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Fennecfox
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posted November 28, 2012 10:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Fennecfox     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a Pisces woman and was in a great relationship with a Cancer man.

We had been really close friends for many years and then liked eachother on and off for over two years (talk about exhausting) but finally I gathered up the guts to tell him how I felt. He said he felt the same way.

As we were dating we had a great time in eachothers company. I felt like I could tell him anything! Things were moving along and we met eachothers parents and I absolutely adored his family. His mom was a sweetheart and his dad was hilarious. I was so happy!

Then suddenly I started getting the cold shoulder, I assumed that you know, maybe he's having an off few days. After a week of this odd behavior I began to get really worried, and asked him several times what's going on? did I upset you? But I just kept getting blown off. I felt really hurt but I didn't want to say anything. I avoided overreacting and tried to not annoy him. This kept happening for the next 4 weeks!

I randomly get a text saying we need to talk. I asked what was going on and he replies with "I want to go back to being just friends" and I love him so much and want him to be happy so that kinda was the end of it.

I feel so badly because I feel like I wasn't good enough or that I messed up and did something wrong. But we never got into a fight and he claims I did nothing wrong. I just really want things to be like they were. Im struggling with this because I've never been rejected before and...I want to fix it with every fiber of my heart.

I know that I can give him what he needs, and I'm more willing than anyone to give him happiness.

Does anyone have any tips for getting him back? Or if I'm completely wrong and not able to get him back, how can I move on?

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Debby4
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posted November 28, 2012 10:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Debby4     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well... I think some charts or a Synastry chart would be nice maybe even a nice little composite. As you might already know Suns don't make/break a relationship there is much, MUCH more. This can be done on astro.com

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Swift Freeze
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posted November 29, 2012 04:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Swift Freeze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am deeply sorry that you've been through something like this. The one thing that helps most is having an answer, but the problem is. We're always asking questions and getting far too few answers. Especially about love.

This is a song by Bon Iver, I can't make you love me.

I find it very moving, I hope you decide to listen to it also.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q3VjaCy5gck

- Chris

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Learn lots. Don't judge. Laugh for no reason. Be nice. Seek Happiness. Follow your dreams.

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AscTaurus
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posted November 29, 2012 08:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AscTaurus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I empathize.

I find Cancer suns the most diff people to get to know(and am a Cancer Moon myself).

Somehow you can unconsciously do something to offend them and they'll never let you in on what you did that caused offence(perhaps they are weary of you saying that they are being too "touchy" and respond with indifference?).

But yes, having the Cancer moon here has me behaving in a similar fashion too: I am not the easiest person to understand.

What sign is on the 7th house cusp? If its Pisces, Scorpio or Cancer, then you can be sure that this individual is super sensitive in relationships and may need extra tenderness in approach.

What is the ruler of his 7th house? Coz if its Pluto or the Moon, you can be sure that this behaviour is going to be "normal".

But currently there is a Pluto transit that could be opposing his Sun and a transiting Uranus that could be squaring it too.

If there are other cardinal placements ; like the moon/venus/mars, you can be sure that he'll go from being "mr. wonderful" to being on "edge".

But you didn't give me much to go on.....

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Fennecfox
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posted November 29, 2012 06:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Fennecfox     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by AscTaurus:
I empathize.

I find Cancer suns the most diff people to get to know(and am a Cancer Moon myself).

Somehow you can unconsciously do something to offend them and they'll never let you in on what you did that caused offence(perhaps they are weary of you saying that they are being too "touchy" and respond with indifference?).

But yes, having the Cancer moon here has me behaving in a similar fashion too: I am not the easiest person to understand.

What sign is on the 7th house cusp? If its Pisces, Scorpio or Cancer, then you can be sure that this individual is super sensitive in relationships and may need extra tenderness in approach.

What is the ruler of his 7th house? Coz if its Pluto or the Moon, you can be sure that this behaviour is going to be "normal".

But currently there is a Pluto transit that could be opposing his Sun and a transiting Uranus that could be squaring it too.

