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Topic: Need some insight
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BlackPhase
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posted March 06, 2013 07:35 PM
  
So I have this guy friend (about 6 months)who is a few years younger.. who i obviously have developed feelings for. Just sort of randomly started hanging out, getting to know each other. We have only ever hang out alone, so it's hard for me to know how he interacts with others, and no we have not had sex. He seems to like me, and want to spend time together then randomly not talk to me as usual and not even respond when i try to talk to him for no apparent reason. He always comes back as if nothing's up and never says anything about it.. why is this happening?I am Gemini Sun/Scorpio Moon/Scorpio Asc
He is Taurus Sun/Virgo Moon/Sag Asc IP: Logged |
CherryVodka
Knowflake Posts: 47
From: gallia, Ohio ,United States
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted March 06, 2013 07:43 PM
I've got a bad feeling about this guy. IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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From: nevada
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posted March 07, 2013 01:33 AM
Hello BlackPhase! Welcome to LL  ------------------
"For all those who believe, expect a miracle.”
Linda Goodman 1925-1995 IP: Logged |
happyaskings
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From: Dallas, TX, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 02:01 AM
Because he's a jerk. Call him on his crap before it gets worse. Keep your options open and don't expect anything decent out of him...this is how commitment phobic men keep women hooked.IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Knowflake Posts: 920
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 02:10 AM
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Originally posted by BlackPhase:
So I have this guy friend (about 6 months)who is a few years younger.. who i obviously have developed feelings for. Just sort of randomly started hanging out, getting to know each other. We have only ever hang out alone, so it's hard for me to know how he interacts with others, and no we have not had sex. He seems to like me, and want to spend time together then randomly not talk to me as usual and not even respond when i try to talk to him for no apparent reason. He always comes back as if nothing's up and never says anything about it.. why is this happening?I am Gemini Sun/Scorpio Moon/Scorpio Asc
He is Taurus Sun/Virgo Moon/Sag Asc
This is happening because you are letting it happen.When he comes back, don't respond. If he cares about you,you will know,if not he'll leave.
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hannaramaa
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posted March 07, 2013 02:15 AM
Wow, are men always jerks for doing what they want and not doting on the girl? They're just friends at this point! If they had sex and he does this, I would understand the hostility.One, he has a Sag ASC. You have a Gemini Sun which if not by aspect then by sign opposes his ASC. Plus, he is a Taurus Sun. His Sun opposes YOUR ASC! I could be wrong but I'm sure it affects the way you two operate (separately). As females we're used to open communication, okay? We have that against us already when approaching relationships with men but to top it off in your case specifically you have Gemini Sun and Scorpio ASC. I can understand where you're coming from because I have Gemini ASC and Moon opposed Pluto, Pluto in the 5th house. I want to basically be attached to my partner at the hip until I know they love me. Then they can do whatever they want. Gemini's love language (literally) is talking, keeping in touch, conversation. Taurus' love language is food, sex, their needs. Sag ASC tends to (though not always) put themselves first. Taurus also tends to do what they want, when they want. So you're dealing with someone who's very independent and doesn't feel a need to answer to anybody. The upside is as much of a bad rap as Sagittarius gets around here, we must remember he's ruled by Jupiter who in turn governs law and ethics. Surprisingly, Sags have a strong backbone and true loyalty to their friends. One of their needs, in fact, is for their (long-term) lover to be their friend first. So I would say don't fret, just be patient. Assume a more positive state of mind. (Speaking of assuming, Sags/ASC do it all the time. They're just precious that way.)
P.S. His Virgo moon wouldn't say anything about it. One because it's not chafing him, two, Virgo-ish signs aren't comfortable with confrontation.
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happyaskings
Knowflake Posts: 118
From: Dallas, TX, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 02:20 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Wow, are men always jerks for doing what they want and not doting on the girl? They're just friends at this point! If they had sex and he does this, I would understand the hostility.
Ignoring her and then coming back as if nothing has happened is what makes him a jerk. That's not how you treat a friend.
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anonymidarkness
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posted March 07, 2013 02:43 AM
Does he have any personal planets in water house or water signs?Have you asked him why he disappears?
