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Topic: How do you keep a Cap Moon/Venus Sag's interest?
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hannaramaa
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posted February 07, 2013 01:56 AM
  
Hmm? Mars in Scorpio.IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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posted February 07, 2013 01:59 AM
By not letting him take you for granted, that's def number uno.IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted February 07, 2013 02:41 AM
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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
By not letting him take you for granted, that's def number uno.
Lol so what do I do, constantly remind him other guys want me? IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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posted February 07, 2013 02:50 AM
No of course not!See there are various approaches you can take depending what YOU want him to be for YOU. If you are very sure of your feelings for him and you want something more permanent then your approach would be different, however if this is a new relationship and you are still in the trying-out-and-see-if-it-works phase then keep your emotions to yourself, talk to him but don't go overboard with the mushy talks, just keep it cool, be 'unavailable' at times, be mysterious, keep him guessing, don't tell him what you do from the time you get up in the mornings to the time you hit your bed, be nice and gentle but not too nice as to not be able to refuse him when you feel like...you get my drift?  Guys are guys irrespective of their planetary placements. Capricorn guys are a tad harder on the girls they want to be involved with. They want to know if you are the 'weak' ones ( if they can overpower you) or the 'tough' ones ( those who won't buy their BS and will stand up to them) IP: Logged |
Lazyscarecrow
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posted February 07, 2013 05:25 AM
I am gonna have to agree that Sag men aren't a very mushy bunch... but also chime in and say that if you feel it's too much game playing to keep his interest, no need to go overboard in changing yourself. But from my experience with both a Cap moon Sag and a Sag with Scorpio Mars, is that they will at times pour their heart out, but it's not an everyday thing and therefore you should not expect it. And when I would express something heartfelt towards them, they wouldn't react or would make a joke out of it.
I know you're an Aries and you mentioned before you like to chase or you're not interested (correct me if I'm wrong), but any time I would be forward with these Sag guys, they would ignore me or be put off. It could have simply been a "he's not that into you" deal but I think Sag men like the role of hunter in a relationship. And don't let that open-mind crap fool you... they are extremely traditional. Men act this way, blah blah...woman act that way.... you know. I think Jessica is correct on what she said. I think the saying is being like an iron fist in a velvet glove. Spunk is good, you're an Aries and you have lots I'm sure. Gushing over a Sag is a bad idea...they hate it. At least in early stages.
Also, Sagittarians really like intellectual conversation. Like, politics, his favorite sport, or just simply ask him his opinion on something.
Finally I will go back on my word a bit and say I have seen Sag men accept gushiness from their partner. I've seen this when he's with a Scorpio woman, though. Therefore, I think it could be different for you, and you may not have to do all the femme fatale stuff. They really do like Aries girls, from my observations. IP: Logged |
Astra
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posted February 07, 2013 07:15 AM
Be independent. This means having your own life and goals. Any potential love interest should be a part of your life, but they shouldn't be the only thing going on in your life. As a cap moon female, I cannot stand adults who are clingy and dependent on others for every little thing. I don't like to treat grown men as babies. Also, be reliable. If you say you are going to do something, then do it. Don't make false promises. Cap moons greatly value reliability. The Sag in him is mutable and will appreciate having someone who is solid and not flaky. Demonstrate a sense of humor. Sags and Caps love to laugh. If you can demonstrate that you are witty, he'll be all yours since wit shows both intelligence and a sense or humor. Be able to talk about any topic under the sun. You don't have to be an expert at every single topic. If you truly don't know something, ask him to teach you! Don't get overly emotional. Obviously, if something terrible happened like a beloved pet died, then it's ok to cry in front of him. But when dealing with daily life itself, don't freak out and get overly emotional. It will just make him wonder whether you are mentally stable. He needs to feel like he can tell you anything and he'll hesitate to be open with you if he feels like he has to walk on eggshells. IP: Logged |
karendoverman
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posted February 07, 2013 07:18 AM
are you hot? People want to know the secret to attracting someone. There really is no magic to it. Get Hot. Do some ab workouts. Work on yourself. That will get them. If you are already hot, then wear revealing clothing to show how hot you are and stuff. Its basic. Think about it.....Have you ever seen a hot chick who COULDN'T attract any sign that exists? No. All signs go after hot chicks. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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posted February 07, 2013 08:15 AM
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Originally posted by karendoverman:
are you hot?
