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Topic: Why do I take relationships so seriously?
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swampys
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From: USA
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted February 09, 2013 12:07 AM
  
Whether or not my relationships are running smoothly has a major impact on my emotions. My sun is Aquarius, and I guess we're stereotypically aloof and can move on from relationships quickly? What planetary aspects play a role with this? Also, I would never, ever want to be cheated on in any way, but I feel prone to cheat myself. This is NOT something I want to do, because I'm more old-fashioned, and because I really do value relationships and would never want to hurt anyone I love. I think being with other people at the same time may boost my confidence because I'm getting so much attention and so many compliments; but I want having a healthy relationship with someone I love to be much more important to me. I consider myself to be quite romantic, and the infidelity is the only flaw, which I consider to be a major one at that.My sun is in the sixth house, and venus is in aquarius. IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted February 09, 2013 12:14 AM
I've read that first decan Aquarius is associated with cheating or problems being happy in a monogamous relationship.Many famous people born in this decan are either unfaithful or choose not to settle down at all. Some finally do get married or find "the one," of course, but I'm talking about a general inclination towards multiple, simultaneous relationships. I know a few first decan Aquarians personally who got divorced after cheating on their spouses. IP: Logged |
starfairy
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From: los angeles, california, USA
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posted February 09, 2013 12:19 AM
What house is your Venus in? What aspects does it make? What sign rules your 7th house? What aspects does the ruler of your 7th house make? Where is your Moon? What are its aspects? Same for Mars? Do you have heavy Uranus aspects in your chart? IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted February 09, 2013 12:25 AM
i'm a first decan aqua and i wouldnt cheat and i would be happy in a monogamous relationship.. heck i'll be glad when i finally get married (if i do) so i wont have to put up with all the bs in dating.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted February 09, 2013 12:25 AM
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swampys
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From: USA
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted February 09, 2013 12:31 AM
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Originally posted by starfairy:
What house is your Venus in? What aspects does it make? What sign rules your 7th house? What aspects does the ruler of your 7th house make? Where is your Moon? What are its aspects? Same for Mars? Do you have heavy Uranus aspects in your chart?
Venus is in the 6th hour. Sun conjunct Venus, Moon opposition Venus, Venus square Jupiter. Pisces rules my 7th house. Like, Saturn is in my 7th house but that's it, and it still seems to be under Aquarius. And it's Mercury conjunct Saturn, Saturn opposition AC, Saturn square MC, Saturn square Pluto. My Moon is technically on the cusp of Cancer and Leo, but usually labeled under Cancer, but because it's so close I label it as a cusp. It's in the 12th house. Sun opposition Moon, Moon opposition Neptune, Moon opposition Uranus, Moon opposition Mars, Moon opposition Venus, Moon trine Pluto, Moon sextile MC. Mars in the 6th house, under Capricorn. Sun conjunct Mars, Mars conjunct Neptune, Mars conjunct Uranus, Moon opposition Mars, Mars trine MC, Mars sextile Pluto. I'm ruled by Uranus! IP: Logged |
swampys
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From: USA
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted February 09, 2013 12:33 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i'm a first decan aqua and i wouldnt cheat and i would be happy in a monogamous relationship.. heck i'll be glad when i finally get married (if i do) so i wont have to put up with all the bs in dating.
I long for a monogamous relationship and I want to be faithful so bad. I want to get married, too, and have a more traditional marriage so this is weird to me. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
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posted February 09, 2013 12:42 AM
i have just about lost patience with all the nonsense of dating, if i dont meet a girl who knows what she wants in the next couple of years i'm gonna swear off relationships altogether.IP: Logged |
starfairy
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From: los angeles, california, USA
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posted February 09, 2013 01:02 AM
ok well Saturn in your 7th house explains a lot. It explains why you take relationships so seriously. You may take them so seriously that you're too scared to enter one! I know a guy with those aspects who is like that. He is definitely committed when he is in one, but his underlying fear of rejection/failure in love/low self esteem keeps him from forming close ties. They say relationships get easier for Saturn in the 7th people after your Saturn return. Moon opposite Uranus doesn't help. Your feelings are inconsistent, and you may feel trapped when people get too close but lonely when no one is there for you. Moon opposite Venus- difficult to reconcile what you want in a guy. Your Venus in aqua likes independent, original, friendly types, while your moon on the cancer/Leo cusp needs a lot of attention and nurturing. Moon represents our emotional needs while Venus represents how we give and recieve love. These two planets are at odds with each other. Not to mention the square from Jupiter- you are pleasure- seeking sun opposite moon- again, different needs and wants. Can lead to indecisivesness
Mars conjunct Uranus- sexually experimental, impulsive, independent so anyway yeah you're highly Uranian which makes it difficult for you to settle down. You might take relationships too seriously to settle down. And your needs and wants are misaligned. IP: Logged |
swampys
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From: USA
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted February 09, 2013 01:06 AM
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Originally posted by starfairy:
ok well Saturn in your 7th house explains a lot. It explains why you take relationships so seriously. You may take them so seriously that you're too scared to enter one! I know a guy with those aspects who is like that. He is definitely committed when he is in one, but his underlying fear of rejection/failure in love/low self esteem keeps him from forming close ties. They say relationships get easier for Saturn in the 7th people after your Saturn return. Moon opposite Uranus doesn't help. Your feelings are inconsistent, and you may feel trapped when people get too close but lonely when no one is there for you. Moon opposite Venus- difficult to reconcile what you want in a guy. Your Venus in aqua likes independent, original, friendly types, while your moon on the cancer/Leo cusp needs a lot of attention and nurturing. Moon represents our emotional needs while Venus represents how we give and recieve love. These two planets are at odds with each other. Not to mention the square from Jupiter- you are pleasure- seeking sun opposite moon- again, different needs and wants. Can lead to indecisivesness
Mars conjunct Uranus- sexually experimental, impulsive, independent so anyway yeah you're highly Uranian which makes it difficult for you to settle down. You might take relationships too seriously to settle down. And your needs and wants are misaligned.
