suitors. (something in the water where I come from, not sure... but, there really were a disproportionate number of Aquarius around those parts.)

Either way I always felt guilt and sorrow when having to be the "dumper" lol so much that (admittedly) sometimes I would do what I could to be the "dumpee" instead. I don't like conflict, I despise hurting people for any reason, and can't stand seeing anyone hurting. ><; On top of that I've got triple earth governing me, and Cap Suns are determined to see things through to the end, imho, more than any other sign. (Why I'm still married to this bozo...)

If there was a certain planet that indicated why I'd leave it is probably Saturn, if he's against something I am. I take my ruler seriously... hehe I don't mean squares to Saturn would make me despair, but I'd be very vigilant to where mine is in their chart, and where theirs is, and how each plays out individually and coupled. Saturn <3

I think it's easier to use a natal chart to see why they leave you, more than the other way around.

- having that obsessive Taurus Moon
- or the not-so-dreamy-eyed 5th house Cap Sun

and in my early years of dating/freedom --- - - Plu/Mars so closely conjunct in Sco III... possessiveness, clingyness, and distrust were very common causes for my relationships to bomb before they even reached "go"! lol

even if someone was sincere back then I would doubt whatever they said~ 3rd house negative influence~

I didn't -date- in my age bracket often either --- which caused other problems in the long run. -Cap/Virgo/Tau action 'specially that 5th house Cap style of romance~ I could have been responsible for quite a few men doing jail time...

the illusion of maturity and immaturity, purity and impurity were both huge parts in my chart and relationships... consequently - I still think they are. ^^;

Thankfully, I've outgrown the need to possess my partner, I'm never clingy... I despise it now actually~ (the joy of having that Ven-Ura in Sag IV blossomed after marriage) ---

I can't say I trust my partner now, but he's earned my distrust so thoroughly well... but, I have tried for my last few (before I was in these last two committed relationships) to give everyone and anyone the benefit of the doubt... so, my Martian/Pluto/Saturn Scorpio are all in their place for the most part....

Oh, but that moon~~~ my obsessions come and go in waves.

Another thing I've noticed more through looking at synastry now~ I don't like when someone else has contacts conjunct my Sun... I'm still trying to find information on why this might be ---- but I swear if they have planets or certain asteroids touching my sun, it kinda' "creeps" me out. I've only looked through a half dozen examples --- but, would not be surprised if there's a pattern there with some of the admirers/relationships I had that caused me to go running~ had this aspect. It would also make those that conj trine my Moon~ maybe that's why it feels overwhelming dealing with them, in a bad way overwhelming... not good.

^^; sorry for the long post~ <3

in conclusion - listen to Saturn, and don't touch my Solar energy~ hah

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fireopal09
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posted November 19, 2012 05:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fireopal09     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My ex husband's Libra Mars sat on my Sun/Uranus conjunction. He was so easy to p*ss off and then he would get vindictive (Scorpio stellium) in the most passive agressive way.

Also, his Saturn opposed my Sun. I really did feel stifled in that marriage.

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Astro keen
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posted November 19, 2012 06:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astro keen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is worrying for people who don't wish to be dumped!
My Saturn squares both my BF's sun and moon. He also has an aqua moon and loves his space and freedom.

Since Saturn appears to affect the other subliminally, my attempts not to be heavy going and restrictive are likely to fail. Could there be another planet/aspect/house which lessens the heavy qualities? We have 5 good Jupiter aspects which include Sun and Moon and I've read these have a lightening effect?

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sand
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posted November 19, 2012 11:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sand     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It would have to be making me look bad in public. Leo moon. Not an argument in public or anything that petty but some mini scandal of some sort.

Loyalty but I'm not so sure about that now. Venus in Taurus.

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somethingexcellent
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posted November 20, 2012 12:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for somethingexcellent     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Let's see...I usually leave people because they end up making me feel rage. And for various reasons and from various types of relationships! I've walked out on friendships before for reasons similar to why I'd cut off a romantic relationship. The usual is emotional instability, obsession...y'know, all that stuff I don't have the time to deal with.

I'm an air moon, damn it! I want to feel unburdened.

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Desiring Shadows
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posted November 20, 2012 01:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Fighting or a
lack of interest.
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Tropical:Libra-Sagittarius-Gemini

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astrofan123
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posted November 20, 2012 01:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for astrofan123     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by peregrine:
I know there may be many but what has been the most common for you?

usually too many conflicts, mind games to the point I don't know who to trust anymore. of course no relationship is free of conflicts but certainly not conflicts all the time. also I like discussing things. all kinds of subjects, stories, ideas and perspectives. some people insult and belittle other people and call that "discussion". I've met some of them and of course I left lol they were not like that in the beginning, otherwise I wouldn't be in relationship with them at all. an open minded, communicative and light-hearted person always appeals to me. of course we all have dark days, but surely not all days like that. I have Gemini moon trine Uranus, maybe that's why.

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Nine
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posted November 20, 2012 02:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
An interesting mini trend I've noticed is I'm attracted to people born in 1986, but bump heads with those born in 1987. I suspect Saturn is the culprit. In 1986 Saturn was in loose conjunction to my moon, by 1987 it was opposing my Sun & square my Asc. 86ers I find delightful and easy to be around. 87ers range from bullying, argumentative, to controlling.

Looking through my school files between 84 & 1990, 1986 marked my peak year. 1987 was awful and the year I entered the abyss.

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JLyn ~
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posted November 20, 2012 03:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for JLyn ~     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Strange now that I think about it cause I have
Uranus conjuct Jupiter and Aquarius Venus with a Capricorn/Aquarius cusp, so you would think I'm very fickle in relationships but I'm not.

I truly like solid committed relationships with soulful affection.

Uranus squares in synsatry never lasted or gave me headaches from the inconsistency

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