If you are already hot, then wear revealing clothing to show how hot you are and stuff. Its basic.
Seriously???? A woman has to wear revealing clothes to SHOW how hot she is??? HOW revealing? quote:
Think about it.....Have you ever seen a hot chick who COULDN'T attract any sign that exists? No. All signs go after hot chicks.
Reaaally? IP: Logged |
sharpei
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posted February 07, 2013 08:22 AM
^^not strictly true karen- ive had male friends who were very hot and had average or below average girlfriends, ive got a model friend who looks like giselle and she cannot seem to keep a boyfriend for more than 5 mins and not only is she hot she is also lovely- she got dumped for some really average looking girl too.attraction is complex and what one man finds hot another may not- someones horoscope gives you an idea but it relaly is not the whole picture- im sure there are some venus in sag who are super clingy and traditional and emotional and others who are more in keeping with their venus sign. you did not say his sun sign or if you did i missed it? i really like a guy who is sun sag but venus moon saturn uranus AND neptune capricorn haha- i mean i am capricorn too but there is such a thing as tooo much of a good thing  from what i understand the venus relates to what is attractive to him whereas the moon is more how he responds emotionally so a man with cap moon might end up with a cap sun girl because she makes him feel secure emotionally but he might be more attracted to more sparky independant girls with perhaps strong aries or sag in their chart. and mars is sex and drive so mars in scorpio bodes well it suggests he needs someone who can keep up with him. IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted February 07, 2013 08:33 AM
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Originally posted by Lazyscarecrow:
But from my experience with both a Cap moon Sag and a Sag with Scorpio Mars, is that they will at times pour their heart out, but it's not an everyday thing and therefore you should not expect it. And when I would express something heartfelt towards them, they wouldn't react or would make a joke out of it.
My experience is similar. My son is a Sag sun/Cap moon. Venus on the Scorpio-Sag cusp. He loves long conversations with me but usually doesn't want me showing him any affection. He thinks it's corny. Granted, he is 13. But it's the same thing you described...he will occasionally come up out of nowhere and give me a bear hug. But he doesn't want me doing it to him....Things kinda have to be on his terms. IP: Logged |
peregrine
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posted February 07, 2013 08:34 AM
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Originally posted by karendoverman:
are you hot? People want to know the secret to attracting someone. There really is no magic to it. Get Hot. Do some ab workouts. Work on yourself. That will get them. If you are already hot, then wear revealing clothing to show how hot you are and stuff. Its basic. Think about it.....Have you ever seen a hot chick who COULDN'T attract any sign that exists? No. All signs go after hot chicks.
