posted February 09, 2013 10:29 PM            

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Originally posted by venuscorpio86:
I like your advice @Padre. It makes so much sense...but then again, we think alike and are on same page etc etc. Maybe I like your advice because I am too stubborn to listen or believe anyone elses cause I am or always want to be RIGHT lol all the men I dated are the problem not me. lol

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Exactly!

We're right, it's the world that is soo messed up.

posted February 09, 2013 11:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Padre35:
well, it's not good, sounds like mentally/emotionally he feels he is losing you and is saying that to ease the blow to his self esteem

Sorry to say that of course, when I've said that in the past it was usually what was on my mind tbvh

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Please do not take that to heart, like VS86, I'm really really bad at relationship stuff so it's a bit like listening to a poor person when it comes to investing

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Despite all our problems and pain he has caused me…I still have a soft spot for him. It was like if he couldn’t have complete control over me or things I did , he couldn’t handled it… well …eventually I left when he got involve with someone else. He also never expressed his feelings towards me I just had to let it go. Expressing feelings are important to me. I do feel sorry because it is a hard life to live like that. But thanks for the feedback.

Thanks,
Hecate

posted February 09, 2013 11:17 PM            

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Originally posted by Hecate:
Despite all our problems and pain he has caused me…I still have a soft spot for him. It was like if he couldn’t have complete control over me or things I did , he couldn’t handled it… well …eventually I left when he got involve with someone else. He also never expressed his feelings towards me I just had to let it go. Expressing feelings are important to me. I do feel sorry because it is a hard life to live like that. But thanks for the feedback.

Thanks,
Hecate

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Goodness, can relate, the woman of my dreams, madly in love with each other asked me one night in a public park

"I love you, do you love me?"

I fumbled the answer, it caught me by surprise..things were never the same afterwards

As much as I loved her..they just weren't

Wounds me to this day tbh

Scorpio placements HATE being put on the spot like that..still though..Love should win out

posted February 09, 2013 11:26 PM            

In love, lots of what I do is undefined. I hate being asked if I love them, or being obligated to respond and stuff. I'll do something out of affection, sure, but then call me out on it, I'll stop doing it forever. I just don't want the attention on me and what I'm doing! Aquarius DC too.

posted February 11, 2013 10:39 PM            

I've yet to actually get a date (never really had the opportunity), but the few crushes I've had have totally bowled me over.

It's kind of a weirdly obsessive thing that hits you really suddenly, sort of like getting hit by a truck, right?

And then it's confusing because I never know what to say so I just kind of avoid them because I always feel like my brain turns to mush and my tongue turns to lead and I feel like I'm embarrassing myself with my stupidity and I don't know how to approach them how I would normally, so I end up a totally anxious, dumb, love-struck mess.

Your Leo Moon probably lends itself to more possessive/controlling/jealous tendencies in combination with the Scorpio Venus. I have a Leo Mars, so I know how that is.

posted February 12, 2013 03:35 AM            

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Originally posted by venuscorpio86:
I don't know about any other venus in Scorps out there, but I absolute LOATHE this placement! I am a Sagittarius; happy go lucky, fun, laid back, all that fun stuff, except when it comes to my love life it's an absolute disaster....I get completely heart broken, I am very temperamental with the men, I am a just awful! I can't control it. In the beginning of the relationship it's great the men adore me, but once problems arise I just can't handle myself it's terrible! I go from hate to liking them again and expect them to forgive my emotional volatile outbursts...if they don't I hate them with very much deep hate...I am not on friendly terms with any ex.

I just want some advice from ppl out there with this, what do you do to control it? I feel if I continue way I do, I will wreck every relationship and always leave myself to be heartbroken, depressed,etc.

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Hey, I have my Venus in Aqua square my Pluto in Scorpio. So I totally understand what you mean, as the square is even worse than the placement alone.

Well my best friend has told me many times, that acting like I used to, makes me look a spoiled brat-drama queen, and the only great way to deal with things, and still be right is to play it cool.

posted February 12, 2013 03:14 PM            

I'm a Sag Sun ViS too! Boy can I relate to saying mean things while angry. In my case, I think this is more connected to all my Fire (Sag stellium, including Mars!). My ViS actually dislikes putting on angry displays.. It's a pride thing... If anything it bugs me to lose composure, preferring to carry on as if I don't care. I'm learning to channel all of this by walking away/taking a break.

Now as for how I love.. With all my heart-soul. It takes a lot and I do mean a lot, to forget and break off from someone I've truly loved. One ex it took me years of tears/agony (in private of course) to finally exorcise out of my system. As I've grown, have become much more mindful of who to share my soul with (this includes platonic friends).

Now I am blessed w a small circle of true friends that I love like sisters, and would do anything to protect/help them if needed. Prefer this much much more than my teen years... Miss popular in midst of a pose of false/superficial friend

posted February 13, 2013 12:21 AM            

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Originally posted by Padre35:
Goodness, can relate, the woman of my dreams, madly in love with each other asked me one night in a public park

"I love you, do you love me?"

I fumbled the answer, it caught me by surprise..things were never the same afterwards

As much as I loved her..they just weren't

Wounds me to this day tbh

Scorpio placements HATE being put on the spot like that..still though..Love should win out

But people, non Scorpios, would never understand that

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I understand all that (my rising sign and moon are in Virgo) and I can and have tolerated a lot, because I thought he was in love with me. But I think what makes the placement difficult , is well…..the pain they can cause the other partner or friend.
I would say work on expressing more love …..not just anger or cutting people off just nice things. Sweet little things can make things go a long way.
In my case the reason things did not end well is because our feelings were not on the same page, he also has an Aries Moon sign so I don’t think it went well with my Moon.
But I think you guys are wonderful just express something loving once I a while…..It will be heaven just express a little bit of love.

posted February 13, 2013 12:54 AM            

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Originally posted by Hecate:
I understand all that (my rising sign and moon are in Virgo) and I can and have tolerated a lot, because I thought he was in love with me. But I think what makes the placement difficult , is well…..the pain they can cause the other partner or friend.
I would say work on expressing more love …..not just anger or cutting people off just nice things. Sweet little things can make things go a long way.
In my case the reason things did not end well is because our feelings were not on the same page, he also has an Aries Moon sign so I don’t think it went well with my Moon.
But I think you guys are wonderful just express something loving once I a while…..It will be heaven just express a little bit of love.

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Thanks for the advice..