Thank you so much for taking the time to do this! It explained a lot! Thank you!!!! IP: Logged |
starfairy
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From: los angeles, california, USA
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posted February 09, 2013 01:16 AM
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Originally posted by swampys:
Thank you so much for taking the time to do this! It explained a lot! Thank you!!!!
you're very welcome  IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted February 09, 2013 01:23 AM
You are not alone swampys  I take all my relationships toooo seriously so serious, that I think I scare them away lol. Saturn in 7th house too. IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted February 09, 2013 07:33 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i'm a first decan aqua and i wouldnt cheat and i would be happy in a monogamous relationship.. heck i'll be glad when i finally get married (if i do) so i wont have to put up with all the bs in dating.
There's a lot of BS in marriage too, though. How's that saying go? Out of the frying pan into the fire? IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 5844
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 09, 2013 07:36 AM
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Originally posted by Faith:
There's a lot of BS in marriage too, though. How's that saying go? Out of the frying pan into the fire?
well its predictable, and thats what i like.. i hate unpredictability lolIP: Logged |
Faith
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posted February 09, 2013 07:48 AM
The book that I'm referring to says first decan Aqua is in a bind because they love that predictability...AND they love wandering, too.The Aquas I referred to above who got divorced really didn't want the divorce. Not trying to accuse you of anything...but don't be surprised if you settle down...and then aren't feeling settled. Trying to be helpful, honest. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 09, 2013 07:54 AM
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Originally posted by Faith:
The book that I'm referring to says first decan Aqua is in a bind because they love that predictability...AND they love wandering, too.The Aquas I referred to above who got divorced really didn't want the divorce. Not trying to accuse you of anything...but don't be surprised if you settle down...and then aren't feeling settled. Trying to be helpful, honest.
lol not a cheater... have no desire to and couldbt even if i tried. IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted February 09, 2013 09:00 AM
I don't doubt you, just sayin' marriage is a whole other ballgame, and there might be more temptation than you had before.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
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posted February 09, 2013 09:04 AM
haha there wont be any temptation for meIP: Logged |
Got Gemini??
Knowflake Posts: 696
From: The Planet Mercury
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 09, 2013 09:10 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Faith:
[b] There's a lot of BS in marriage too, though. How's that saying go? Out of the frying pan into the fire?
well its predictable, and thats what i like.. i hate unpredictability lol[/B][/QUOTE]Amen brotha! Uncertainty in relationships is a super drag! I live by the code: let's define what we are doing and have here so I can act accordingly! How could that be a bad thing? Don't get me wrong, if its the early stages of dating, there's no pressure coming from me to define anything. However, if its a few months in (at least 4 of steady and successful dating), I'd want to know what we were so I'd know if its time to stay or go. ------------------
Gemini Sun
Libra Moon
Gemini Mercury
Cancer Venus
Virgo Mars
Virgo Asc And yes, I'm a guy! IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted February 09, 2013 09:14 AM
^ Sorry for being nosey but aren't you married?  IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted February 09, 2013 09:15 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
haha there wont be any temptation for me
Best wishes.  IP: Logged |
Got Gemini??
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From: The Planet Mercury
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 09, 2013 09:17 AM
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Originally posted by Faith:
^ Sorry for being nosey but aren't you married?
Its okay, I'm recently separated. Married for ten difficult and unhappy years. ------------------
Gemini Sun
Libra Moon
Gemini Mercury
Cancer Venus
Virgo Mars
Virgo Asc And yes, I'm a guy! IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
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posted February 09, 2013 09:18 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
haha there wont be any temptation for me
Whoever manages to snag u eventually will have hit the jackpot
Loyal guys are hard to find.
Oh and OP, the cheating urges comes from moon opposite Venus. It's hard to stay content bc you sway back and forth alot since your emotions completely differ from the way you love and show affection?
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aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 09, 2013 09:20 AM
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Originally posted by Got Gemini??:
Amen brotha! Uncertainty in relationships is a super drag! I live by the code: let's define what we are doing and have here so I can act accordingly! How could that be a bad thing? Don't get me wrong, if its the early stages of dating, there's no pressure coming from me to define anything. However, if its a few months in (at least 4 of steady and successful dating), I'd want to know what we were so I'd know if its time to stay or go.
i especially hate the earliest stages of dating ... i'm wondering" is she gonna flake?, where am i gonna take her?,am i texting too much/too little,is she interested? etc" when i was more inexperienced getting a girls number was an exciting thing, but now i realize getting a number doesnt mean anything... my experience has been that over 60% of girls will flake before the first date. just the other night i got a hot girls number and i havent texted her yet and i'm not excited.. i'm expecting her to flake out on me,is that sad? lol IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 5844
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 09, 2013 09:21 AM
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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Whoever manages to snag u eventually will have hit the jackpot
Loyal guys are hard to find.
Oh and OP, the cheating urges comes from moon opposite Venus. It's hard to stay content bc you sway back and forth alot since your emotions completely differ from the way you love and show affection?
thats also what makes me unattractive to the majority of women my age.. i dont provide the "mystery" IP: Logged |
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