If there are other cardinal placements ; like the moon/venus/mars, you can be sure that he'll go from being "mr. wonderful" to being on "edge".

But you didn't give me much to go on.....


- I don't think touchy was a problem since I felt he was more uncomfortable with that stuff...we hadn't even kissed or anything. But his planets are:

Sun: can.
Moon: can.
Mercury: can.
Venus: gem.
Mars: sag.
Jupiter: can.
Saturn: gem.
Uranus: aqu.
Neptune: aqu.
Pluto:sag
True node: can.
Chiron: sag.

I'm a Pisces sun and Leo moon


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Fennecfox
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posted November 29, 2012 06:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Fennecfox     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Debby4:
Well... I think some charts or a Synastry chart would be nice maybe even a nice little composite. As you might already know Suns don't make/break a relationship there is much, MUCH more. This can be done on astro.com


- But his planets are:

Sun: can.
Moon: can.
Mercury: can.
Venus: gem.
Mars: sag.
Jupiter: can.
Saturn: gem.
Uranus: aqu.
Neptune: aqu.
Pluto:sag
True node: can.
Chiron: sag.

I'm a Pisces sun and Leo moon

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AscTaurus
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posted November 30, 2012 01:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AscTaurus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Geez, with so many cardinal planets and the current transit of cardinal signs in Pluto and Uranus, I bet this is messing with him.


don't think touchy was a problem since I felt he was more uncomfortable with that stuff...we hadn't even kissed or anything. But his planets are

with cancer sun, moon, mercury and Jupiter- I wouldn't be so sure.

If Mercury aspects the moon, you can exepect some pretty unpredictable behaviour and mood swings that go up and down. Mercury is receptive in water signs; leading to periods of withdrawal and self-imposed isolation. And when it conjuncts the Moon, it can affect his feelings and habitual life.

If Pluto opposes Venus, this could explain his hot/cold/push/pull dynamics. Pluto wants depth and intensity in relation to Venus(partner) and perhaps there could be feelings that the party may not be good enough or "enlightened" enough.

This can be re-inforced by the current transit, if transiting Pluto opposes the Sun, Moon, Mercury.

Pluto/Moon opposition can make someone seek isolation and time to rethink intimate relationship ties. Change known habits or even try to observe , more closely, the relationship one has with women/maternal figures. Disagreements with females/ domestic scene and mostly the mother tend to be rife!

Pluto/Mercury introspective thinking and "culling" out of old patterns of relating and speaking. Conversation will be more serious and disagreements can infuse a "war -like" approach and defensive behavior.

Pluto/Jupiter oppositions seeking freedom from meaningless ties/restrictions and perhaps looking to "free" themselves from outdated belief system /those that do not serve a grand vision for ones life.

pluto/sun opposition- a more aggressive and assertive approach in getting what one wants. Being clear on direction and personal goals. Letting nothing stand in ones way and making sure, if it does, that it is removed. An uncompromising attitude towards seeing that the end objectives are met.


If transiting Uranus aspects

The moon by squAre- he feels that his peronal space is being invaded. He could be particularly touchy about whom he lets into his perosnal bubble. Imposition on personal space is something he won't tolerate right now.

Mercury by square- being unreasonable and argumentative is likely. There could be less patience with wanting to hear another point of view and taking it to mean that are "daring" to oppose them. That they are being "unreasonable".

Uranus square Jupiter- Any imposistion had on ones beliefs/moral conduct/ ethics will not be tolerated(not without a tussle). You certainly don't want to argue with the person about what they strongly believe in; whther this opposes mainstream beliefs or code of conduct. They will not tolerate any restrctions on personal freedom. Nor will they feel the need to account for their decisions.

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charlie
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posted November 30, 2012 08:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Cancers can be so tricky!! The worst is when we FEEL something is off inside of us there is nothing we can do about it. 9/10 an action will be taken upon that feeling alone and it won't usually matter if it defies logic or not.

I know many Water sun signs. The ones I have had trouble with has been the ones with a Water moon.
Too many emotions that run deep.

Leave him alone for a while, he'll come back if he loves you.

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