@happyaskings You don’t even know much about the guy and you are already telling her not to expect anything decent from him and calling him a jerk,sounds like you were bitten pretty badly by some “commitment phobic” guy,eh?IP: Logged |
happyaskings
Knowflake Posts: 118
From: Dallas, TX, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 02:48 AM
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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
Does he have any personal planets in water house or water signs?Have you asked him why he disappears?
@happyaskings You don’t even know much about the guy and you are already telling her not to expect anything decent from him and calling him a jerk,sounds like you got bitten pretty badly by some “commitment phobic” guy,eh?
How many threads have we seen here talking about this exact same thing over and over again? This is how it starts. Think about the way she said he has been treating her by ignoring her, does that seem like a nice guy that you should be expecting anything at all out of? I don't see how me telling her not to put up with being treated like that speaks in anyway about my relationships and moreso I don't see how my life is any of your concern. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 07, 2013 02:50 AM
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Originally posted by happyaskings:
Ignoring her and then coming back as if nothing has happened is what makes him a jerk. That's not how you treat a friend.
But we don't know why he's ignoring her. She doesn't even know why he ignored her during those moments. Maybe he is a jerk, I'm not discounting it, I'm merely holding off forming an opinion until more is revealed. Besides, we're supposed to be looking at how they function astrologically anyway not being Dr. Phil. IP: Logged |
peregrine
Knowflake Posts: 1984
From: sand castle
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 02:50 AM
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Originally posted by BlackPhase:
So I have this guy friend (about 6 months)who is a few years younger.. who i obviously have developed feelings for. Just sort of randomly started hanging out, getting to know each other. We have only ever hang out alone, so it's hard for me to know how he interacts with others, and no we have not had sex. He seems to like me, and want to spend time together then randomly not talk to me as usual and not even respond when i try to talk to him for no apparent reason. He always comes back as if nothing's up and never says anything about it.. why is this happening?I am Gemini Sun/Scorpio Moon/Scorpio Asc
He is Taurus Sun/Virgo Moon/Sag Asc
taurus sun. apparently we do this alot. houdini. poof. IP: Logged |
peregrine
Knowflake Posts: 1984
From: sand castle
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 02:53 AM
The Taurus man is like a wild animal that smells an intriguing scent or hears an unfamiliar sound. He cautiously steps to the perimeter of his safety zone to see what’s going on. If there is the possibility of free food, he may even enter new territory. But any perceived threat will send him scurrying off back into the safety of the woods.
As much as Taurus seeks pleasure, he also values security. It’s like one of those childhood games: If you leave your pile of wealth unattended to garner more goods, you risk losing all that you’ve attained. This fixed earth sign is more likely to sit on his treasure than to venture out without some security in place to protect his stash.
And when it comes to relationships, he’s no different. If a man or woman appeals to him, Taurus will put out his feelers, and if he anticipates a threat to his comfort level, he’ll just go back to his cozy spot. So if he disappears on you after expressing interest, he’s not playing mind games with you … he’s just feeling hesitant. He’s worked too hard at building his nest to throw it all away on someone who gives off a funny smell.