you're one to speak. (blonde baboon)  IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted February 07, 2013 11:17 AM
Thanks for your responses guys! So far yes he's kinda emo but it hasn't gotten on my nerves yet, and I also kinda talked about stuff that I think he didn't like but Sag guys are easy to make it up to right? Anyway, I'm a triple Aries and proud of it haha so I would never make drastic changes to my personality or life for someone I was dating! Its just funny because I get the sense he's irked of we're not keeping in touch throughout the day.....he has Mercury in Scorpio. I wondered if this meant they take "communication" personally a lot. So for example if you don't text them back right away then they won't text you back right away either. t.it -for-tat thing.IP: Logged |
sharpei
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posted February 07, 2013 12:46 PM
well hanaramoi think if you notice certain things are important to him it might be wise to adapt to it rather than just going on your merry way- its always been helpful to me when i listen to that quiet little voice in my head saying ''i think xyz is important to them so i might as well do it'' things like texting back reasonably quickly etc do not demand a dramatic change of personality or anything drastic but can make a biiig difference to the other person and its nice for the other person taht they see you are making an effort for them- if he is moon in cap he will definitely appreciate reliability and hopefully be the same to you! IP: Logged |
SaturnineMoth
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posted February 07, 2013 12:55 PM
t!t for tat~ >.>; hubby does that too, hannaslightly different placements, Moon in Scorpio, Venus-Mercury in Capricorn. keeping his interest has always been about sharing what he enjoys... he's a real kid sometimes, whatever it is he expects me to enjoy/be excited by it too, he'll get all ridiculously cute and childlike, sometimes demanding I pay attention/come check whatever it is out... *mini centaur tantrum, kinda like a lion tantrum, but not so dramatic, more humourous than anything* lol all the centaurs I've known enjoyed this "sharing" business... the only snag with it is that they don't always appear to give their partner the same kindness in return... just gotta go with it though... like us and astrology... he can't stand it, can barely hear two words related to the subject... but I have to listen to his every video game/movie/restaurant of interest at any given moment, without changing topics.... (asking a lot of another centaur heavy person... I have my own darn interests! LoL) He sounds really cool though, gotta say~ wishin' ya all the best, okay! <3 I don't think you'll really need to try anything, all that fire... you're interesting just being how you are... share that with him a little more at a time and he'll be curious for sure~ ^^ IP: Logged |
KarkaQueen
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posted February 07, 2013 12:57 PM
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Originally posted by sharpei:
^^not strictly true karen- ive had male friends who were very hot and had average or below average girlfriends, ive got a model friend who looks like giselle and she cannot seem to keep a boyfriend for more than 5 mins and not only is she hot she is also lovely- she got dumped for some really average looking girl too.attraction is complex and what one man finds hot another may not- someones horoscope gives you an idea but it relaly is not the whole picture- im sure there are some venus in sag who are super clingy and traditional and emotional and others who are more in keeping with their venus sign. you did not say his sun sign or if you did i missed it? i really like a guy who is sun sag but venus moon saturn uranus AND neptune capricorn haha- i mean i am capricorn too but there is such a thing as tooo much of a good thing from what i understand the venus relates to what is attractive to him whereas the moon is more how he responds emotionally so a man with cap moon might end up with a cap sun girl because she makes him feel secure emotionally but he might be more attracted to more sparky independant girls with perhaps strong aries or sag in their chart. and mars is sex and drive so mars in scorpio bodes well it suggests he needs someone who can keep up with him.
Very good. Attraction and physical looks are connected but don't always play a part. I know many men who are more attracted to a boring or ugly girl than a hotter or beautiful one, IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted February 07, 2013 05:52 PM
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Originally posted by SaturnineMoth:
t!t for tat~ >.>; hubby does that too, hannaslightly different placements, Moon in Scorpio, Venus-Mercury in Capricorn.
Lol it didn't occur to me 'til today he might do that. Since we've never met I think I look at our friendship in a lighter manner than him, and yet I'd be sad if we didn't speak anymore. Sometimes my Aries Mercury gets the better of me (foot in mouth syndrome) but he handles it alright. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 07, 2013 06:06 PM
For the Cap Moon/Sco Merc & Mars mix - consistency is really important. Don't go whacky.
Just try to really stick to what you say and don't change your feelings or attitude towards him over night.
They would completely hate a person who blows hot & cold.IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 07, 2013 06:07 PM
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Guys are guys irrespective of their planetary placements.
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Lava Flower
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posted February 07, 2013 06:09 PM
The not responding for a while if you take your time is definitely a Scorpio Merc trait, perhaps Scorpio in general. As far as his Venus in Saggi, look to Jupiter to see what sign its in. I am involved with someone who has his Saggi Venus, in the 11th, conjunct his Uranus 0* and he can actually be clingy towards me. His Jupiter is in Pisces. His Cap moon probably feels pretty comfortable with your Saturn in Cap. Also his moon falls into your 8th and that's a deep overlay, that he will likely feel most, initially. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 07, 2013 06:14 PM
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All signs go after hot chicks.
