posted November 24, 2012 05:24 AM
Yes, agreed. I have had several theories, but nothing practi cal, over the years on that.
Right now I am thinking that compatibility could have more to do with the comparision of the natal charts.
For example: two people with Air Moons (actually I found the Moons very often at least in compatible signs in lasting happy relationships - it is not a 100% rule, but it seems to help) might be compatible on the emotional level (very generally speaking! Of course you ahve to take into account the aspects of the Moon, the fourth house etc.).
But my Aquarius-Moon might be mor compatible to a Libra Moon with Moon conjunct Uranus than with a Cancer Moon trine Neptune.
Attraction on the other hand seems to be more a kind of actual synastric aspects, not all of them (some may be more prone to be descriptive of compatibility than attraction, like Moon-Moon aspects for example).
However there are some I have found to be usually indicative of attraction (paying attention to); Lotiswhite pretty much summed them up in her thread.
especially the aspects to the rulers of the 5th house seem to indicate that inital spark of attraction (though 7th house appears to be more relationship oriented and 8th house goes much deeper).
Also, if you have Yin-Yang-combinations, there is usually a zing, a spark of attraction.
If that Yin-Yang-combination happens on the natal level. Let`s say I have Venus square Pluto, you have MArs opposite Pluto (no idea if you have, just an example). There might be an attraction on the basis of our personal patterns. I am not sure though if it is enough to relate to actual chemistry. So far it seems - no aspects - no action.
There might be a curiosity and some resonance, but without aspects, we might never do anything about it. It just seems like a good idea, but noone gets active.
On the other hand strong attraction interaspects coupled with basic natal incompatibility or at least without resonating natal placements, might either be shallow or a flash in the pan, or sometimes actually might switch over into rejection mode (attraction and repulsion are just like the minus and plus pole of the same magnet: attention).
And if the interaspects resonate with one person, while don`t with the other person (or only one person has their Venus, Mars, 5th, 7th or 8th house activated) we might have the ingredients to a totally onesided attraction (though the other person might still want to be in a relationship with the first one, but for other reasons than love or attraction).