posted December 05, 2012 11:02 AM            

But it sucks because I feel head over heels when they're their vulnerable selves. I've dated around 5 virgos and one taurus guy, and I didn't have that problem at all. They were always willing to show vulnerability to me. But the passion is not the same with them as what I feel with a libra or aries.

Is it typical for a libra guy to have their guard up, or do they only do that around signs they square with. lol.

posted December 05, 2012 11:15 AM            

And cancers are just what they need to bring the guard down heh?

posted December 05, 2012 12:07 PM            

quote:

---

Originally posted by sand:
Weirdo!

---

-____-

EDIT: Hey Desiring Shadows! You're a libra right? Why dontcha help me out sweets

EDIT no.2: Huh? I'm confused by watcha said...hopefully u'll come back and edit when you're not distracted

posted December 05, 2012 12:15 PM            

I only dated one Libra ever~ years and years ago... he's also the only guy I dated who was younger than me... but, that shoulda' maybe made him more guarded, I think. He was extremely open with his emotions and vulnerabilities. Probably changed after being with me though. <.< Being a cold cappy, and extremely guarded myself, I really couldn't handle that openness at that time. And, although my mother and aunt were once discussing how how "wonderful" (as in they appreciate it) it is to witness a man bare his soul and cry.... I was the oddball who said that I just couldn't stand it. -sigh- I'm an emotional creature too, but I hate showing vulnerability to anyone... anyone.

I ended up dumping my young Mr. Libra after such a "wonderful" experience such as this. We were complete strangers to each other for the rest of high school... rightly so, I feel now. He wasn't the only unguarded fella' I couldn't handle at that age either... there was one Aquarius and one Pisces (really short dating experiences), that ended pretty much the same way for the same reason.

The most guarded Sun's I've had relationships with were (a) Cancer, and other Capricorns, and a Taurus.
(I may be biased but I think when it comes to showing emotional vulnerability Capricorn's may hold crown and scepter for having a fortress for our partners to surmount.)

The only Aries I had experience with was -umm- special~ having weird synastry and probably karmic... he was damn near telepathic, so there was no guarded grounds between us... and he was the first guy who cried/exposed his soul that I actually wept with... (the one who changed things for this cold cappy.)

So squares/cardinals -- not sure...

Jaded people do put up walls though, right? Maybe it's just them putting up those defenses because they had terrible (maybe cold cappys lol) experiences in their past that have them needing a little more work to get them to drop their armor?

IME - the more you drop your guard the more likely they may be willing to follow suit~ takes time...

posted December 05, 2012 01:01 PM            

Can I get a "Take Back", please? Cause I'd like to start over with everyone.

posted December 05, 2012 01:46 PM            

He told me he's been hurt a lot in the past.

posted December 05, 2012 03:22 PM            

quote:

---

Originally posted by chad1433:
Trauma based fear...somebody hurt them once (Mom) and they never got over it. Someone abandoned them, cheated on them, lied to them...it's not about men/women, it's about people. People hurt each other because they're afraid of being hurt themselves. They forget the connectedness of everyone and move about life like a bulldozer, tearing up roots and foundations like they don't matter.

Can I get a "Take Back", please? Cause I'd like to start over with everyone.

Cancer Sun, Libra Moon *sigh*

---

=[[[ What sign were his parents? My libran has A Cap father and Scorp/Libra cusp mother. The father can be extremely HARSH at times. The mother I've noticed just passively lets certain things slide, unless she reaches her tipping point. It is very rare to see her take charge, unless his father is just being completely intolerable.

RunAroundScreaming- I'm a huge fan of libras as well. The majority who are in my circle (noticed both females/males) just have this carefree energy about them.

My bf of 1yr. & going is Libra sun also Libra/Virgo Cusp, Pisces Moon, Cap Asc. I agree with you when they shut off. That's the most irritating thing that he does. He'll close off & just go off in his own world. As for me? Eh I've just gotten used to it and accepted him for this. Eventually he became more comfortable and let his vulnerability down completely, when he realized I became standoffish. I love & enjoy his openness and youthful spirit though, but it has it's negative side too. When he gets angry ooooo, & someone described it perfectly (yay! lonake) when she mentioned I have a mars/ sq. uranus...which can make for a sometimes unpredictable partner. At times I do feel as if I need a seatbelt 24/7 with this libran, but it's been worth while.

omg I hate auto correct sometimes =/
Hope that shed some light