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posted December 04, 2012 03:38 PM            

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I hate my Mars in Cancer placement.
Those with Mars in Cancer, have you gotten over your passive-aggression? Are you working on it? How do you assert yourself?

I'm a Virgo Rising, Capricorn sun, Scorpio moon. Mercury in Capricorn, Venus in Pisces, and Mars in Cancer.

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posted December 04, 2012 03:40 PM            

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Communication, communication, communication.

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posted December 04, 2012 03:44 PM            

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Are u a girl?

I'd say its more worse for a guy cuz Sun and his Mars are his masculinity

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posted December 04, 2012 04:10 PM            

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I am a girl.

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posted December 04, 2012 04:11 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
I am a girl.

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Do you have problems with your drive? Are you lazy sometimes? Lacking ambition? Are y ou submissive or too passive? Do you want someone to lay on to be more "stronger" than you?

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posted December 04, 2012 04:25 PM            

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yup communication. ego gets the bet of me and i need to be alone and think and and really know the whole story. or else i'll never let go in order to move on. have recently been in too many of these issues and i still here voices in my head saying **** them **** them! never trust them again, never speak to them again. but you've got to at least talk about it and work it and find some understanding. i'll try but will not let it get the best of me. be fair, understanding and walk away with integrity and truth.... oh yeah i love to be lazy. i consider it a lifestyle

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posted December 04, 2012 04:28 PM            

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I try to say exactly what i'm feeling/thinking, although it can be difficult for me at times. I can't be mean to others, so I try to say it as neutral as possible.

I also have Chiron conjuncting my Mars, so I think that makes it even worse. -.-

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posted December 04, 2012 04:30 PM            

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I have ambition of my own (I'm a Capricorn!) But in relationships I do look to men that are typically , "stronger". I tend to be bossy, mean, & stubborn, so I cannot appreciate a guy that allows me to walk all over him.

My Cancer Mars tends to show when facing conflict at work, or conflict with my Saggitarius Sun/Aries Moon mother! When there's conflict with my Aries/ Sun/Libra Moon boyfriend, my Scorpio Moon comes out.

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posted December 04, 2012 04:41 PM            

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Me to I have mars in Cancer its retrograde so that somehow explain why I sometimes can be passive agressive but i think it depends with who it is. When it comes towards my family mostly my mom i dont have any problem laying out the problem but when it come with other i try to tone it down. Like you I'm a capricorn so i too cant be with someone that lets me walk over them. I need someone that isn't afraid to basically call on my BS, I guess if i get a feedback like that i wont be afraid to respond right back but i think that probably have to do with the aspect Mars does with Mercury/Uranus/Neptune.

btw we got mostly the same placement.
Leo Rising, Sun Capricorn,Moon Libra,Mercury Capricorn,Venus Pisces,Mars Cancer
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posted December 04, 2012 05:01 PM            

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Oops, wrong thread x

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posted December 04, 2012 05:32 PM            

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Your Mars is not the point, but your Moon in Scorpio (always feeling threats and oversensitive, I kow, I have the same placement) and your ascendant in Virgo which has tendency to flee the violence.
I'm sure at 100% because I actually have my sun in Virgo, and my Mars in Aries doesn't help me to face the conflict while it's supposed to be the best position. I'm agressive (my Moon in Scorpio and my Mars in Aries) but I flee the conflict and when I can't I'm beside myself, the face turning red, overreacting.

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posted December 04, 2012 05:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Thermidor:
Your Mars is not the point, but your Moon in Scorpio (always feeling threats and oversensitive, I kow, I have the same placement) and your ascendant in Virgo which has tendency to flee the violence.
I'm sure at 100% because I actually have my sun in Virgo, and my Mars in Aries doesn't help me to face the conflict while it's supposed to be the best position. I'm agressive (my Moon in Scorpio and my Mars in Aries) but I flee the conflict and when I can't I'm beside myself, the face turning red, overreacting.

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Interesting...
I usually don't feel my Virgo influence, but since you put it that way...

My Scorpio moon is very violent (literally) I will hit, bite, and fight but I think that's because of my Cancer Mars!

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posted December 04, 2012 06:24 PM            

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Oh I know your violence... ^^
I know your rage, your caustic humor (perhaps sometimes an improper giggle ?), your will of destroy, and your sexual needs..

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posted December 04, 2012 06:57 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
I hate my Mars in Cancer placement.
Those with Mars in Cancer, have you gotten over your passive-aggression? Are you working on it? How do you assert yourself?

I'm a Virgo Rising, Capricorn sun, Scorpio moon. Mercury in Capricorn, Venus in Pisces, and Mars in Cancer.

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I have Mars and Moon in cancer and Sun, Merc and Venus in Gemini. For you, I think your other placements make the Mars in Cancer harder as your Scorpio Moon is super, super intense. Your venus is very poetic and not assertive, but your Sun and Mercury are go getters.

I think the Scorpio Moon is what is making the Mars in Cancer, so hard, is what I am trying to say, in a long winded fashion

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posted December 04, 2012 06:59 PM            

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To answer your question, I force myself to be assertive. I used to fight everything. Now, I can walk away from most thing. It is kind of a skill. You have to learn ego reduction, too, as no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. It is a process

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posted December 05, 2012 01:30 AM            

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I am non-confrontational with my mother.
My mom is the type to talk louder than you or talk over you in a disagreement so I can never get what i want to say completely out because she constantly cuts me off,leaving me frustrated and in tears because I can't remember what I want to say and I feel like I'm not being heard.

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posted December 05, 2012 01:47 AM            

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I have Mars and Moon in cancer and Sun, Merc and Venus in Gemini. For you, I think your other placements make the Mars in Cancer harder as your Scorpio Moon is super, super intense. Your venus is very poetic and not assertive, but your Sun and Mercury are go getters.

I think the Scorpio Moon is what is making the Mars in Cancer, so hard, is what I am trying to say, in a long winded fashion

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posted December 05, 2012 06:32 AM            

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I don't quite understand why Mars in Cancer is considered a difficult placement. The people I know who have it are actually quite aggressive and assertive - "bossy". I'd never say they're afraid of conflict? Idk. Maybe it's because most of them have a Sun/Mars aspect also. Or Mars/Pluto. Not sure.

Anyway, yeah communication is probably the answer.

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posted December 05, 2012 09:31 AM            

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I don't like my mars cancer either. It sucks lol but I've learned to just live with it. I have to force myself to be assertive. I'm getting better tho. Astrology aside, if you get trampled on enough you eventually get sick of it and fight back. I hate confrontations and I hate fighting and sometimes its like when faced with those things I tend to flee the scene lol what I was doing was allowing myself to be drawn to men that are assertive bc I lacked that quality. Problem this they think I'm weak and then seek to completely dominate me. Too bad they don't realize I have an aries asc and don't take too kindly to that. I just like feeling protected is all id say the best thing you can do is instead of withdrawing, hold your ground and state what you feel. Find your inner strength. At least that's how I've learned to cope with having mars in cancer. I've also stopped seeking relationships with assertive ppl lol hope this helps.

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posted December 05, 2012 05:01 PM            

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I have Mars in Cancer, but I'm not passive-aggressive. My entire chart is pretty much ruled by Mars, so when I do get angry, EVERYONE knows. lol

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