Actually some guys are kind of scared shi*tless of attractive women and they either get tongue-tied - or - start looking up stupid online articles about "how to keep an attractive woman's interest" - which really does no wonders for them either. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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posted February 07, 2013 06:17 PM
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Originally posted by karendoverman:
are you hot? People want to know the secret to attracting someone. There really is no magic to it. Get Hot. Do some ab workouts. Work on yourself. That will get them. If you are already hot, then wear revealing clothing to show how hot you are and stuff. Its basic. Think about it.....Have you ever seen a hot chick who COULDN'T attract any sign that exists? No. All signs go after hot chicks.
Revealing clothes are a turn off! Unless your at the beach put that **** away. I mean these women have no other qualities they can impress me with other than being proactive? How about a personality?
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hannaramaa
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posted February 07, 2013 06:17 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
For the Cap Moon/Sco Merc & Mars mix - consistency is really important. Don't go whacky.
Just try to really stick to what you say and don't change your feelings or attitude towards him over night.
They would completely hate a person who blows hot & cold.
DUDE! Sometimes I think he actually likes me and I feel bad, but I don't want to ask outright 'cause that makes me think I'm looking deeper into something that isn't. He'll say cute things here and there and it wasn't until recently that I realized he was being honest and not just bantering, etc. Anyway, my point in that was I would talk to him like a friend you know, and I may have mentioned guys hitting on me?! ...wince... I got the feeling he didn't like that and stopped but you know, I don't know how to back peddle from it other than to just stop doing it. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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posted February 07, 2013 06:21 PM
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Originally posted by peregrine:
you're one to speak. (blonde baboon)
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hannaramaa
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posted February 07, 2013 06:52 PM
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Originally posted by sharpei:
well hanaramoi think if you notice certain things are important to him it might be wise to adapt to it rather than just going on your merry way- its always been helpful to me when i listen to that quiet little voice in my head saying ''i think xyz is important to them so i might as well do it'' things like texting back reasonably quickly etc do not demand a dramatic change of personality or anything drastic but can make a biiig difference to the other person and its nice for the other person taht they see you are making an effort for them- if he is moon in cap he will definitely appreciate reliability and hopefully be the same to you!
True, I just don't know if they're important to him. For sure. I can perceive things, think things, but I'm not going to outright ask him all these questions 'cause I don't want him thinking I'm being clingy or territorial in any way. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 07, 2013 07:48 PM
Ok I thought of something else that seems important with Cap Moon.. They usually have a huge issue with spending time, money, energy with someone, if they later feel like it all went to waste.
Basically if a Cap Moon person is uncertain about you they normally won't go out of their way in any sense for you. For instance, they won't reschedule an appt to see you, they won't buy you anything, they won't spend long periods of time talking to you. This is because Cap Mooners are very emotionally-controlled. They are very aware of how much they give to someone and how much they expect in return. When a Cap Moon is serious about you, they'll usually give a lot and do a lot for you but they'll also have expectations. If it does not feel mutual and the other person is happy to kind of lazily sit there receiving things from Cap Moon, giving nothing back --- this would be seen as a huge red flash light & the Cap Moon person is likely to dump them. The whole idea of unconditional love means not much to them. Their love and absolutely everything they do for you is conditional. If a person ends up in this kind of situation with the Cap Mooner & they are dumped purely because the Cap Mooner felt taken advantage of, like they were doing too much and giving too much & nothing was coming bk... Then they are likely to be extremely bitter. There's basically no chance of them forgiving or forgetting or trusting that person again. They are very serious about it. Writing this I mostly had in mind Cap Moon men I know... but it basically applies to me as well! IP: Logged |
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