If you want to retain the interest of a Taurus man who’s retreated back into the woods, find a way to reassure him that you’re not a predator. To prove that you’re not looking to take anything away from him, the easiest thing you can do is give. Place an offering at the edge of the woods, and let him tentatively come to it, and make sure it’s not poisonous. If he eats it, he’ll come back for seconds.IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted March 07, 2013 02:58 AM
Virgo moon maybe the culprit here,they are good at criticising but I’ve noticed that they don’t really like being confronted,kinda weird.IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted March 07, 2013 02:59 AM
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Jessica2407
Knowflake Posts: 920
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posted March 07, 2013 03:13 AM
^^am dealing with one such kind for like months now. Not very sure of his TOB, so he is either scorp rising or taurus rising. Am leaning towards scorp rising though.I believe you are right, they don't like to venture too far away from their comfort zone. You need to gain their trust in order to gain access to their comfort zone. I know all this and I can understand it. But am a tad tired of hearing how women HAVE to understand the insecurities of MEN all the time. We ALL have our insecurities to deal with, but we don't ALL go ignoring people and then make as if nothing has happened. Am sure he is not doing that sheet to everyone he knows.We have a thread on 'insensitivity' already, so I think you need to at least think of the feelings of other person when we do something wrong like ignoring someone. Am not saying he is to no good, or he is not a good person. May be he wants to know if you care about him enough to notice when he ignores you. I don't know. But this attitude obviously is causing you some angst, you need to talk it out with him. And yes, i agree with Happy, he is acting like a jerk.By talking it out, I don't mean literally, taurus folks are too stubborn to accept their mistakes, so you have to make him feel how it felt when he ignored you. IP: Logged |
BlackPhase
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posted March 07, 2013 08:42 AM
Well thank you everyone. I like to hear what you all think! To elaborate.. I never say anything to him about it because as far i have let him aware, we are just friends.. but he would have to be completely oblivious to not know that i have some feelings, i am not a complete stone wall. haha and i have been to his house and introduced to his family. The last time we hung out he totally blew me away with some of the conversation topics he brought up, always seemed very shy and intimidated by me, ( likely cause i am 4 years older and have scorpio..) but i try to be friendly and make it easy for him to open up. Also, after the last time we hung out he was wanting me to come over again the very next day and more often than usual.. i got sick and didn't hang out cause i didnt want to pass it on, he seemed to ignore me for awhile after that.. would hope he wasn't feeling like i was avoiding him, told him i was sick? I have just been nervous to question him since i don't feel i am in a position yet that he really has to answer to me and i don't want to scare him off for good..IP: Logged |
BlackPhase
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posted March 07, 2013 08:52 AM
This is just bothering me so much because i am someone who can read a person from a mile away, and his mysteriousness is completely intriguing me, i just don't get this guy. He is so different form anyone else i can't just forget.. i have tried, then he always reappears and makes me rethink everything!IP: Logged |
12thhouser
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posted March 07, 2013 09:00 AM
Please post the charts--synastry if possible. Otherwise, any insights will be very limited.IP: Logged |
BlackPhase
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posted March 07, 2013 09:10 AM
Would you possibly be able to direct me to the best place to get such charts. I only know his date of birth not the time, don't know if that makes a difference.. but i figured it would?IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted March 07, 2013 09:11 AM
Tell us his mars,venus and mercury signs.IP: Logged |
12thhouser
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posted March 07, 2013 09:29 AM
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Originally posted by BlackPhase:
Would you possibly be able to direct me to the best place to get such charts. I only know his date of birth not the time, don't know if that makes a difference.. but i figured it would?
astro.com >> enter your birth info and his (for the time, enter 12 noon) >> click on Extended Chart Selection >> select "Synastry Chart" from the first drop down menu. >> Click on the chart itself, then you can copy and paste that link here. IP: Logged |
BlackPhase
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posted March 07, 2013 08:14 PM
http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_61gw_01_02_sybil_olof.4154.13434.gif&res=100&va=&cid=hy3file69GY6b-u1362703657 Do you happen to know a good spot that explains how to accurately read birth charts and other charts? IP: Logged |
hikoro
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posted March 07, 2013 08:24 PM
meh....
i may be biased but here it goes...he has virgo moon, venus in aries and mars in leo. i will tell you this, too much work for you.
he is the king and you the knight in shining armor....get what i mean?
find yourself someone who is more likely to do 50/50, that is, someone who will cater to you and you shall cater to. IP: Logged |
CherryVodka
Knowflake Posts: 47
From: gallia, Ohio ,United States
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted March 07, 2013 08:27 PM
Lets not turn this thread into another sidetracked nightmare lol. I think we should start asking people how old they are, I really think it matters (in my opinion). IP: Logged |
hikoro
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posted March 07, 2013 08:30 PM
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Originally posted by CherryVodka:
Lets not turn this thread into another sidetracked nightmare lol. I think we should start asking people how old they are, I really think it matters (in my opinion).
for you...it certainly does
since you bring age more often than not, and you have the notion that older is wiser, indirectly. however, ive been in this board for years and i can tell you that that attitude has been demonstrated by men and women alike of all ages, from teens to people in their 40s... when you have the time, take a look at the section of 'soul unions'....
no gender/sex or age group has a copyright on funky behavior in relationships. IP: Logged |
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